I hate to be harsh but you knew that this is how she and most other people thought about gender...thats what motivated you to pass in the first place, right? I hate to say it, but it is unfair to ask her to assimilate to your reasoning when you spent all the previous time assimilating to hers.

Instead of changing your gender or pronouns based on society's perception of what a black man looks like and does, you should trail blaze for being a shamelessly feminine black male. You have to emanate the change in the world you want to see instead of changing yourself based off the world.

In all seriousness, Instagram, YT, Tumblr, parts of Reddit, ANY form of Social Media needs to be drastically limited if not entirely removed from all adolescents lives. They don’t understand the nature of echo chambers, the rampant photo editing, and the vast exaggerations and mental neuroses that come with the lives of the people they’re trying to emulate. People forget how dangerous an idea can be especially when one is socially accepted and supported for having that idea. We’re literally in the age of digital cults and social media is like pandora’s box. I hate to say it, but it might be better for your teen to hate you for a few years by drastically limiting their internet use than have them physically and mentally scarred for their rest of their life....its a thankless job.

At this point, no porn is much more important than no fap. Masturbation is healthy in moderation and necessary if you’re single(monks actually can go years without but we’re not meditating all day in a fucking monastery so lets get real.)

All you have to do is completely stop watching sissy porn and keep having sex with your gf. This will eventually rewire your sexual reward circuit pathway to get hard for her and not porn.

You don’t have to ingest a substance to become addicted to something..in your case, this is called stimulus addiction. If desisting from porn proves to be too hard, cut off your internet. Get a phone plan with just talk and text. If you want to have a healthy sex life, you have to quit this and quit it FOREVER.

Yea...but as far as constructive advice goes, people are highly influenced by consistency so if you’re consistent with dressing feminine and referring to yourself as a woman, it is likely that your social circle will start referring to you as such. The hardest part about this though, is not reacting when they inevitably misgender you whether it be accidental or even intentional. You have to graciously set the standard while being passive because, at the end of the day, people referring to you how you want them to is about respect and since they have freedom of speech and don’t have to call you what you want, you can’t demand that respect...it has to be earned.

You can’t. This ideology is based off of pacifying emotion and not propagating reason. I hate to recommend passive manipulation but its the only thing that works for irrational individuals. The biggest motivator is fear and trans individuals fear dysphoria so the only way to coerce them against dysphoria is to give them something to bigger to fear.

Show her stories of the horror that is transitioning without being trans. All you can do is provide perspective and even then, she will probably despise you for it.

oh yea in both mtf and ftm trans people, their projections of their new sex is always this over exaggerated stereotypical gender critical archetype of what they perceive the opposite sex to be and its ironic because they are as ‘bigoted’ as they say other people are because they completely ignore the existence of the masculine woman or the feminine man. Its why trans woman too often wear pounds and pounds of make-up that actually helps them pass less while trans men too often start to weight lift when having muscles isn’t paramount to passing as a man.

I get that this is a coping mechanism aimed at relieving dysphoria but it still perceived by the masses and by the LGB as being gender critical which is the exact thing transgender people criticize cis people for. The irony is palpable, in that regard.

One’s sense of community has been deteriorating since the agricultural revolution and that degradation became exponential after the industrial revolution. Automation has freed us from the bosom of the tribe but has left us starving for social sustenance. All we want is to acknowledge and be acknowledged by our peers but the social hierarchy no longer exist in the culdesac or the class room or the office. The migration of our social identities from reality to the virtual has created groups ludicrously bigger than we ever evolved to experience and where our individuality must be expressed and not observed and where there is 0 accountability for the latter. Naturally, echo chambers form where every member is relishing in their perceived escape from mediocrity...clamoring to be a minority...wanting to be validated...lusting after uniqueness with such a ravenous desire that they are willing to say and do anything to achieve it and inadvertently delude themselves in the process.

No one’s to blame. It’s simply human’s social nature interacting with the rapid automation/technology it has created. We can’t evolve fast enough and so many will perish not to bullets, famine, or natural disaster...but to the most dangerous threat there is: an idea.

The fact you even mentioned “wrongthink” un-ironically should be a major eye opener for you. And the fact that someone is friends with you based off of WHAT you think and not HOW you think means they were never friends with you in the first place....they are friends within anybody who thinks like them which is, honestly, just an exercise in self re-affirming narcissism disguised as comradery.

This is textbook cult behavior.

Undoubtedly, Men are less scrutinized for their looks because, as the less fairer sex, the standard is much lower than women’s and societal appraisal of a man’s value has less to do with his looks. Of course, his sex appeal has much less influences as well so thats the balance. I’ve read a few stories on this sub where ftms were surprised how rude and indifferent people were to them when they started passing as male and how they missed the politeness that came with being a woman.