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- Personal, nuanced experience with the process of social transition and detransition.
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About me
I'm a masculine woman who started transitioning because I never fit in and saw how harshly the world treats people like me. I thought it would fix my discomfort, but it just became a huge burden that amplified my insecurities. I realized the whole idea relies on stereotypes, reinforcing the very norms that made me feel out of place to begin with. I also grew deeply concerned about the serious, long-term health risks of medical interventions. Now, I've stepped back and found peace in simply accepting myself as a masculine woman.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I never felt like I fit in as a woman. I’ve always been a masculine woman, and I saw how the world treats people like me. A friend of mine was punched and called an "ugly dyke" for no reason. Women can be uncomfortable with us in their spaces, too; I’ve heard of masculine women getting kicked out of bathrooms and changing rooms, and even now, I still feel hesitant using the women's bathroom. If you’re not an attractive, feminine woman, life is harder.
I thought transitioning would fix this feeling of not fitting in. When I started socially transitioning, it was exciting at first. It felt like I was finally doing something about my discomfort. But as time went on, I realized it was creating more problems than it solved. It became a huge burden on my life and made me focus on my insecurities in a way I never had before. I was losing focus on other important things.
A big part of my realization was seeing how much the trans community relies on stereotypes. The idea of "passing" has become completely warped. Women can look butch and masculine and still be women because they are women. But in trans spaces, anyone masculine is seen as male, and anyone feminine is seen as female. It feels like we're just reinforcing the very stereotypes that made me uncomfortable in the first place, and in the process, we're erasing gender non-conforming people like me.
I also started to question the medical side. I became really concerned about the long-term health risks of hormones. I think it's misleading to say HRT has no long-term risks. It can mess with your body's endocrine system forever, even if you stop. And the feminizing effects are minimal—you might grow uneven breasts, but most people need breast augmentation anyway. The idea that hormones will magically feminize you, especially after puberty, seems like misinformation. Most trans women need facial feminization surgery, breast augmentation, and a lot of other cosmetic procedures to pass. I noticed my own face changed more from laser hair removal than from anything else.
For me, a lot of it came down to a simple thought: I think most people who transition have a desire to be a woman, not an innate feeling of being one. You can't ever truly "feel" like a woman because you simply aren't one. You're imitating an idea of womanhood based on stereotypes—dresses, makeup, behaving a certain way. That feels delusional and sexist to me. Being a woman is more than that. People should be allowed to dress and act however they want without having to change their bodies or identities based on stereotypes.
Looking back, I don’t regret exploring transition because it helped me understand myself better, but I do regret ever thinking it was the solution. It didn’t address the real issues, which were my discomfort with how society treats masculine women and my own insecurities. I’ve benefited from stepping back and accepting myself as a masculine woman.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teenage Years | Felt intense discomfort with puberty and pressure to be feminine. Saw the harsh treatment of masculine women. |
| 22 | Started socially transitioning after being influenced by online communities. It was exciting at first. |
| 23-24 | Realized transition was a burden, creating new insecurities and taking over my life. |
| 25 | Began to critically question the concept of "passing" and the role of stereotypes in gender identity. |
| 26 | Stopped identifying as trans. Started to accept myself as a masculine woman. |
Top Comments by /u/No-Design-6439:
I really hate how the trans community warped what "passing" is nowadays. Women can look very butch / masculine etc and still be women, because they literally ARE women. Yet, we still have some people in the trans community seeing anyone who is "masculine" get "passed" as male because of simply wearing masculine clothes and any male who wears feminine clothes and has long hair get "passed" as female. The concept of trans and gender is just purely based off stereotypes at this point. It's like we're completely erasing gender non conforming people.
Good days and bad days, really. When I was socially transitioning, everything was more or less exciting but as time went on I realized how much of a burden it has been on my life and how I was kind of losing my focus on other important things in my life. It was creating more insecurities in myself that I never really even imagined.
I think aging is a "scary" thought for everyone, more so for women as well. I'm more concerned about potentially destroying my body's normal endocrine system and it taking a toll on my whole body. And I really don't think artificial hormones do much for "feminizing" when you are past puberty. I really don't agree with a lot of the misinformation that happens in MtF spaces.
I feel like most MtFs have this answer. It's really just "wanting" to be a woman than "feeling" like a woman. Because, realistically, you cannot ever "feel" like a woman because you simply are not one. You can try your best to imitate what you think women have based off sexist stereotypes but realistically you will always be an "imitation". Just a combination of sexist stereotypes of what you think women should behave and look like. In my opinion, people should be allowed to dress and do whatever they want, but being delusional and saying you simply are a woman because you had surgeries and wear dresses is just delusional and sexist. Being a woman is more than just dresses and wearing makeup.
They are absolutely awful to masculine women as well. A lot of masculine women get harassed on a daily basis and even beaten up. My friend was punched and called an "ugly dyke" out of nowhere. Women are also uncomfortable having us in their spaces, there's a lot of masculine women getting kicked out out of their own spaces. Even now I'm still hesitant to use the women's bathroom.
If you are not attractive as a woman, you will have a hard time. Same also goes for men, same thing but reversed.
That's not really true. It's very understudied that HRT has no long term health risks whatsoever, even if you stop taking it, it can mess with your hormones forever. And it has very minimal feminizing effects either way, just growing uneven boobs. Most trans women would require BA either way. And yes, I think people stay on HRT for a long time because they think it would feminize them even further, when in reality it just doesn't. Most trans women require FFS, BA, and other cosmetic surgeries in order to pass. And that's not counting the laser and makeup. I've personally noticed my face feminize drastically with just laser hair removal on my face.