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About me
I started feeling intense discomfort with my female body when puberty began at 13, and by 15, I came out as a trans man due to social pressure and spending too much time in online communities. I lived as a guy for almost three years, but I began to realize the ideology was harmful and based on stereotypes. I detransitioned just before turning 18 and went back to my birth name, and thankfully, I never pursued any medical procedures. I now understand my feelings were normal puberty discomfort mixed with anxiety and low self-esteem. I am finally at peace living as a woman and have learned to love my body again.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was around 13, right when puberty began. I was a pretty boyish kid, but when my body started changing, I became extremely uncomfortable. I remember specifically hating my breasts and feeling a deep sense of wrongness with my developing female body. I lived as a woman for about two years, but I was deeply unhappy.
When I was 15, I came out as a trans man. A huge part of this was because of my friend group; I was in an art school, and nearly a quarter of my class identified as trans. I felt a strong need to belong, and I was also spending a massive amount of time in online LGBTQ+ spaces, especially on social media like TikTok. I saw all these couples and creators, and it made me question everything. I went through a bunch of different labels for my sexuality before landing on being trans. It felt like the answer to all my problems with my body and my place in the world.
I socially transitioned—changed my name and pronouns, and started dressing and binding to look more masculine. I was lucky that a strong fear of doctors and needles stopped me from ever taking testosterone or having any surgeries. I think that fear is the only thing that saved me from making permanent changes I would have deeply regretted.
For almost three years, I lived as a guy. But things started to feel wrong. I began to realize that a lot of the people in the trans community I was surrounded by were incredibly self-centered and had a big victim complex. Everything was always about their transition and how hard their life was, even though we live in a place that's very accepting. I also had a trans boyfriend during this time, and his behavior was really unstable; he had extreme highs and lows and always acted like the world was against him. That relationship really opened my eyes.
I started detransitioning just before my 18th birthday. I was sick of it all. I explained it to my close cis friends first, and they were amazing and supportive, even a bit relieved. My trans friends were surprisingly okay with it too, though I think they were just like, "Okay, whatever." I showed up to my graduation ceremony in a dress, and people just went with it. No one made a big deal. I went back to my original birth name because choosing a new one felt too tied to that old identity.
Looking back, I see now that what I thought was gender dysphoria was just normal puberty discomfort. Every woman I've talked to hated her body and her breasts at that age. I also think my own low self-esteem, anxiety, and the influence of my friends and online spaces convinced me I was trans when I wasn't. I’ve come to believe that real gender dysphoria is probably very rare, and what we see now is mostly people with other mental health issues like depression, OCD, or who are autistic being misled. The ideology tells you that you can be whatever you want, but it’s based on stereotypes. You can be a masculine woman or a feminine man; you don’t need to change your body or identity.
I don't regret my social transition because it taught me a lot, but I am so grateful I never medically transitioned. I now see my female body as something strong and beautiful. I’ve learned to love things I used to avoid, like doing makeup, shopping for feminine clothes, and even dancing. I can enjoy moving my body again. I feel like I have to give my body back what I took from it all those years.
My thoughts on gender now are that it’s mostly a social construct. Society will always put people into boxes based on how they look; it’s a natural instinct. I think the transgender ideology has become a harmful thing that pushes people, especially young, insecure girls like I was, to make permanent changes instead of learning to love themselves. It feels like a cult sometimes, telling you to cut off your family and that anyone who doesn’t applaud you is wrong.
I am now just a woman. I’m comfortable saying that. I’m feminine, like my grandma, my mum, and my sister. And I’m finally at peace.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with my female body and puberty. Hated my breasts. |
| 15 | Came out as a trans man and began social transition (name, pronouns, binding). |
| 17 | Began to question my transition and started detransitioning shortly before turning 18. |
| 18 | Fully detransitioned, returned to my birth name and living as a woman. |
Top Comments by /u/Ok-Bit-5119:
I have a similar experience if you dont mind me sharing. I had a trans boyfriend for almost a year but we knew each other prior to dating he had extremely high highs and low lows wouldnt talk to me for days at a time for no reason at all he was very patriotic started drinking and smoking at 15 and felt like the whole world was against him he was always the victim. So i detransitioned for a few reasons and realized that they were right i really dont wanna date a trans person
Yes i noticed this myself i am a very accepting and overall friendly person i would say but yesterday a shop employee i saw, looked like a woman with a bit more masculin features but my brain definitely still clocked them as a female then they talked to me and their voice was extremely deep i was so thrown off guard something felt wrong (i dont want to be negative towards that person in any way or form as they were super friendly and seemed like an awesome person) i think its due to our natural instincts bec differentiating between sexes was crucial to our survival as a species and while i was identifying as trans (even without hormones i passed quite often) i noticed that ppl were repelled by myself as a whole.
EXACTLY. Like if you are THIS suicidal you need a psych ward not a stay on the operating table. You need anti depressants and not HRT like how is this even a debate?? Anyone with suicidal ideations that doesnt claim to be trans is being treated like a suicidal person but say you are trans and they will rush to make your every wish come true
In my opinion I think that REAL gender dysphoria (with the whole prenatal hormones and stuff) is actually a thing BUT a majority of "trans" people we see now do not actually suffer from said gd. It seems like most of them really are narcissists with a history of SA and or EDs, Depression, BPD, OCD and so on. And many of them seem to be neurodivergent as well. All of this can easily be confused with gender dysphoria ESP things like autism and the ideology bends the criteria for gd in a direction that fits esp autistic and mentally ill people. "feeling like an alien, being dissociated from yourself, rejecting stereotypes" all of those things are often associates with neurodivergency. What i think we need is psychologists to rule out ANY AND ALL preexisting mental health problems prior to any transition. But ofc those narcissistic "trans" people would NEVER listen.
society and the human race has always and will always put people into boxes and categories. It was crucial for our surviving and understanding of the person we had in front of us. It is a completely normal and biological process to gender people how we PERCEIVE them. So its either you live with the fact that you are being misgendered or you change something abt the way people perceive you. Its not "harmful advice" in my opinion it makes perfect sense. We can pretend that stereotypes don't exist but they do even if we try not to have them. So if you complain abt the way you are perceived you can expect that ppl will tell you (with good intentions) how you can change being perceived that way. You just gotta know what is worth more to you. Dressing and looking stereotypically male or being perceived as female. Both rarely works which is why most of detrans or desisted women go back to presenting feminine. What i have noticed personally is that i tend to fall back into masculine clothing and thoughts when i am insecure about myself or too tired and unmotivated to take care of myself.
yes absolutely! At first i just wanted to distance myself but i didnt bother abt the community and which rights they have i am very socialistically leaning so it made sense that i just "live and let live" but it has gotten wayyyy to far. They are narcissistic self centered people with a bigg victim complex and its disgusting. I had FOUR "trans" people in my class. We were 16 thats a QUARTER. And everything is only about their transition about how much they are being discriminated against abt how hard their life is (i live in middle europe, theres few places that are better for "trans" people yet they found a way to complain about everything). I came to realise how TERRIFYING esp trans women are on social media platforms literally grooming kids and those trans teachers and constantly complaining abt being misgendered when they look and sound like a grown ass man. They expect you to smell their pronouns atp. Its just all abt themselves and the fact that they push you so hard to cut off your family and friends the second they stop applauding is just giving cult like behavior. Absolutely scary.
I dont have any experience with most of what you are describing but i do know how you can get help. If you feel like genuinely ending your life its best not to call an ambulance or anything like that. They are not trained for psychological emergencies and can't really do anything for you. You could try to get a place in a psych ward maybe they arent the best at curing but they can at least prevent. And if it is an emergency for you you can call the police. They are confronted with situations like yours on the daily and know what to do. They can and will help you. Depending on where you are from there is also a number you can call that is specialised in mental health that you can talk to. And i promise you will be okay. Maybe you can even help yourself. Have you heard of Viktor Frankl? I loved his book "mans search for meaning". But this doesnt last i promise this will pass like everything you have been through before and a future version of you will be forever grateful that you let her live and love and experience this world. You are so loved and i hope youll get better.
you can present however you want to but that doesnt make you "non binary". Non binary doesn't exist and many transsexual people (blaire white for example) claim it to be harmful towards anyone who struggles with gender dysphoria. The whole comcept of it is based on gender stereotypes, escapism and trying to be special it has nothing to do with being trans or with ones "gender" I would just drop it as this is just another ideology that no one will profit from. Its oksy to look feminine as a man or masculine as a woman not everything and everyone has to be non binary a few years ago you would have just been a gender nonconfirming man
for me it was bec i avoided it so so much for so many years and missed out on all the amazing things that come with being feminine. Doing each others makeup, shopping wtv it is and also bec i cant stand to look at myself presenting masc anymore after everything that happened. I am disgusted by the thought of being seen as anythibg other than a woman even if thats non binary or bs like that. So yes i am a feminine woman like my grandma and my mother and sister.
I don't think that he inherited being queer but trauma can actually be inherited and sou might feel things (about your body for example self consciousness) tho you yourself havent experienced anything. After i came out as trans my mum told me that she also hated her female body etc and now we are both strong beautiful women nevertheless. The way he acted also seemes like he wanted to protect you from something put there that he had witnessed or experienced.