This story is from the comments by /u/Ok-Self_ that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on this comment history, there are serious red flags suggesting this account is not an authentic detransitioner or desister.
The primary red flag is the user's stated motive: they are not seeking support for their own detransition, but are explicitly looking for an "anti-transgenderism" forum to communicate with "women who are victims." Their language is not that of someone sharing a personal, painful experience, but of an activist pushing a specific ideological argument, citing academics and journalists to validate a theoretical framework about transgenderism.
The tone is consistently analytical and polemical, lacking the personal narrative or emotional depth typical of someone recounting direct harm.
About me
I started reading about this back in the 1980s, and for decades I observed and researched it. I came to believe that for most men, it's a sexual issue that starts after puberty, while for women, it's a serious body dysmorphia driven by the pressures of growing up female. Seeing so many young girls get caught up in this recently is what really alarmed me. Now, my main concern is protecting women's spaces and stopping girls from making permanent decisions based on social pressure. I regret not speaking out sooner to protect young women from what I see as a harmful trend.
My detransition story
My journey with this started a long time ago, back in the 1980s, when I first began reading about transsexualism. I was always interested in understanding it, but my views have changed drastically over the years, especially as I saw it start to affect more and more young girls.
I was never someone who transitioned myself. My experience is from decades of observation and reading. I’ve seen how the reasons for male and female transition are completely different, and that’s what I want to explain.
For males, I came to believe that the vast majority are what we used to call transvestites. They are usually heterosexual men who develop a sexual attraction to the idea of being a woman, often after puberty. They enjoy dressing up and seeing themselves in a sexual way. This isn't about a genuine brain-sex difference from childhood; it's a sexual paraphilia. They want to control their own sexuality and experience femininity for themselves. I don't think most are predators, but their motivation is sexual.
The only males I ever read about who seemed different were the very rare ones, about 1 in 30,000. They were extremely feminine from early childhood, usually homosexual, and felt they couldn't cope with the social expectations placed on boys. Even for them, I think it was more about not fitting into a social role than having a true biological abnormality.
For females, it’s a much more serious issue. I became very concerned when I saw it start to affect young girls. I believe girls suffer from a type of body dysmorphia because of the intense pressures put on them during female puberty. Femininity is so sexualized now, more than it was decades ago. Girls don't want to grow up to be these sexual objects, so they seek a way out. This is why there seems to be a strong connection between anorexia and gender dysphoria in young women. It’s a body issue, a way to escape the discomfort of growing up and developing breasts and a womanly figure.
I was heavily influenced by writers like Abigail Shrier and Hadley Freeman, who pointed out how social media pressures on girls have made this problem so much worse. I strongly believe that a lot of this is driven by online influence and the current culture.
My main focus now is on the safety and well-being of women. I have lesbian friends who feel pressured to accept trans women as partners, and it makes them uncomfortable. I worry about the harm being done to young girls who are making permanent, adult decisions about their bodies before they are old enough to understand the consequences.
I don't believe there is such a thing as a "true transsexual." I think it's all on a continuum, and the most enlightened people are the ones who eventually learn to accept their birth sex. I have come to see transgenderism not as a normal identity, but as a sexual paraphilia in men and a body dysmorphia disorder in women.
I regret that I didn't see the harm it would cause to girls sooner. My only regret is that I wasn't more vocal earlier about protecting young women from making irreversible decisions based on temporary feelings and social pressure.
Here is a timeline of my involvement and understanding of these issues over the years:
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| Late Teens | 1980s | First began reading about transsexualism from historical and academic sources. |
| - | - | Spent decades observing and researching the topic, reading works from Harry Benjamin and Ray Blanchard. |
| - | Recent Years | Noticed a sharp increase in young girls being affected, which shifted my focus entirely. |
| - | 2023 | Became active online seeking communities critical of transgender ideology, concerned for women's safety. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/Ok-Self_:
I'm very interested in girls who have body dysmorphia and feel that they're transgender because they don't want to grow up to be women.
Femininity is so much more sexualized than masculinity. I think it's one reason men desire to be women is so they can be sex objects.
Conversely, women usually don't want to be sex objects and therefore seek a remedy, which is deleterious to their health and well-being.
As I'm listening to this video by Hadley Freeman, there seems to be a real connection between anorexia and gender dysphoria in females
What Hadley Freeman is saying about transition, non-binary and anorexia seems right on.
She makes a point about girls are faced with even more pressure today with Twitter and TicTok.
Female sex role adherence has become even more conservative and traditional in the last 30 years. Look at the styles from the 70s. Look at women's shoes!
I agree very strongly. I never took an interest in the subject until I started realizing it was affecting girls more than boys. The reasons are entirely different. Abigail Shrier seems to understand this point of view
Girls have body issues in adolescence which is often expressed through anorexia or gender dysphoria.
Posted this topic as Wishbone and now managed to ban that account in my other account, which I use for other purposes.
If anyone knows another form or website for people who are either detransitioned or anti-transgenderism, I would really like to know which website or forum you're using?
Reddit is notoriously left wing San Francisco website.
They keep banning me because certain moderators know who I am and want to stop me from communicating with women who are victims of transgenderism. Transgenderism is not a normal thing which some people go through.
It's a type of sexual paraphilia in men and a body dysmorphia disorder in women, which is much more serious because it affects women before they are old enough to make adult decisions about their lives
In other words, it hurts women and condones deviant male sexuality
Repression is another jingoistic statement which is invented for men to justify the fact that they were not feminine as boys and childhood.
Roughly 1 in 30,000 boys has gender dysphoria extreme enough where they want to alter their physical body to appear as female to avoid having to live under the male sex roll.
1960s academics interest in transsexualism was confined to those who were gender non-conformant and childhood. Academics today are not interested in the subject.
I think you're talking about the one in 30,000 boys who transitioned to girls because they feel like they can not cope with the rough and tumble play of other boys. They are usually homosexual and aware of it very early in life. If these boys properly treated by living as female, it is debatable. It's a social expectation, which they can not cope well, not a real physical biological abnormality
Girl suffer from body dysmorphia because of the expectations put on girls at a young age for going through female puberty.
The majority of trans persons who are born male have what used to be called as transvestism, which is attraction to the idea of being a woman, or dressing up, loling in the mirror and looking at oneself in a sexual way.
Men have sexualized women as objects since the beginning of time. Male transgenderism is no different
I'm sorry if I've offended you. I really would like to seek another form because Reddit is essentially a liberal hotbed.
I do not think that most males who want to transition our sexual predators!!
I think most males who want to transition are what we used to call transvestites. Men who want to experience femininity in themselves as a heterosexual experience. Men who do not trust others and want to control their own sexuality.
This accounts for the vast majority of transgender women today
I agree with you 100%.
If you were looking at this from the vantage point of, say 1965, when Harry Benjamin was writing the book to "transsexual phenomenon," Benjamin was almost exclusively focused on males because of exactly your description.
Boys who seem to react to all social stimulus in the same manner as most stereotypical girls of the time. ( This may not even be realistic in our current sculpture?)
Very few advanced Western societies have the same type of transsexual males, as you find in places like the Philippines or Brazil.
The majority of trans women today are unremarkably masculine as children, have typical boyish interest, and only develop a transgender desire after puberty when they discover that they are attracted themselves dressed or physically similar to women! Most, if not all, of them are heterosexual males.
I've been around transgender issues and have been reading about it since the '80s.
Call hsts homosexual transsexuals today. They are the only real transsexuals who experienced gender dysphoria in childhood. No gender dysphoria in childhood. You're not really transsexual.
There's no such thing as gender repression. Children Express themselves for who they are, not who parents want them to be. If you've ever seen a feminine boy they do not become less feminine because you beat them, or hurt them. Children are real people