This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, the account does not appear authentic and shows serious red flags.
The primary red flag is a direct contradiction. In one comment, the user explicitly states, "I'M NOT (DE)TRANS" (2020-04-30). This directly conflicts with the premise of analyzing them as a detransitioner/desister.
Other red flags include:
- Inconsistent Role-Playing: They switch between speaking from personal experience ("from experience" on 2020-04-26) and explicitly stating they are an outsider ("I'm not detrans myself" on 2020-08-19).
- Focus on Meta-Drama: Several comments are focused on subreddit rules, moderation, and potential bans, which is common behavior for inauthentic accounts trying to influence community dynamics.
The evidence strongly suggests this is an outsider role-playing or soap-boxing, not a genuine detransitioner or desister.
About me
I started feeling a deep discomfort with my developing female body around age twelve and hated the changes of puberty. I later had laser hair removal, a permanent change I encouraged others to do but now regret. My real turning point was learning to accept my body, which was a difficult but incredibly rewarding journey. I regained the confidence I felt I had lost and now see my discomfort was about puberty, not being male. I am thankful I never took hormones or had surgery and believe the healthiest path is to work through that natural discomfort.
My detransition story
My journey with gender was confusing for a long time, but I’ve finally found a place of peace with myself as a woman. Looking back, I can see how my discomfort was misunderstood and how I almost made permanent changes I would have regretted.
It all started when I was going through puberty. Around age twelve, I remember having this intense feeling that I wanted my body to just freeze. I didn't want it to change anymore. I was developing a figure, and I hated it. I specifically remember being unhappy with my growing buttocks at fourteen. I felt lucky that I wasn't very busty, because I think I would have hated having large breasts even more. This discomfort with my changing female body was really strong.
But there was one thing I didn't mind: my body hair growing in. I know that's the opposite of how a girl is "supposed" to feel, and I’ve thought a lot about how if I had been born just a few years later, with the way things are now, I probably would have been encouraged to see that discomfort as a sign of being transgender. I can easily see how my puberty discomfort could have been misread as gender dysphoria.
Because I was over eighteen and thought it was what I needed, I did go through with laser hair removal. I gave that advice to others online at the time, but now I would say something very different. I’ve come to realize that even something like laser isn't a small decision. It's permanent. I told people to weigh the pros and cons heavily because you might regret it, and I was speaking from my own experience of rushing into things.
My real turning point was learning to accept my body. It was a hard road and it took a few years, but it was the most rewarding thing I've ever done. I regained a confidence in my own form that I felt puberty had stolen from me. I now believe that for a lot of young girls, the healthiest path is to try and work through that natural discomfort with their changing bodies, because that acceptance is possible and so much better than altering yourself.
I don't regret my journey because it led me to this understanding, but I do have regrets about the permanent changes I made, like the laser. I never took hormones or had surgery, and I am incredibly thankful for that now. My main thought on gender now is that we need to be much more careful. Puberty is a hard time for every girl, and the answer shouldn't be to change your body to match a feeling that might pass. I wish I had found the concept of body acceptance when I was younger.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my memories:
| My Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 12 | ~2005 | First felt intense discomfort with my body changing during puberty, wanted my development to "freeze." |
| 14 | ~2007 | Felt specific dislike for the development of my buttocks and figure. |
| 18+ | ~2011 onwards | Underwent laser hair removal, believing it was a solution for my discomfort. |
| Late 20s | ~2019-2020 | Began the process of body acceptance, realizing my discomfort was related to puberty, not gender identity. Stopped identifying with the idea of transition. |
Top Comments by /u/NitzMitzTrix:
If it makes you feel any better, you're only seeing the pro-trans comments because any comment that's vaguely trans-critical gets erased and the person banned. It's not that there aren't any opposing opinions, is that you're tricked into believing that they don't exist.
Rule 7. - Give space to detransitioners (No outsider soap-boxing) This rule is probably our biggest rule broken here.
This rule is probably our biggest rule broken here.
I have no words. I am so sorry in the name of both GC refugees who won't shut up and the detransphobe trans people. I am sorry in the name of all non-detrans people who keep breaking what I think is the most important rule.
Does this sub have backups in alternative sites such as SaidIt or Ovarit? Also AHS and GenCyn getting offended doesn't necessarily mean the sub's getting taken down - it's up to the Reddit admins if they listen to them. That said, recent past shows why that is a valid concern.
Puberty is a hard time for every girl. I know it was for me. It may seem insane, but I advise you to learn to accept your changing body as it is. That's the most rewarding path if successful, and it is usually successful. If you still feel this way at 24 you can transition.
Recommend the sub r/BodyAcceptance to help.
Hey! I'm not detrans myself, but Elle Palmer has made a video on the subject, as it's one of her prominent struggles with her detransition. She basically explained that before surgery she would have to go through voice training anyway. I don't know if this is the same for trans women, but many transwomen have found satisfactory results with voice training alone.
If you're over 18 and only if you're over 18, I'd recommend laser. It'll take a few good years to kill off all of your hair follicles as they can only be lasered when fully matured. Don't do it without weighing the pros and cons, you might regret it, from experience.
Until then, shave. Don't bleach it though, the darker your hair the easier the laser will catch it. And if you're light-skinned it'll hurt less.
Holy cow THIS!!!! I'M NOT (DE)TRANS and I felt like that! At 12 I wanted my body to freeze in its figure, it was the beauty ideal sans the breasts after all(which is another can of worms). At 14 I hated my growing buttocks. And I was lucky to be pear-shaped, busty girls have it worse. We all experienced this discomfort. One of the few things I didn't feel discomfort with was hair growth, which of course ran completely contrary to how a girl "should" feel about her developing body, I've no doubt I'd have been transed had I been born 5 years later. But lo and behold, I've accepted my body, and it took a few years but it was extremely rewarding. I've regained the innate confidence in my form puberty seemed to have taken from me.
Please please please don't go through body-altering procedures, even if it's "just laser", before you're 100% certain you want this and know exactly what the consequences are.