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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic detransitioner/desister. The comments show:
- Consistent, personal detail: The user shares a specific, consistent medical history (2 years HRT, stopping 7 months prior to the first comment, surgery details) that evolves logically over time.
- Psychological introspection: The posts reflect deep, nuanced self-analysis about vulnerability, social dynamics, and identity, which reads as genuine personal experience.
- Appropriate emotional tone: The passion and criticism align with the expected stance of someone who feels harmed by their experience, without resorting to repetitive, scripted talking points.
The account presents as a real person sharing their detransition/desistance journey.
About me
I started out as a woman who never felt like I fit in, and I thought transitioning would fix my deep loneliness. I now see my desire to become a man was really a search for belonging, which grew after I joined online trans communities. After two years on testosterone, I stopped because I realized I was using transition as an escape from my personal problems. I did have top surgery and am happy with my flat chest, but I no longer believe in gender labels. Today, I'm just "me," and finding real friends made the need for a new identity disappear.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started from a place of just not fitting in. I was always more comfortable hanging out with guys when I was younger, but in school, I started to feel a real jealousy towards how girls socialized with each other. It felt like a club I could never be a part of. That feeling was so strong that I ended up ditching my guy friends and, for the last four years, I've only had women friends. I just vibe with them better and find men less approachable.
Around the same time I made that social shift, the urge to transition started. I think I persuaded myself that I had body dysphoria, especially about my chest. I had B-C cup breasts and I hated them; I felt embarrassed and self-conscious, especially in shirts. But looking back, that dysphoria really grew after I started spending time in trans spaces online. It wasn't a root issue; it was something that developed.
I see now that I was in a really vulnerable place. When I'm distressed or my mental health is poor, I have a pattern of looking for a new identity or subculture as a way to cope. It’s a form of escapism. It’s easier to blame your problems on your surroundings and think that a big change will fix everything, rather than looking at yourself. Transitioning felt like the ultimate change. I also think I was influenced by the online communities I was in. They offered a sense of belonging, a ready-made support network for lonely or vulnerable people, and I craved that support. In a way, transitioning was a shortcut to finding a group where I felt I belonged.
I was on testosterone for two years. I stopped about seven months ago because I started to question everything. My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I don't really believe in it anymore. I think it's mostly a set of artificial categories, and the whole thing has become more of a political movement than a medical one. It preys on vulnerable people. For me, it wasn't about medicine; it was about finding a place to fit in.
After I stopped hormones, I still went ahead with top surgery. I had my breasts removed about five months ago. I saw four different surgeons and ended up going with a closed procedure that left minimal scarring. I had to wear a binder for what felt like forever, but it was worth it. The surgery significantly improved my quality of life. I'm happy with my flat chest and finally feel comfortable wearing what I want. I don't regret the surgery at all.
I don't have many regrets about my transition, but I do regret not understanding my own patterns sooner. I've benefited from stepping back from all the labels. Instead of trying to define myself as a man or a woman, I just try to think of myself as "me." My identity is more complex than any word can capture. What really helped was finding a solid, loving group of friends. Once I had that genuine social support, the need to transition just faded away.
As for the medical side, my body seems to have bounced back. My testosterone levels are normal, even higher than before I started. I'm getting a sperm count test done soon to check on my fertility, because it's nice to have the option to father a child someday.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
My Age | Event |
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Teenage Years | Felt jealousy of female social bonds, shifted friendship groups to be exclusively women. |
Around Age 21 | Urge to transition began, influenced by online spaces. Started identifying as trans. |
Age 21 | Started testosterone (HRT). |
Age 23 | Stopped testosterone after 2 years. |
Age 23 (5 months ago) | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
Present (Age 24) | Living as a female, detransitioned, focused on a label-free identity. |
Top Comments by /u/No_Match_9456:
I really relate to the jealousy part. In school I had mostly guy friends but it made me sad to see how girls socialize and realize I will never have that. After that I started ditching my guy friends and found out that I vibe much better with women, so for the last 4 years I had only women friends. Conveniently the urge to transition came soon after and I persuaded myself to think I had body dysphoria as well (I guess I really did, but it rose after seeping into trans spaces so it obviously wasn't a root issue).
I still only have women friends outside of my family, I guess I find men to be less approachable, also i'm usually in female majority groups.
But yeah, I kinda felt what it's like to be "a part of them", and it was great. I think that eventually I just found my loving group so the need for social support was satisfied, and then I realized I didn't really want to go on with the trans path. I think that so many people just crave a supporting social network and transitioning makes it easier to assemble/ join one.
I think I can help. I took HRT for 2 years and got breast removal surgery 1 year after stopping, it was 5 months ago. I had B-C size breasts (that looked like boobs, not typical gynecomastia). You say you have implants so your experience might be different but here's what I went through:
I saw 4 surgeons, one said I'll need the open procedure with the massive scars, two said I'll the semi-open one which has less scarring and one (the one that operated on me) advised on starting with the closed approach, which has the least scars, and if needed he'll transition to semi-open in the middle of the surgery or if I wanted a follow up procedure.
The surgeon did ask me for a letter from my psychiatrist, that was no problem getting.
Where I live there is universal healthcare, and they would have probably covered the surgery but I got mine private. My private insurance did fully cover it though, which was amazing and saved me a lot of money.
I ended up getting the closed procedure, it was an overall good experience. Scarring is very minimal (two ~2 cm incisions below the armpits). Pain in recovery was tolerable, the most difficult part by far is having to wear a tight binder for 1 month all day and night except showers, and for 2 more weeks for 12 hours a day. But it passes, and now I'm incredibly happy with the results. I can wear shirts without feeling embarrassed or self conscious. Maybe I'll go to the beach this summer. It significantly improved my quality of life and reduced my stress.
If you have any more questions I'll be glad to help!
Hi! I’m in a similar situation, not sure if I’d like to father a child some day but it’s nice to have the option. I was on hrt for 2 years, stopped about 7 months ago and my semen production and T levels are normal (even higher than before transitioning). I’m supposed to get a sperm count done soon, might do it next week so if you’d like me to tell you the results I’ll be glad to help. Also I dig your shirt
I feel you friend, it's depressing to know that doctors make sick people go through processes that have no evidence on the outcomes or on their long terms effects. So instead of having quality scientific research, we get anecdotal experience form healthcare givers and nothing else.
In the end it's the weakest people who are affected. Lonely people, teenagers, poor people, people with autism, BPD and depression are so vulnerable to the queer agenda that claims it offers a place where they can feel less alone. In reality it works similarly to a crazed religion/ cult. Their motives are no longer advocating for a marginalised group. Now it's about making themselves a larger, more marginalised group that uses popular opinion to get more support.
It's not about gender, or sex. It's absolutely not about medicine. Just a political stunt that's been going on for too long.
Oh yeah this is big for me. Especially during times of distress or poor mental health, looking for a different identity, hobby, subculture, friends and the like is a way for me to cope.
I think the reason is that when your'e in a vulnerable period in your life, it's easier to blame your problems on your surroundings than on yourself. If the person I was at that time wasn't happy, then surely changing an important part of my life will help the situation. This never works in practice because another stressful period is ought to happen at some point and the cycle simply continues. The result is never having a proper understanding of who I am because I keep changing aspects of my life, usually very radically, transitioning is an obvious example.
Not saying this is something I fully overcame, but it's better now than before. What helped me was not stressing about categories, labels or on where I fit in relation to others. 90% of these things are artificial inventions created by humans, and the single person's identity is much more complex than what can be expressed by words or facts. Instead of thinking in terms of "I am a man/woman", "I am an optimist/ pessimist", "my goals in life are XYZ" etc, I say "I am me". As this way of thinking becomes more natural, taking baby steps in making yourself healthy, conscious self-defining traits can start.
Hope this is helpful!