The trans community sees us as a threat to their ideology (even if they don't realize or can't admit it). They don't want to see any faults in their scripture.

Many of them are also very intimidated by detrans' experiences because they don't want to relate too hard and realize the intentions of their own transition were in the wrong place.

All of these screenshots are of what it seems 15-18 year old transmasc kids. Take what you see on tiktok/social media with a grain of salt esp when its posted by people like this. I can assume half these kids will detrans within the next 15 or so years anyways.

Saying detrans people will just transition back eventually is exactly like saying recovered drug addicts will just resort to drugs again eventually.

Of course there's a chance. Medical transition is like a drug for a people who suffer from sex dysphoria. It will offer temporary relief, but eventually their issues will keep coming back to the surface. Then they will seek more hormones/surgery to chase that initial euphoria. But the longer the hormones and surgery are being used as a coping mechanism, the more mental and physical health issues will arise. Sound familiar?

Do they not realize this is mental illness we are dealing with? It shouldn't be compared to homosexuality, because that is a completely different subject. Sex dysphoria should be compared to conditions such as anorexia and body dysmorphia. The medical treatments for sex dysphoria patients should mimic those of anorexic patients. It is a body-focused mental illness that will not be completely cured with surgery and drugs

If you're unsure about it, just don't do it. You're only 19, this should be a decision made at age 21+. I was allowed top surgery way too young. Let yourself mature and experience life before doing that, because you will most likely change your mind and there's no 100% going back. I had reconstructive surgery but I will always have scars and weird sensation

I think the 'giving up' and 'failed transition' narratives are very pushed on to us by our society. Since trans people are so accepted in most spaces, detrans people are going to be seen as people who just made a mistake or were seeking attention etc. Its very untrue and unfair to us.

My detransition was recovery.

I'm no longer medically harming my body in hopes of feeling better about it. I'm no longer letting my ptsd control my self-esteem and identity. I've detached myself from false gender ideology and the trans cult/religion. My life is so much more full and genuine

Best advice I can give the people coming on to this subreddit asking if they should transition or not, is to just not. If you're just a bit unsure about transitioning, it's not for you.

I honestly believe most trans people nowadays wouldn't feel the need to identify as trans if they dealt with the root of their sex dysphoria. It seems like the majority of sex dysphoria in young people is nurture instead of nature

The root of my sex dysphoria was my autism, sexual trauma, and extreme internal sexism. My dysphoria was very real, but transitioning was not the cure I was told it should have been. It helped it for a bit, but my primary issues came back to the surface

Yep, I lived a childhood of pure trauma and mental illness. I was severly delusional, but was extremely upfront and honest with my gender therapist about my illnesses and trauma. Still didnt raise any red flags for her?? At the end of the day its my fault, but its so hard not to be angry and want to punch all the doctors that failed me throughout my life square in the face

I feel very similarly about my recon. I feel actually pretty sometimes, and i like the way my figure looks for the first time ever. I was molested as a young girl and grew up hating and binding my breasts for years. I couldn't look at them or even touch them without feeling nauseous, because they were a reason why I was a target for my abuser and a reminder of the 'curse' that being female was. My new boobs don't give me that feeling. It sucks that my body and mind had to go through so much torture, pain, and trauma to get to the place I'm in now. Of course I would much prefer my natural breasts, but at least i can have boobs at all again. Don't view it as a cosmetic boob job, but as a reconstructive surgery. Don't feel guilty, allow yourself to heal 💕

Sounds like you need to remove yourself from gender ideology, especially from your last posts. You weren't on T so long that it has ruined you. I know it affects people differently, but there's been people who've successfully detransitioned who went all the way to bottom surgery. You seem to be very anxious about this, but you will be fine

I have a lot of the same struggles. Youre so not alone. This is really something nobody understands unless youve also gone through it. I know a lot of people will be responding who didnt have top surgery, and thats kind of them, but they dont understand how much you need to hear words from people in /your/ position.

I feel like i can relate to people who have lost limbs to drug overdoses or suicide attempts. They probably feel very similar feelings towards a lost part due to their own actions. Top surgery regret is a lot more stigmatized, we have to deal with disinfranchized grief. Its hard to speak about it without assuming people will just say "I thought that was what you wanted", "You did that to yourself", "You had a choice". Yes, but i was also extremely mentally ill and trying to cope with my trauma. We were given a way to escape womanhood, and of course we would take up on a deal like that. We adopted a new identity out of self-preservation.

I’ll never be able to bond with my baby the same way and that they won’t be getting the optimal nutrients.

Dont listen to people who say you are being a mother wrong. Fuck them. Youve been through some difficult shit. Theres a lot of stuck up moms on the internet who demonize bottlefeeding. And ive also heard of some disgusting hospital workers who make the same remarks. Ignore them. Dont give them your time. There are brands of formula that will nourish your baby just fine, and donor milk is also an option if youre willing to probably spend a bit more on it! Any breastmilk adjusts itself to your babys needs, it doesnt matter if it came from you or not. Not breastfeeding is completely okay. Fed is best, end of story. You will be able to bond just fine. I know you would be an amazing future mother.

I want to be who I was supposed to be before I transitioned but I feel like I killed her

You didnt kill her, shes right here. She has just been through so much. This is not your fault. You can be the same woman, you are the same woman. One way im able to work through this feeling is to treat myself as if i were my own daughter. If i had a daughter going through this, i would give her so much love and treat her with so much kindness. So i try to translate that to myself, if that makes sense. Be gentle with yourself. Take time for things you enjoy doing, i take myself on dates when i have really bad days. Give yourself hugs and tell yourself "I love you". Have days dedicated to your healing. Because you have made it to the recovery stage of your life! And thats something to celebrate!

If youre a social media user, try to avoid both trans and detrans discourse. It makes it so much worse. You dont deserve to hear that. Most spaces besides this subreddit can be very toxic. Even here it gets toxic sometimes.

I hope your consult goes well with that surgeon! Im getting reconstruction very soon, it is possible to find people who want to help you. It can be frustrating but all of your hard work will pay off. Patience and forgiveness for yourself is very important. You are on the right path now 💗

I hated the female form and hated what being a woman meant to me when i was younger.

I viewed myself as weak and inadequate because of my female features. I hated my lighter voice and how useless I felt during my periods. And being told by my elders that boys were stronger and tougher than the girls, even though the girls have so many hardships. That made me extremely jealous towards males. I wasn't taught that both sexes have advantages and disadvantages, and girls and boys are more equal in ways than different.

Constant sexualization of womens bodies also affected me greatly. I hated how the clothes made for women eccentuated my hips and boobs. And the obvious way the media sexually portrays women made me disgusted. When i was younger i internalized that having a female body automatically made me sexual, even if i didnt want to be. That was all very subconcious.

I didn't want to be a big muscle man when I transitioned, I just wanted to feel safer and more secure in my body. I was sexually assualted when i was very young, I didnt want to feel like a target anymore. My boobs and voice made me feel that way. I used transition as a shield

I think that detransitioning in itself helped me work through my internalized sexism. I no longer feel the way i felt about my voice, because its deep now. I no longer feel the way i felt about my breasts because i got rid of them. I got reconstructive surgery, and in a way that gave me control. I got to choose the size of them, and it wasnt forced by the will of nature. I dont have nearly as much sexism as i used to, and my experiences helped guide me to peace in this subject

I don't recommend transitioning, because you can heal from internal sexism without it. Something I do when I feel off about being a woman is to view my sex as neutral as possible. That you're not less than the guys. You're a lot more than just your body. Another thing is connecting with the body through exercise, running is a life saver