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About me
I was born female and my discomfort with puberty made me believe I was meant to be a man, a feeling that was heavily encouraged in online communities I joined. I took testosterone and had surgery to remove my breasts, convinced it was the only way to be happy. I now see my feelings were rooted in anxiety, depression, and internalized homophobia, not a true male identity. I deeply regret the permanent changes to my body and losing my fertility. I'm finally healing by confronting my real mental health issues instead of blaming my female body.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this is complicated, and it's taken me a long time to untangle my own thoughts from what I was told to believe. Looking back, I think my desire to transition was rooted in a lot of confusion and pain, not in a true understanding of who I am.
I was born female, but I never felt like I fit in with other girls, especially when puberty started. I hated the changes in my body, particularly developing breasts. It felt like my body was betraying me, becoming something foreign that I didn't want or recognize. This discomfort with puberty was a huge part of it. I now believe this was a mix of body dysmorphia and the general anxiety that came with growing up, not a sign that I was meant to be a man.
A lot of my ideas about gender were shaped and influenced online. I spent a huge amount of time in certain communities where these ideas were celebrated, and it felt like an answer to all my problems. It was a form of escapism from my depression and low self-esteem. I started identifying as non-binary first, which felt like a less scary step, but the goalposts kept moving. The people I talked to and the things I read online made it seem like medical transition was the logical and necessary conclusion to be truly happy.
I also struggled with my sexuality. I now realize I was dealing with a lot of internalized homophobia. The idea of being a lesbian was uncomfortable for me back then; it felt easier to think of myself as a straight man trapped in a woman's body than to accept being a gay woman. This, combined with a porn problem, warped my view of my own body and what intimacy should be.
I did take testosterone for a period of time. I got top surgery and permanently removed my breasts. I can't have children anymore. At the time, I was convinced this was what I needed to finally feel whole. But after a while, the initial high wore off, and I was left with the same underlying issues—the depression, the anxiety, the feeling of not being good enough—now compounded by the permanent changes I had made to my body.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I don't believe someone born male can become a woman, or vice versa. I think womanhood is something intrinsic and biological, tied to our very DNA. It’s not just a feeling or a social role. Exceptions like intersex people exist, but they don't change the fundamental reality for the overwhelming majority of people. Social transition might change how people treat you, but it doesn't change what you are.
I have significant regrets about my transition. I regret the permanent damage I did to my body, especially losing my fertility. I regret not dealing with my mental health issues—my anxiety, my depression, my self-esteem—directly, instead of blaming everything on being born in the wrong body. I was influenced by online circles and didn't get the right kind of help. I needed therapy that addressed my root problems, not therapy that just affirmed my confused thoughts.
I benefited from stepping away from that affirming model. I needed someone to challenge me, to help me ask why I felt the way I did, not just tell me to follow those feelings off a cliff. I had to confront my trauma and my own internalized issues. That was the real path to getting better, not hormones or surgery.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 12 | Started puberty; began to feel intense discomfort with my body and hated my developing breasts. |
| 17 | Spent increasing time online; influenced by trans communities; began to identify as non-binary. |
| 19 | Started socially identifying as a man. |
| 21 | Began taking testosterone. |
| 23 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 25 | Stopped taking testosterone; began the process of detransitioning. |
| 26 | Came to accept my identity as a female and began to deal with underlying mental health issues. |
Top Comments by /u/New-Examination8400:
That’d be where the comparison ends.
In fact OP’s comparison is really only usable in their argument. They got a little confused with the rap/hip hop mixup but yeah, no, trans “women” do not bring a positive impact on… Womanhood.
Name three things. Name two things. Anything.
Anything biological women can’t do for womanhood already.
Being a real woman isn’t just being able to bear children. There are real women out there who can’t do that, yet they are still “real women”.
I’m not trying to have a “gotcha” moment with you on this, in fact I’d like to believe you know being a woman goes way beyond being able to be pregnant; my point is, there’s no such thing as transitioning, really. Not biologically speaking.
Socially? Yeah, maybe. But a woman isn’t just what you see or hear. It’s intrinsic. It’s genetic. It’s not refuted by the existence of intersex people, rather it’s further compounded as true by their existence.
Stg I forget what a lot of them mean, and there are too many that I don’t even know - and good for me that I don’t.
When I read “afab” my first brain association is “a fab-ulous person”, not “assigned female at birth”, 😂🫠 It’s all sooooooo stupid
You’re assigned what you are, and in over 99% of cases it’s done accurately all over the world. Minute exceptions exist, are “”valid””, yet in no way change THAT fact.
Again, I’m screaming but not at you OP 😅
You were never a woman. You are not a woman.
At least as far as I know from what you’ve relayed.
No Homo Sapiens Sapiens man can become a “ “ “ woman, nor vice-versa. Not naturally, and if scientifically possible, that’ll be quite a dystopian future.
Not at all, and I had a strong hunch either you or someone would view it like that.
It’s you, in the same sentence or paragraph, mentioning hearing voices coming from people as if angels where talking to you whilst describing how you masturbated so as to feel more similarly to a woman.
It’s the juxtaposition. It’s the contradiction. It’s a whole lot going on in your head that’s concerning.
I don’t say this as a Christian, but: Christianity isn’t just hearing angels and believing in Jesus. You can’t have your cake and eat it too. You need to understand the difference between what you THINK you are and what you ACTUALLY are, in more than one facet (religious, spiritual, sexual).
Again, not saying this as a Christian, but I know things “have rules”, and you can’t pick and choose what it is to you - you can’t pick and choose what being a woman is to you, nor what a Christian is to you.
Needless to say hearing voices amidst your other conditions suggests hallucinatory behaviour.
You can’t say “being a woman” is what defines womanhood. That’s saying water is water. You’re not explaining what makes it it.
It’s a cop-out. Not “many women” can’t get pregnant, nor “many” don’t want to. You have to remember just how many women exist in the world. It’s not just the people you know or the people you read about in your highly curated internet circles/circlejerks.
Statistically speaking, the vast vast vast majority of women of fertile age can get pregnant and do want to be mothers. It is what it is. Considering there are billions of fertile-aged women in the planet.
You completely missed my argument’s points. Entirely.
Where did I say masturbation is so and so according to Christianity? You’re putting words in my “mouth”, words you’d expect someone to say, but they aren’t what I’m saying.
You really think transgenderism is compatible with Christianity in any way, shape or form?
You do you, but don’t pretend you’re this and that. You’re adjusting and moving the goalposts of womanhood and Christianity to make yourself fit inside, but you don’t fit. Not like this - and regarding womanhood, not ever.