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About me
I was born male but knew from my earliest memories that I was supposed to be a girl, a feeling that was a constant and painful companion my whole life. I transitioned not for euphoria but out of a deep, lifelong need to fix a fundamental mismatch between my mind and my body. Starting hormones at 21 gave me immediate relief from my depression and finally let me recognize myself in the mirror. While I am content and plan to live as a woman, I am deeply concerned that hormones are given out too easily, especially to young people who may regret it. I believe this life-saving treatment should be reserved for a small minority after rigorous scrutiny, to protect those who genuinely need it and prevent future pain for others.
My detransition story
My name isn't important, but my story is. I was born male, but from my earliest memories at four years old, I knew with a deep, unshakable certainty that I was supposed to be a girl. That feeling never left me, not for a single day throughout my entire childhood, my teenage years, or my early adulthood. It was a constant, painful companion.
I don't believe my feelings were caused by anything else. It wasn't trauma, it wasn't internalized homophobia, and it wasn't a trend. For me, it felt like a biological reality, a fundamental mismatch between my brain and my body. I did a huge amount of research before making any decisions. I read a post from a trans woman who had been on hormones for years that really stuck with me. She described transition not as a magic solution to happiness, but as a grueling, difficult process—a second puberty—that you should only undertake if you are trying to fix that deep, lifelong incongruency. It’s not a "get out of jail free" card; it's a serious medical process for a very small minority of people who can't accept the gender they were born into.
I had to wait until I was 21 to start hormones because I needed to become independent from my family first. The change was immediate and profound for me. By the second day, I looked in the mirror and for the first time in my life, I recognized the person staring back at me as myself. The constant feeling of dissociation and the deep depression I had lived with began to lift significantly. Hormones gave me the ability to finally live my life. I wouldn't go off them for anything.
I don't hate being male, and I didn't transition because of a euphoric feeling about being a girl. I did it because I knew, on the most basic level, that it was what I needed to be. I'm realistic about it; I will always acknowledge that I am biologically male. I don't plan to get any surgeries, and I'm content with the idea of growing old as a woman.
My views on transition are complicated. I believe there are far too many people transitioning today who will regret it. I think hormones are being handed out like candy without enough scrutiny. For children under 18, I believe hormones should be forbidden unless there is absolutely undeniable, empirical proof through things like brain scans or extensive psychological analysis that they have this innate, biological condition. For adults, it should be an elective procedure, but one that comes with mandatory, thorough education on all the risks, statistics, and realities of gender dysphoria. People need to be discouraged if their motives aren't pure. This would help the few people like me who genuinely need it get life-saving treatment, while preventing a lot of future pain for people who are making a mistake.
I feel a strange kinship with detransitioners. Even though our paths are different, many of them have experienced the profound pain of gender dysphoria, even if it was inadvertently self-inflicted. That pain is something I wouldn't wish on anyone. No one should have to feel it.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 4 | First realized I was supposed to be a girl. This feeling never went away. |
| 21 | Started hormone therapy (HRT). Felt an immediate positive shift in my mental state and self-recognition. |
Top Comments by /u/Oiyarai:
Im trans mtf, currently on hormones. I believe that children, under the age of 18, should not be allowed on hormones unless it can be confirmed empirically either through brain scan or extensive psycho analysis by a professional that they are medically and irreversably trans, and that their gender dysphoria isnt the product of other root causes and is in itself produced by a biological incongruency in the brain and the body. As for adults, I dont think it should be handed out like candy, but I do think it should be an elective proceedure and I think completely anti trans and pro trans political radicals need to be booted out of any legitimate profession dealing with and diagnosing transgenderism. Matters of psychology should be left out of the hands of zealots. If someone wants to begin hormone therapy, they should be completely aware of the risks, the statistics, and the actual sympotms and manifestations of gd and discouraged if their motives arent pure. This would allow actual trans people life saving and life bettering treatment while also preventing vast amounts of trans trenders and future detrans from being created. InB4 detrans "no one is really trans" stop projecting your mistakes onto other people plz.
Absolutely! The earliest I can remember feeling I should have been a girl was 4 years old, and since then the thought has never left me, even when Ive tried desperately to get rid of it, or to avoid it, or to accept it and move on. I can say consistently without a doubt there was not a day before taking hormones, in both my childhood, my adolesence, and my adult life that I didnt not contemplate and ultimately desperately want to feel and be female.
As I found out about hormones I did a lot of research. A lot. And in my research I found something that really stuck with me, resonated with me, and ultimately made me feel validated in my belief that I should transition like nothing else did. This was a post by a long time transwoman who had been on hormones for several years, she described how going through hrt in the begining is not easy, and is essentially another puberty plus the struggles of being trans. She described it as being a grueling, suffering and difficult experience and that if someone was doing it for less than the purposes of simply needing to fix the issue of having the wrong sex of your brain vs your body then a person should not do it.
She described how transition is not an end in of itself, and how your primary goal as a trans person on hrt should not be to pass and be happy, it is to solve a problem in your life that is preventing you from finding your happyness
Thank you very much for sharing. I dont think I can relate very clearly to your reasons behind transitioning, but I can very much relate to the trauma you described. Its not easy growing up without a father under any circumstances, and no one should have to go through that.
After about 5 years of long hard work to become independent from my mom who forbayed me from transitioning, going through two year college and getting a job along with moving out, I started in hormones. The instant I was on them, about day 2 I noticed an instant change in the recognition of my own eyes. I felt, for the very first time in my life that I was staring at myself in the mirror, and it was almost freaky. Since then my mental state, dissacotiation, and my depression have all improved signifigantly, and I can say for a fact that I am now able to live my life as myself. I wouldnt go off hormones if they killed me.
I didnt hate being a boy, and I didnt have euphoria from the idea of being a girl, I knew, from the moment I was aware, that Im supposed to be and feel like a girl. I dont care about being a girl fully, id be ok with having m on my drivers liscense for the rest of my life if I was forced to, and I will never deny I am biologically male. I dont plan to get the surgery, and I dont plan to ever go back. I am very content with growing old and dying as a woman.
(For context im 21)
The only Resource I used: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=27Yb04MBaOE&feature=youtu.be
My voice Before: https://vocaroo.com/i/s1LLGJTJpUe5
My voice After: https://vocaroo.com/i/s0CAJkxPFwCa
I hope these are helpful and that you can get what youre looking for! The vid series covers everything so dont be surprised if you know some stuff implicitly from before hrt, still, its good for getting it back up there I think.
Both. The better you get with it the more you can push it and the more you regularly push it the more your normal becomes what was difficult before. If that makes sense. As you get more where you want to when youre practicing you can start to actively practice more and once it becomes natural you can start to push the next barrier. I dont have to hold my voice to sound female now, its just like that when I talk normally, however when I train to do more difficult stuff and push it it slowly gets more feminine.
Whatever floats your boat, outside of reddit circles and with other transgender girls I know irl we just call ourselves tr***y. I find that if you let words that describe you hold power over you you let other people have undue control over your life, but do u boo.
Im interested in the movement alltogether, and in the motivations of the people behind it. I also agree with a good deal of its message. There are way to many people transitioning who will almost certainly regret the choice to transition in later life, and I feel as though that has to be stopped. As someone who has lived with gender dysphoria for their entire life, it makes me feel very disheartened and sad to see people inflicting it on themselves without understanding it. No one should have to go through that pain.
Dw, youre not the only transsexual browsing detrans for purposes other than to seek support. Whats strange to me is I feel almost a kinship with detrans women because they've experienced what it feels like to feel dysphoria and have a male body with a female brain. Even though its somewhat self inflicted, a lot of them were unaware of the actual dysphoria they were inviting into their lives before they inadvertently became transgender and transitioned back to their natal sex. I was friends with one such person for a long time, since high-school, and I think my decision and how ive changed on hormones has definitely pushed her away from me. I find theres a similar close rankedness when it comes to other detrans, especially in groups, and I understand why that is and respect it when I get it.
Still, there are a lot of girls out there who made the mistake of thickening their vocal cords and want their old voice back, or want advice, or felt what it was like to be growing as a man and to know with every fiber of their being that they should be a woman as the dysphoria and the transition progressed. Even though I cant empathize with the detrans part, I can most certainly empathize with the pain that ive felt all my life and I always offer help, especially with voice stuff where I can. No one should have to feel the pain of dysphoria, born or inadvertently self inflicted.
I am a trans girl and have felt I should be female since 4 years old. I find myself agreeing that there are a lot of people transitioning who have just recently developed gender "dysphoria" in their lives and that there is a very very unhealthy promotion of HRT and transition where its presented as a get out of jail free card instead of what it is, a very difficult medical process for a very small minority of mentally ill people (like me) who cannot accept the gender they were born into and haven't been able to do so from a young age due to inherent brain differences from their natal sex.
I was wondering how this community views transgender people like me. To you guys am I just another person getting swept up in the fervor of being trans, or is there a distinction between the people who do need hormones and who they are detrimental too? I'm not easily offended so please, be honest, and feel free to ask questions if you need clarification as to my positions.