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The user demonstrates a consistent, nuanced, and passionate perspective focused on the material oppression of biological females and criticism of patriarchal gender roles. The arguments are complex, self-referential, and show a deep personal engagement with the topic, which is not typical of automated or troll accounts. The tone is angry and frustrated, which aligns with the experience of a genuine detransitioner or desister.
About me
I'm a woman who started questioning my identity because I felt trapped by sexist stereotypes about being female. I explored being non-binary and even thought I might be a trans man, largely influenced by online communities. I realized my discomfort wasn't with my body but with the misogynistic idea that being a woman meant being weak or submissive. I saw how the ideology was rooted in harmful stereotypes and ignored the reality of biological sex. Now, I've detransitioned and understand that I can be a female who defies gender roles without changing who I am.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started from a place of deep confusion, but looking back, I see it was tangled up with a lot of other issues. I never felt like I fit in, especially with what society expected of me as a female. I hated my breasts when they developed; they felt like a betrayal, a sign of a womanhood I wanted no part of. I think a lot of this was internalized misogyny. I saw being a woman as being weak, irrational, and submissive, and I wanted to escape that. I didn't want to be seen as a "bimbo" or a housewife.
I started identifying as non-binary first. It felt like a way out. If you like both things that are considered masculine and feminine, like carpentry and cooking, the logic seemed to be that you must be non-binary. It was an escape from the box I felt trapped in. I was also influenced by what I saw online, especially in certain communities where people talked about their transitions. I think I was also struggling with low self-esteem and depression, and transitioning felt like a solution, a way to become someone new.
For a while, I even thought I might be a trans man. I remember thinking, "what if this is all wrong and i really am a man and not a lesbian?" But then I realized that was a dead end. There's no magical "male brain" or "female brain" that you can be born with by mistake. The science shows our brains overlap. The idea that you need to have a brain that matches some stereotype to be your true self is just sexism.
A huge turning point for me was realizing how much sissy porn and other similar material had influenced me. I read quotes from people like Andrea Long Chu who said things like "sissy porn did make me trans" and described femaleness as "an open mouth, an expectant asshole." I saw other people online saying they were on "bimbo pills" (referring to estrogen) and that they were women because they wanted to be submissive. This is hate speech. It’s male supremacism disguised as identity. It distills being a woman down to being a victim, to being blank and stupid. I realized I had absorbed these ideas without even knowing it. I never heard actual females talk about their identity this way. You don't see trans men saying they are men because they are violent and rapey. The whole thing is based on harmful, patriarchal stereotypes.
I started to understand that biological sex is real and that females are an oppressed demographic globally. Girls are denied education, forced into marriages, and treated as property because of their bodies. That's not an identity you can opt into or out of. To see people treat this serious, life-long oppression as a fun costume or a sexual fetish made me angry. Arguing that biological sex shouldn't matter is like saying we should be "sex blind." But that's as harmful as being "color blind"—it just ignores real oppression. Women have fought for the right to vote, to study, to drive. These rights are still not secure everywhere. We need to be able to talk about biological sex to protect people from discrimination based on it.
I never went as far as taking hormones or having surgery. I'm grateful for that now. My detransition was a social and mental process of untangling all these thoughts. I don't regret exploring my identity because it led me to a stronger understanding of myself and the world. But I regret buying into an ideology that is, at its core, sexist and anti-scientific. I'm a woman, not because I'm irrational or submissive, but because I am an adult human female. I can be rational, good at math, and love carpentry, and that doesn't make me any less of a woman. It just makes me me.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my thoughts and realizations:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Around 12-13 | Started puberty, felt intense discomfort and hated my developing breasts. Felt trapped by expectations of femininity. |
| Late Teens | Discovered online trans communities and non-binary identities. Began identifying as non-binary as an escape from womanhood. Influenced by what I read online. |
| Early 20s | Seriously questioned if I was a trans man, grappling with the thought of being "a man and not a lesbian." |
| Mid 20s | Realized the concept of "opposite sex brains" was flawed science and based on stereotypes. Began critically examining the ideology I had adopted. |
| Mid 20s | Exposed to writings about autogynephilia and the role of sissy porn in motivating some transitions. Understood how internalized misogyny and patriarchal stereotypes had influenced my own feelings. |
| Now (Mid-Late 20s) | Detransitioned socially and mentally. Recognized that my discomfort was with sexist stereotypes, not my body. Accepted myself as a female who can defy gender roles without changing my identity. |
Top Comments by /u/NettleOwl:
"getting fucked makes you female because fucked is what a female is"
"distilling femaleness to it's barest essentials - an open mouth, an expectant asshole, blank, blank eyes"
[sissy porn instruct viewers to ]"brain-melting, dumbing down, and other methods for scooping out intelligence"
"sissy porn did make me trans"
All above are quotes from Pulitzer Prize winning author Andrea Long Chu.
Other people say things like: "i'm getting bimbo pills by the state" (referring to estrogen), that they are women because they wan't to be a submissive housewife and serve their man...
This is hate speech against females, it is male supremacism, and calling that out is not hate.
(Ps. I have yet to see a trans man say "I'm a man because I'm violent and rapey", because they don't say such things, do they)
Well, perhaps she is a rational thinker, good at math, and likes doing carpentry?
If people can opt into womanhood by saying "I'm a woman because I'm irrational, I'm getting bimbo pills from the state, I should be a housewife and be obedient to my husband as is a woman's place, teehee my little female brain," tripping over their own feet like Dylan Mulvaney, then of course other people are going to want out of womanhood, if that's what womanhood is.
Non-binary means identifying both with things traditionally considered feminine and with things traditionally considered masculine, so if you like both cooking and carpentry, and like to wear both trosers and dresses, voila, you're non-binary.
If you accept trans ideology, you can't blame people for following the ideology's rules, even if the entire ideology is sexism based.
This is utter bullshit.
Men have had the most power for millenia, while women have been treated like property, been traded between men, lacked the possibility to make decisions about their lives, been blocked from inheriting, voting, studying, driving, walking alone in the street and leaving the country without male permission in some parts of the world, been seen as brood mares and then shunned if they failed to produce an heir.
This whole "women have it better, men are the oppressed group" is a carbon copy of white lives matter. You clearly have been hanging in male supremacist forums which are little better than white power forums.
I think part of it is because of which stereotypes are pushed, and part of it is because power inbalance between sexes, and how patriarchal gender roles are embraced by some trans people.
If trans men were all over media saying "I'm a man because I'm violent, oppressive, unempathetic, and have poor reading comprehension", men might not like it.
If trans men said "I'm a man because I'm irrational, submissive, and bad at math. I should be a stay at home husband and be obedient to my wife, as is a man's natural place", men might not like that either.
Women's rights are threathened by not getting to organize against oppression based on biological sex, in ways that men's rights are not threathened. Let's not forget that afabs didn't get to vote or inherit, and how afab children can't go to school in some parts of the world. So people can be oppressed because of biological sex, but biological sex shouldn't be recognozed as a discrimination ground? Biological sex oppresion is real, and trying to define "woman' as "person who is irrational, submissive, and does femininity" is backwards and patriarchal.
Part of what I wanted to say with this post is how science is presented as having stronger (and other) findings than it really has. A rather weak finding gets a headline meant to point in the desired direction and make the finding seem stronger than it is ("shifted towards Gender Identity" instead of "closer to gender at birth"). Then people, media, politicians who only read the headline use these kinds of studies to claim that science supports that people are born with scientifically proven opposite sex brains.
Better to gently keep calling him a boy I think, but teach him that there are no toys or colors that are just for girls or just for boys. Try to find more gender neutral stuff. Downplay gender roles.
It's sad how extremely gendered toys and clothes are nowadays. It seems back in the 1970s or 1980s not every single thing (T-shirts, bags, Lego...) had to be so extremely gendered that they are today.
Trading of women happened in Europe too, read your history.
You are simplifying how men got to vote extremely. The right to vote was won incrementally for different groups over a few hundred years, with some areas being more progressive than others. And then you seem to imply that women didn't deserve the right to vote?
Now I won't waste any more time arguing with a male supremacist / white supremacist in a basement. Goodbye.
I think you should tell them that you would find it easier to move on if everyone just forgot about it and didn't mention it again. It's not worth suffering their jokes in silence for years if they don't even realise that they're hurting you. That being said, all parents are different and will react differently.
It's really selfish of your parent to try to ban you from telling the rest of your family. I guess the parent is just afraid of getting backlash. I also don't think its the parent's right to ban you from talking. YOUR relationship to your other relatives is YOUR relationship to them.
This kind of attitude sweeps the fact that biological females are an oppressed demographic under the rug.
Biological females living under oppressive regimes and under strict gender role enforcement are oppressed since childhood based on how their bodies looked at birth. Girls are seen as worth less than their brothers. The right to study, vote and drive have had to be fought for and are still not in place everywhere. In some places women cannot be depicted in media, and in some places they cannot leave the country without permission from a male relative.
Opting into womanhood because you say you are irrational or submissive is not the same as being oppressed since childhood because of how your body looked at birth.