Yes, this is AGP. Solution: Don't transition and stop watching so much porn. You don't have to feel so bad about it, you aren't harming anyone but yourself when you indulge these thoughts. It's good that you are this self-aware and not attached to the trans identity, and you haven't even medically transitioned yet. Get out early, if you have this much doubt and shame now, it will only increase if you actually go through with transitioning.

I think a lot of trans people have these traits because narcissism is driven by severe insecurity, and insecure people are more likely to think they're the wrong gender.

Also I imagine its partly due to their perception of womanhood. Some people really glorify the 'mean girl' archetype, and it makes sense that someone who by default will always feel excluded from womanhood would want to take on this powerful, doesn't care, 'bitchy' persona. Its the same reason some MtFs sometimes become frat bro-ish misogynistic guys who dislike feminine presenting trans men.

It's funny, this sub is frequently accused of being a bunch of transphobes LARPing detransition to push an agenda, meanwhile that is what 'actual' detrans is clearly doing.

I take solace in the fact that they are actively living in delusion, and even if they fake questioning to try and argue their point, they will inevitably one day have real doubts, if they don't already have them. They can make fake personas to try and argue with us on reddit, but at the end of the day, they are still living a lie and that will eat away at you subconsciously. If they were as correct as they feel they are, they wouldn't need to lie or bait to try and make their point, people confident in their decision to transition don't feel the need to do this.

It is frustrating and demoralizing, though, having the only honest detrans community on reddit constantly filled with people who only want to make bad-faith arguments. Its so strange to pretend to be a person in crisis seeking help just so you can try and argue with other traumatized people, but in the end that is their moral burden to carry, and when their trans identity crumbles they will see how dumb they've been. These aren't rational people doing this, they are very insecure and trying to uphold a lie, which I sympathize with having been there. It's frustrating, but more than anything it just makes me pity them.

Well, the topic is very underresearched and all the studies claiming a sub 1% regret rate are faulty, but it is still cited as if it is something we know for sure.

The WPATH files has a section about a "suspiciously low regret rate" which sounds kinda strange and made up but when you read it totally makes sense and summarizes how I feel about trans regret

"When more people regret knee replacement surgery than penis amputation, or more women regret undergoing prophylactic mastectomies for breast cancer risk than gender-affirming mastectomies, these surprising outcomes should raise red flags in a medical orginization dedicated to scientific truth"

(From page 32 of https://environmentalprogress.org/big-news/wpath-files, I recommend reading the rest of that section as well as the whole report if you have time)

The shoddy data that we have does suggest a low regret rate, but why would this regret rate be so much lower than procedures universally accepted to be medically necessary? Trans surgeries are more experimental and have worser outcomes than knee replacement or prophylactic mastectomy, but they are also regretted less? At the very least there should be a regret rate consistent with these other procedures, if not higher due to its experimental nature. The regret rate for having your arm flesh attached in a manner that resembles a penis is lower than getting a knee replacement? That doesn't add up.

But even so, I don't think this needs to be a fully researched thing to take an opinion against it, as it doesn't make sense why so many humans would NEED to have their body physically altered in an purely aesthetic way just to alleviate dysphoria. There is something called BIID, where people have limb related dysphoria and often seek out voluntary limb amputation to alleviate this. This occured more in the early 2000s than now, but there are people who got unnecessary limb amputation and claimed afterwards to be doing better. Should we really trust what this person is saying, though? Doesn't it make so much more sense that this person is just deeply mentally ill, rather than needed a limb amputation to fit their self image? And that, post surgery, they probably arent in any way better than before, but they might present themselves as being better now so as to appear consistent with what they were saying before? BIID never really took off because it is hard to get the procedure done, as most people can see how retarded that is without needing to study it, but transitioning has been made widely available and thus our rates have skyrocketed.

People want to believe what other people are saying, but unfortunately sometimes people lie. And maybe it isnt even a malicious lie, I imagine that for many of these people their denial is so deep they wont even allow themselves to acklowedge the regret they are experiencing, so they just spiral further into mania.

If I expressed my desire to kill myself over racial dysphoria, and expressed only happiness post skin darkening and nose widening surgery, would that be enough for you to believe that racial dysphoria should be treated through race transition? What if I had a group of 200 likeminded people doing the same? Would you always believe that it is wrong, even if it became popular and accesible and weak research suggested it was beneficial?

Yes and you will see that the same thing does not exist for MtFs, but there is fetish content of males being forcibly transitioned/feminized. People often view womanhood as a lesser and humiliating thing to be, so it makes sense that women who are trying to escape patriarchy through transition get off on the idea of being forced into being a woman, and men who feel inadequate get off of the idea of being forced into a womans role. Its a kind of degradation kink, really, because they view women as lesser to men and so becoming one (or being forced to acklowedge that you are one) is degrading and you can use that pain for some short term pleasure, at the expense of your self esteem of course.

All transgenderism does is reinforce gender roles and patriarchy.

I think all trans people are misogynistic narcissists, but yeah I can agree that AGPs are the biggest offenders. It's male psychology and socialization portraying their perception of womanhood. Men are more competitive, aggressive, conservative, hierarchal and are less agreeable than women. No amount of HRT and makeovers will change the way your brain works, so this will always shine through.

To see women as lesser and also see yourself as a woman (when you're not) demonstrates really low self worth, these people are probably the least secure population so it makes sense they are reactive and defensive when met with any questioning or criticism (or even just perceived criticism). This is why AGPs are the most likely to have public meltdowns for misgendering or yell at you on Twitter because you're detransitioning.

Most straight cis men aren't as bad imo because even if they view women as lesser, they likely still respect the many roles women can fill that men cannot, like a lesser but necessary counterpart. If you don't view womanhood as a biological category, but an aesthetic and a sexuality, it makes sense you will have less respect for women. If being a woman is just wearing dresses and getting fucked, and I am a jaded antinatalist who doesn't value reproduction, then of course I will lack respect for women.

I totally get this as a man who is more feminine than most guys. However, if your issue is that you dont 'pass' the most surefire way to achieve that is through presenting how the rest of your gender does. I understand that may be frustrating if you want to be more masc but still want to pass, but if you look androgynous and present masc a lot of people are going to assume you to be queer or FtM. Which isn't to say that you need to be feminine, but you should manage your expectations of how people will percieve you. You know you are a woman and that'll have to suffice. I don't agree that the advice you recieved is harmful because for most people it would be applicable, but if you are that averse to femininity in yourself (which again is totally fine and your call) then you might need to get more comfortable with not passing (again as I said in your original post I definetly read you as a natal female but you do look more like you identify as FtM)

Because roughly half the country will vote for him and he is one of our 2 only options. Much like the general populace, detransitioners are politically diverse so some may be conservatives and support Trump. The only detransitioners who are given a platform are those on the right, as the left would like to largely ignore that problem.

YES OMG I was literally going to make a post about this the other day to see if anyone notices this. So many 'questioners' who arent really questioning and just want a forum where they can argue their point. And its so clear when that is the case, so it confuses me why they even do it. Like they will come saying they want help only to shoot down everything anyone suggests and insist that they just have to transition. Okay?? Then do it and stfu, well see you in a few years when the regret actually starts kicking in and you dont have to fake it anymore