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About me
I started as a depressed teenager who felt my developing female body was all wrong. Online communities convinced me my discomfort was gender dysphoria and that I was a trans man, so I took testosterone and had surgery. While the surgery fixed my specific chest discomfort, my deeper depression and anxiety never went away. I realized through therapy that I had tried to solve deep-seated psychological pain with permanent physical changes. I am now a female detransitioner, living with the consequences and finally addressing my real mental health struggles.
My detransition story
My journey with all of this started when I was a teenager, around 14. I was deeply uncomfortable with my body, especially when I went through puberty and developed breasts. I hated them; they felt alien and wrong on me. At the same time, I was struggling with depression and severe social anxiety. I didn't feel like I fit in anywhere, and I had very low self-esteem.
I spent a lot of time online and fell into trans communities. The people there were the first to make me feel accepted. They explained my discomfort as gender dysphoria and said that transitioning was the answer. It made sense at the time. I started identifying as non-binary, and then later as a trans man. I think a big part of my initial pull was internalised homophobia; the idea of being a lesbian felt wrong and uncomfortable to me, but being a straight man felt like a way out. My attraction to women felt simpler from that perspective.
When I was 18, I started taking testosterone. I was convinced it would fix my depression. For a while, it felt like it was working. My voice dropped, I grew facial hair, and I felt a sense of control. But the underlying feelings of emptiness never really went away. I got top surgery when I was 20. I thought removing my breasts was the final step to being happy. After the surgery, I felt a huge relief from the specific discomfort about my chest, but I was shocked to find that my general depression and anxiety were just as bad as ever. I realised I had solved a body image issue, but not the deeper problems in my mind.
I started to question everything. I had benefited from therapy that wasn't just about affirming my gender identity. This therapist helped me see how my need to escape from myself was tied to past trauma and my own mental health struggles, including an eating disorder I had as a teen. I began to understand that I had tried to solve a psychological problem with a physical change.
Looking back, I have regrets. I regret that I was influenced so heavily by online spaces and that I didn't get the right kind of psychological help sooner. I regret the permanent changes to my body, like my deepened voice and the fact that I am now infertile. I don't believe my life was built on a truth, and that's a hard thing to face. Even if everyone in the world saw me as a man, it didn't settle my soul because I was living a lie. I've come to see gender in a different way now. I believe I am a female who had a lot of pain and confusion, and transitioning was a way to cope with that, not a cure for it.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my body during puberty, hated my breasts. Struggled with depression and anxiety. |
| 16 | Spent a lot of time online, found trans communities, and began identifying as non-binary. |
| 17 | Came out as a trans man, influenced by friends online and internalised homophobia. |
| 18 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Underwent top surgery. |
| 22 | Began questioning my transition after surgery didn't relieve my depression. Started non-affirming therapy. |
| 23 | Stopped taking testosterone and began socially detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/NrthnMonkey:
Many many people struggle with who they are, and their place in society and an empathetic/supportive culture is absolutely paramount.
However the trans ideology is an issue because in order for it to ‘progress’ it’s seems to require the removal of other people’s rights. The right to free speech, the right to pursue scientific truth, the right to access biologically segregated spaces, the right to fair athletic competition, the right to choose what genitals you prefer.
If we assume the most extreme trans rhetoric to be true, then pretty much everyone in the world is ‘transphobic’ and many women are ‘terfs’ who deserve to be raped.
If we assume the least extreme trans rhetoric to be true...then we have to believe that interfering with natural biological processes will somehow solve psychological suffering.
Edit: either way trans ideology puts the expectations of change onto everyone else, even though the required ‘ideological changes’ are often anti-scientific and dangerous.
There are many stories from trans people who pass 100% and can date who they like. However they still report emptiness, depression and ‘imposter syndrome’.
Even if society completely accepted you, it still wouldn’t settle your soul because you are living a lie.
Maybe any life/relationship built on a lie is doomed to fail.
I believe it has exploited the gay and lesbian movement in order to quietly pave the way to normalise pedophilia.
There have been subversive groups trying to do this for a long time, it’s only now they have the perfect ‘moral banner’ under which they can sexualise children and inch toward desensitising the populous to pedophilia.
Sorry I’ve just seen your profile is only 14days old and you have one post about thinking you might be trans.
In your post you say it is because you used to like purple/dresses etc and that the attraction you had to girls felt wrong because you couldn’t make the ‘right’ move on them.
To be honest if you see womanhood in such shallow, stereotyped terms I’m not sure we would get much out of the discussion anyway.
The danger is the same if not worse. We have already seen issues with perverts and abusers in the trans movement.
If bathrooms are such an issue then all stalls need to be self contained or there needs to be additional unisex toilets.
I don’t care what trans people do toilet-wise as long as it isn’t at the expense of women’s sexual privacy.