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Based on the comments provided, the account does not show clear red flags of being inauthentic. The user's story is highly detailed, emotionally raw, and internally consistent over time, focusing on personal regret, physical complications, and a specific motivation (internalized homophobia) that is a recognized narrative among some detransitioners.
The anger and sweeping generalizations about the trans community, while extreme, align with the passion and bitterness that can exist in individuals who feel profoundly harmed by their experiences. There is no evidence of bot-like behavior or scripting. The account appears to be a genuine, though very distressed, individual.
About me
I was a feminine boy who felt I had no place in the world, so I transitioned to escape bullying and my family's expectations. I went through with hormones and surgery hoping it would make me normal and accepted. The surgery was devastating, leaving me with permanent complications and deep regret. I now live as a man who can't go back, feeling completely lost between two worlds. My life was destroyed by a fantasy, and I hope my story can save other vulnerable gay men from the same fate.
My detransition story
My entire journey was driven by a deep feeling that I never fit in anywhere. From the time I was a little kid, I was effeminate. My friends were all girls, I liked things like fashion, and I spoke and acted in a way that wasn't considered masculine. I was bullied relentlessly for it, called a "faggot" and a "sissy" since kindergarten. At home, my conservative parents pressured me to marry a woman and give them grandchildren, which was a nightmare because I'm attracted to men, not women.
I couldn't see a place for myself in the world. I felt like an effeminate man who liked men had no right to exist. I had a lot of internalized homophobia and was scared of the gay community because it seemed hostile to feminine guys like me. I was also terrified of my body becoming more masculine as I aged. Transitioning felt like my only escape. I thought if I became a woman, my parents would finally accept me as a heterosexual woman and stop pressuring me. It was a way to run from the bullying and the self-hatred.
The trans community celebrated me, but it felt wrong. I was surrounded by what I now see as autogynephilic men who were sexually aroused by my transition, and that peer pressure pushed me further. I convinced myself that getting surgery, a "neovagina," would be the final step to becoming a "normal" woman and finally being accepted.
I was on estrogen for multiple years and eventually had bottom surgery. The surgery was a terrible experience. The recovery was long and painful. I had to take two months of unpaid leave from work because I was too embarrassed and unwell to go. For a long time after, I had to wear pads daily because of discharge. My physical and mental health were completely wrecked. I realized too late that the surgery doesn't create something equivalent to a real vagina; it's a poor imitation, and the complications can be lifelong.
Now, I'm stuck. I can't go back. I’ve been on estrogen for too long to ever pass as a male again, and with the surgery, I’m a man with a neovagina. I feel like I don't belong anywhere. I'm in a no-man's-land, medically not a woman and visually not a man. I live with deep regret and shame for what I did to myself. I feel like my life is over, and I'm only living for my parents now because I wouldn't want to hurt them.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I now believe that "trans women are male" is a biological fact, not an opinion or bigotry. Sex is immutable. I see the trans community as a cult that gaslights and manipulates vulnerable people, silencing anyone who regrets their decision. They pushed a political identity on me and sold me a fantasy that could never become reality.
I regret everything about my medical transition. The hormones and surgeries were destructive and consumed my entire life. I lost my health, my well-being, and any chance at a normal future. I hope that by sharing my story, I can warn other young, effeminate gay men who feel out of place. Acceptance doesn't come from changing your body; it comes from challenging a society that won't let you be yourself.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Bullied for being effeminate. Only had female friends. Felt immense pressure from conservative parents to be heterosexual. |
| Young Adulthood | Began identifying as transgender due to internalized homophobia, fear of aging as a man, and a desire to escape societal rejection. |
| Early 20s | Started taking estrogen hormones. |
| Mid 20s | Underwent male-to-female bottom surgery (SRS). The surgery resulted in long-term complications including daily discharge. |
| 2 months post-op | Was on unpaid leave from work, severely depressed, and unable to function normally. |
| 3 years post-op | Realized the irreversible nature of my decisions and began to deeply regret the entire transition process. |
Top Comments by /u/NoemiePretzelDuchess:
That's the cruelty of the trans community. ''We are all one big family till you had your surgery and are not satisfied with it because you discovered that reality wasn't as great as the fantasy. That's when we will silence and harrass you for speaking up.'' All they ever did for me was gaslighting and manipulating me. Speak soft and carry a big stick. That is the mantra of the trans community.
SRS was indeed a terrible surgery for me. It's a hit or miss. Sometimes it goes 'good', whatever low standard good means in this case, other times it goes completely south within days. I'm somewhere in between these two outcomes. I still have to wear pads daily but don't have any stinging pain anymore. It healed relatively well. It's not a real vagina though and this bullshit that gynecologists can't tell the difference is harmful. At best you get something that poorly mimicks a vagina. Saying that it's 'almost better than the real deal', like you so often hear by activists, is ridiculous.
Most men don't even want to go near a neovagina. There is a difference between saying you would date a trans person, if she was post op, to sound woke and between actually meaning it. Most men who say they are good with trans women, as long as they are women down there, have never seen a neovagina nor had any interaction with it. Otherwise they would quickly realise that we are not truly women down there. The regular sex positions that work for a vagina, don't even work for a neovagina. I think many trans people also go into the operating theatre uninformed and if they have any info it's info based on euphemisms and sugarcoating. That's how you get people who are disappointed because no one told them the result wouldn't truly be undiscernable from a real vagina.
I was gender non conforming and effeminate my entire life and bullied since kinder garden for it. It regularly happened that kids used girl as an insult (children can be misogynistic even at that age) and called me faggot and sissy and other names. I came to school with what you could call mini handbags. My friends were only women. I just didn't click with men. I was quite flamboyant in my speaking and mannerisms. I just couldn't deal with the internalized homophobia. At home I was pressured to Marry a woman and give my parents grandkids. My parents were conservatives. So to escape being pushed into a life that I didn't want I transitioned in hope that they would accept me as a heterosexual woman and stop demanding that I come home with women (who I was not attracted to). There was just no place in society for an effeminate man who liked men and who didn't want to buy into these standards that conservatives pushed upon me. Gay men seemed lonely and the Gay community can also be mean and hostile to femmes so there was no safe haven for me. So transition felt like an attractive option to escape this nightmare. I couldn't be masculine. I didn't want to lift weights and talk about sports. I wanted to let my emotions flow and talk about fashion. Unfortunately that was not allowed. So what option did I have in a world where I didn't have a right to exist as myself? Transition, sadly. I was scared of my body getting more masculine as I would age and I didn't want to grow into a man's man. So the dysphoria and the internalized homophobia pushed me towards transition. I think there are more people in my situation. In the trans community I was celebrated by creepy autogynephiles who were sexually aroused by me and wanted to be me. That pushed me even further down the rabbit hole. Until I convinced myself under peer pressure that a neovagina would be the icing on the cake. That that would enable me to live life as a normal woman. Fast-forward 3 years and 2 months post op I still experience discharge from my neovagina and my mental health and physical health has been severely compromised by this surgery. That and the shame and realization of what I did to myself. What I put myself through. Because I was blinded. Now whatever I do, the rest of my life will be a mess. I try to drawn myself into work as much as I can. I try to stay away from trans subs. I'm sick to my stomach from what happened to me and it feels too painful to come in contact with the trans community. They became a symbol for my pain. My scars. I keep punching myself for having been so stupid to go this deep down the rabbit hole. I wish I could end my life but I would feel too selfish to ruin my parents' life like that. So I live for others. I stopped living for myself. There was never a right for me to exist. I was that queer little '' faggot'' that had no right to exist. Look where I ended up now.
That's why I shared my story. It's too late for me but it's not too late for some queer kid out there that feels that surgery and hormones are the only way to acceptance. That acceptance will not come by hormones and surgery. That acceptance will only come by challenging society's superficiality. I wish someone would have told me this when it was not too late yet. So I will turn something negative into something positive by giving others the warnings and advice that were witheld from me by a fraudulent community. Once the knife went a bit too far, it's too late. So educate while the knife is still far off.
You have been drinking the cool-aid. It's OK, I drank it too for many years. The biological truth is that trans women are male. That's science. That's not bigotry. That's not transphobia. That's science over emotions. While there may be trans women who are not regretful about their SRS, they still are male. Their DNA says so. It's not bigotry. Female adults don't have a prostate. They don't have 2000 cc lung capacity, they have only 1500 cc. Politics can never erase verifiable science. I am not against these trans women. I just state facts. I am male and so is every other trans woman in the world. Ask any doctor.
That's the irony of it all. I am a male. I never became something else. I thought I became something else. Going back would be as terrible as staying in this no man's land. As a weird looking man with a neovagina I would confuse people. Especially since the years long effects of estrogen would leave their traces. Staying this way I'm also in no man's land. Medically I'm not a woman while visually I'm not a man. Eventually I landed in this spot where all options that I choose are wrong. Think about a bomb that can't be dismantled because whichever string you cut, it will explode. It's a matter of time when, not if. I'm tired. So tired. I just want a hug.
MALE => adult human XY mammal. Female => adult human XX mammal.
Being male or female has nothing to do with being presumptuous or open minded. Being male or female is an immutable biological state.
Therefor every trans woman is male, despite self-identifying as a woman. It's biology. It's not about my willingness to be open minded about it or not, honey. It's biology. What they learn the kids in highschool. It's not up for debate. You can't buy your sex. You can mask it with procedures you buy. You can't buy your sex and undo it. It's FACTUALLY not possible. It's not my opinion. It's the opinion of the laws of nature. Of the universe.
Oh honey, get well soon.
Dating is the last thing on your mind after this surgery, believe me :-( I can barely get out of bed to work to keep a roof above my head. Let alone that I would be busy with finding a guy who wants to date me. I have taken 2 months of unpaid leave at work. I'm too embarrassed to go to work with this problem.
Typical trans woman thinking.
'' All that matters is what sex life you have'' => Good old AGP showing there. The rest of the world has to indulge into your sexual fetish because "muh dysphoria".
Writing that Trans women are male is not bashing. That is what the trans cult has made you believe. Writing that trans women are male is fact. Verifiable fact.
Yes, your DNA matters. Tell that to the doctor who has to check where your symptoms come from if you have metastasized prostate cancer and decide to ommit the fact that you are a male.
Trans women who have been transitioned for a while are so deep down the abyss that every form of logical thinking fails.
This is why I want to detransition. I don't want any longer to be associated with this oppressive cult of science deniers. And I mean real science, not pseudo SJW science.
There is no biological dysphoria and there are no real transgender people. It's a post modernist invention.
Why can't we find literature from the 18th and 19th century about '' dysphoria''? Because it wasn't invented yet.
Every trans person cuts in their finger by transitioning. Living a life as a transsexual is nothing more than mudding through.
But you just started your transition. You are in your honey moon phase. Little do you know. Wait till you are a decade and a couple of surgeries further. You will think back about those meanies online who warned you against transitioning.