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The user's comments are highly specific, emotionally consistent, and detail a long-term, complex personal medical history (PCOS, hysterectomy, years on/off HRT) and the psychological aftermath. The narrative is internally consistent over a multi-year period and reflects the deep, personal anguish and nuanced perspective common among genuine detransitioners.
About me
I was born female and my discomfort started with puberty, which I now see was tied to unresolved trauma. At fifteen, doctors put me on testosterone despite my history, and it caused severe health problems that led to a full hysterectomy. Now I'm in surgical menopause and have to take synthetic hormones for life. Everyone still sees me as a man trying to be a woman, and I feel permanently stuck in a state I never wanted. I believe I needed trauma therapy, not transition, and my life was ruined by medical negligence.
My detransition story
My entire journey with transition and detransition has been one of the most painful experiences of my life, and it all started because I was never taught how to be comfortable in my own body. I was born female, and from a young age, I had a lot of discomfort with puberty and my developing body, especially my breasts. I now believe this was deeply tied to unresolved trauma that was never properly addressed.
When I was 15, I was allowed to start taking testosterone. I was very open with the doctors about my history of trauma and self-harm, but that didn't seem to matter. They gave me the go-ahead anyway. I completely agree with the idea that my brain felt I should have been born male, but pumping myself full of testosterone and binding my chest was never going to make me truly male. I was still never happy with myself or my appearance. I should have been taught how to be comfortable with my own body and to understand that my more masculine traits were still compatible with being female. Fighting against my biology was a losing battle from the start.
The medical consequences were severe and life-altering. After about two and a half years on testosterone, I developed terrible PCOS. I had cysts rupturing every two weeks, and the pain was unbearable. It got so bad that about a year later, I had to have a full hysterectomy and oophorectomy to try and fix it. I’d had pelvic exams before ever starting testosterone and nothing was wrong. This was a direct result of the hormones. Now I'm in surgical menopause and have to be on synthetic hormones and other medications for the rest of my life. My body is fundamentally ruined.
I’ve been off testosterone for over three years now, and the social consequences are just as crushing. Everyone still thinks I’m a trans woman. It’s honestly devastating. I’m not a butch or masculine woman to them; they just see a man trying to be a woman. I even bought a wig to cope with the hair loss I suffered from T, and people comment on how brave I am for being “out as a trans woman.” They assume my female name is a “preferred name.” I can’t even bring myself to go clothes shopping anymore. It feels like I’m permanently stuck in this in-between state that I never wanted.
Looking back, I am filled with regret. I know I would have come out of this so much better if doctors had actually delved into and properly addressed my trauma, which turned out to be the explicit root cause of my discomfort with my body. Instead, I was pushed into making permanent decisions that have ruined me. It depresses me to think that if I had just received normal, non-affirming trauma therapy, I could have been happy and non-mutilated for the rest of my life. What was done to me feels like gross medical negligence.
I don't think transition is right for everyone. I think if you can truly accept that your sex will never change and that you will only ever be a trans man, and you know all the risks and consequences and are okay with that as an adult, then maybe. But it needs to be treated like an extreme form of body modification, not a first-line treatment for unhappiness or trauma. Therapy to rule out underlying issues is an absolute must.
My heart breaks every time I read a story similar to mine. We desperately needed help, and instead we were pushed towards mutilation and making ourselves sicker. I was never warned about any of this. I hope that by sharing my experience, I can help others avoid making the same devastating mistakes.
| My Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 15 | - | Was given the go-ahead and started taking testosterone. |
| ~17-18 | - | Developed severe PCOS from testosterone, with cysts rupturing every two weeks. |
| ~18-19 | - | Underwent a full hysterectomy and oophorectomy to address the PCOS. |
| 19 | 2019 | Had been off testosterone for about a year. Stated I was never happy and it was a losing battle. |
| 21 | 2021 | Had been off testosterone for 3 years. Everyone still perceived me as male or a trans woman. |
| Present | - | Now on synthetic hormones for life due to surgical menopause. Permanently infertile. |
Top Comments by /u/NumericalSystem:
This was so painful and sad to read, I could have written this almost word for word. It breaks my heart every single time I hear about experiences like ours. What was done to us is frankly disgusting. We desperately needed help, and instead we were pushed towards mutilation and making ourselves sicker than we ever would have been had we just been left alone.
I was given the go ahead for hormones at 15 (despite being very open and forthcoming about traumas and self-harm), was later diagnosed with BPD, and developed PCOS so severe I had to have everything yanked out to stop the pain (and at no point was considering stopping taking the hormones causing it ever brought up with me). Now I'm on synthetic hormones and other medications for the rest of my life, my body is ruined, my depression has multiplied a thousandfold, and I'll never be able to undo the damage that has been done. Like you, I was never warned about any of this.
I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. Hopefully at least sharing our experiences can help others avoid making the same mistakes.
There’s many people within the trans community who believe we are all radfem LARPers making up stories about being trans but then detransitioning.
Unfortunately, I can confirm this. I was banned from a subreddit because I mentioned that I transitioned as a child because I felt pushed to, and they claimed that my “story” was “obviously fake transphobic garbage”. I was merely sharing my personal experience (it was relevant to the thread), but because they didn’t like what it suggested, it must be fake. It’s disappointing, to say the least.
I completely agree with everything you've said here. With this very "pro-transition at the slightest hint of transness" movement, there is surely going to be a HUGE wave of detransitioners as a result, and they're going to be hard to ignore. Especially when many of them should never have been pushed to transition in the first place. It's almost gross medical negligence, in my opinion.
I feel this, but I agree with others saying that 2 months isn’t a particularly long amount of time. Plenty of people have posted photos on here showing great recovery, it could still be you yet (and I envy them - I’ve been off T and on HRT for about 3 years and people still assume I’m male, or MTF).
I’ve been off T for 3 years, and everyone still thinks I’m a TW. It’s honestly crushing, and makes me feel absolutely terrible. Like I’m not even just a butch or masculine woman anymore - people just think I’m a man trying to be a woman.
Unfortunately I don’t have any advice. But you’re not alone, whatever that’s worth.
My heart goes out to you. I’ve been off T for a bit over 2 years too, and everyone still thinks I look like a man. I even bought a wig to cope with my hair loss and hopefully feel a bit more like myself, and people comment on how brave I am for being “out as a transwoman”, and when I tell them my name several people ask “oh, is that your preferred name?”. I haven’t said anything, they all just assume. Even people that have literally never met me before I started detransitioning.
I can’t bring myself to go clothes shopping either. I’m so sorry that you’re experiencing this too. Hopefully things get better for the both of us.
I personally developed godawful PCOS after about 2.5 years on T. I’d have cysts rupture every 2 weeks or so, and after about a year they performed a hysterectomy and oophorectomy to fix it. I’d had pelvic exams done before I ever went on T and nothing was wrong. This is of course my personal experience, but I’m just pointing out that it can happen, sadly.
I know I would have come out of this way better if they had actually delved into and properly addressed my trauma, since it turns out that that was explicitly the root cause of my discomfort with my body. Instead I was pushed into permanent decisions that have ruined me. It depresses me to think that if I just had some normal trauma therapy, I could have been happy and non-mutilated for the rest of my life.
I think that if you realise and accept that your sex will never change, and that you will only ever be a transman, you know the risks and consequences etc. and you’re okay with all of that, then you’re actually an ideal candidate to “transition”. I see it like a form of extreme body modification, and as long as you’re aware of what it will and won’t do for you (and you’re an adult), then I’d say knock yourself out. Of course I’d suggest therapy beforehand to try and rule out any underlying reasons that could make someone want to do this and make sure they understand the risks and consequences, but otherwise sure.
I completely agree. Does my brain believe that I should have been born and identified as male? Absolutely. However, pumping myself full of testosterone and strapping down my chest was never going to make me truly male, and I was still never happy with myself or my appearance. I should have been taught how to be comfortable with my own body, and that maybe my "masculine" traits were compatible with being "female". Fighting against biology, no matter what I thought or felt, was a losing battle.