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The user's comments demonstrate:
- Personal, nuanced reflection on their own desistance and the ideology surrounding transition.
- Consistent, developed arguments over a multi-year period, not just repetitive slogans.
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About me
I felt immense pressure as a teenager to transition immediately to fix my problems. I realized I could cut my hair, wear boyish clothes, and even use male pronouns in my head while still being a woman. That understanding freed me from feeling like I needed to change my body or identity. I now see the science I was shown as flawed ideology, not fact. I'm just glad I found myself without making any permanent changes.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager, caught up in the intense online pressure that if I didn't transition immediately, I’d never pass and my life would be ruined. I saw these threatening ideas everywhere, like "better a live daughter than a dead son," and it really messed with my head. I believed for a while that transitioning would fix all my underlying mental health and social problems. I never actually transitioned socially or medically; I desisted before I got to that point.
What really pulled me out of it was slowly piecing together the logic of the ideas being pushed. I realised that if a man can wear a dress and still be a man, then I, as a female, could prefer to have a male name, cut my hair short, wear boyish clothes, and use "he" pronouns without having to medically transition or even socially come out. I could just prefer these things in my own head and still be a woman. That realisation was incredibly freeing. I didn't have to sterilise myself, I didn't have to come out to therapists, and I didn't have to worry about changing my mind later. I could just be me.
I came to see that a lot of the "trans science" wasn't real science at all, but scientism that just agreed with a pre-existing ideology. The whole narrative around "trans kids" felt like a stock story people were sold: that you give a child a "life-saving" diagnosis, put them on puberty blockers to "pause" things, and then they’ll seamlessly become the opposite sex. But that ignores the fact that blockers have permanent effects and almost everyone on them goes on to transition. It’s not informed consent.
I think a huge number of young people who get into trans identity politics end up believing they're trans or non-binary because it's the logical conclusion of the ideology they're immersed in. It’s not necessarily a "mass hysteria," but if your entire friend group believes you can change your gender, it’s natural you’d start to think you should change yours too.
Looking back, I don't believe you can change your gender or sex. I think the whole framework is flawed. I have no regrets about my transition because I never physically transitioned, but I do regret the time and mental energy I spent ruminating on it. I'm glad I found a way to understand myself without needing to alter my body or identity.
Age | Event |
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16 | Began intensely researching transition online, pressured by ideas that it was a cure-all for mental health issues and that I had to start immediately. |
17 | Started to desist after realising I could embody any traits I wanted without changing my identity or body. |
18 | Fully came to the conclusion that I could prefer male pronouns and presentation while still being female, ending my period of questioning. |
Top Comments by /u/NearInWaiting:
That definitely is a strange post... They're more or less saying that more females should go on T so they can have body positivity... Because not wanting certain effects of T is "body negativity"? The idea that body negativity applies to a hypothetical body that you don't currently have is pretty ridiculous, as well as the idea that you should learn to accept that body type (eg, hairier) by changing your body and taking T.
I feel about "period envy" the same way I feel about people saying they're jealous of women who've been raped or sexually harassed. I don't think having those feelings makes you a bad person, but the oppression olympics element of claiming your oppressed because of your lack of a stigmatised biological fuction/claiming your oppressed because you're too ugly to be raped is just heinously out of touch.
I think trans people are overrepresented on the left because any conversation about negatives of puberty blockers, hormones and surgery is actively shut down, also there's no expectation to pass, you could have a beard but so long as your pronouns are she, you can be a trans women, whereas on the right, eg, blaire white, you have to attempt to or successfully pass to be an 'honorary woman'.
Many people believe that this case proves that "Gender identity" does exist because Reimer rejected being a girl due to his inner gender identity. Radical feminists and conservative people believe that this case disproves the theory of "Gender identity". What do you think about the David Reimer case?
If David rejected the concept of being a girl, people will say, "look, this proves he has a male gender identity, gender ideology is right". And if David accepted the concept of being a girl people will say "look, he has a female gender identity, gender ideology is right".
It seems to me that a lot of teens and young adults who identity as trans are getting 'gender affirming' surgery for a lot of motivations, including still being on their parents insurance, or still being young enough that their parents will pay for it.
The same way trans ideology has smuggled "watching and waiting" into the literal first step of the idyllic child transition; puberty blockers, TRAs smuggle the "watching and waiting" for surgery into initial surgical consults. After this point, it will require the child/teen to say "no" to change their mind, which takes a lot more psychologically than saying yes. Just put yourself in the shoes of a child, perhaps your in the room with just the surgeon, or your surgeon and a parent, you know your parents will be paying for the surgery since they let you come here, now imagine you're saying no to the surgeon. Surgical consults are the first step towards surgery.
Trans children are a "stock narrative". People are sold this idea that you give a child the "life saving" diagnosis/identity that they are trans, then you "pause" their puberty using "puberty blockers" giving them "time to decide if they're a boy or a girl", and then help them transition (ignoring the fact something like 98% of those who take blockers will transition and that these blockers have permanent side effects). And of course the child can experience the joy of attempting to keep their transition secret, perhaps changing schools, perhaps they will have to make up a lie explaining why they don't know much about menstruation. And when you're done, the mtf teenager is as close to female as a male could ever be, they are the "perfect" transsexual, passing, living out their school years as "a girl", doing romanticised 'girlhood' things like sleepovers and makeup, and ready for the final surgery (which doctors prefer to do mtf srs on people still in school since they have more time for the dilation). People want to project this narrative onto their children or other peoples children. People are deluding themselves into believing they're saving their childrens lives.
Trans allies reject the claim trans identity is a disease while at the same time pushing the idea you need "early intervention to save lives" (something which tends to only apply to diseases)... And this "cure" is never questioned whatsoever even though society treats gender dysphoria as a disease. Why have the establishments collectively decided that there are no problems with this 'stock narrative' cure? Why are all three steps, childhood diagnosis, blockers then hormones necessary if "happy trans adults" exist? If the children had informed consent, they would go straight to hormones or not take blockers at all, what benefit is there to having to sequentially take two different sterilising drugs and experiencing the side effects of both, when you really only want the aesthetic effects of the second? And what about the effects lupron has on the body height in females? Why is this "stock narrative" supposed to apply to both females and males equally? If this stock narrative/cure had orginally been intended for females, wouldn't growth hormones be a core part so you can pass as male better?
IMO, I think 60-90% of people who believe in transgender identity politics (not 'live and let live' people, but people seriously believe that you can change your sex and that everyone has to discover which gender and pronouns is 'right for them'), especially younger people, will come to the conclusion that they're trans or non-binary. There's no trend or mass hysteria working its way through friend groups in schools, instead some friend groups who all have the same ideology, who happen to all believe you can change your gender/sex, naturally come to the conclusion that they can/should change theirs.
PS there are 0 studies proving AGP is real. In fact, it's an unfalsifiable theory that can't be proven. It might as well be a religion.
How the heck is AGP unfalsifiable? First you have to separate the two claims, a) that mtfs can be categorised int AGP and HSTS and b) that some mtf transexuals experience a sexual paraphilia around the idea of female or becoming female. While I think there could be strong arguments against A, I don't really think there's any argument against B... Its just obviously true, obviously some people have sex fetishes, and in this day and age, more and more people act these fetishes out.
Plenty of people who transitioned or detransitioned identify as AGP, so if you accept the claim that some people can be trans because they identify as trans, then you should except that some people are agp because they identify as such.
I go with scientific consensus, not what my feefees tell me.
That's a bit rich. I'd like to see what scientific consensus looks like when trans science stops being biased, it seems to be comparable to tabacco-funded research on the effects of cigarettes as of now.
Noticeable incongruence between the gender that the patient sees themselves are, and what their classified gender assignment
An intense need to do away with his or her primary or secondary sex features (or, in the case of young teenagers, to avert the maturity of the likely secondary features)
An intense desire to have the primary or secondary sex features of the other gender A deep desire to transform into another gender ... (abridged)
While you can sit around defining gender dysphoria to satisfy whatever transmedicalist allies you keep, the assumption genital reassignment surgeries cure/abate 'true gender dysphoria' is still unfounded.
they would likely have had weak chins, tiny jaws, narrow shoulders, and would’ve been 5’6 or 5’7.
I'm tired of this "FTMs wish they were gigachads" thing TRAs and apparantly detransitioners like to pull. No, the ftm, on average, wants to look exactly like what you just said, normal female jaws, normal female shoulders, moderately tall for a female, with a full head of hair, except with no tits and a typical male waist to hip ratio. And many FTMs, especially the "trenders" are likely planning on stopping T once hair loss begins. They don't come out of transition looking like incel males, they come out looking like females on testosterone.