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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "OkHippo1430" appears to be authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor. The user demonstrates:
- Personal, nuanced experience with transition and detransition (e.g., not telling friends, maintaining relationships).
- Consistent, passionate ideological beliefs focused on criticism of gender ideology and leftist political culture, which is common in the detrans community.
- Varied and specific commentary on medical details, psychology, and different "types" of trans people, indicating a real person engaging with the topic's complexity.
The tone is argumentative and blunt, but this aligns with a passionate individual who feels harmed, not with an inauthentic account.
About me
I started transitioning in my early twenties after online communities convinced me my depression and anxiety were gender dysphoria. I took testosterone for two years and was deeply involved in activism, believing it was the only solution. I eventually realized it wasn't fixing my underlying problems and that I was using transition to escape myself. I regret the permanent changes and feel I was led astray by an ideologically driven community. I've now detransitioned and am living as male again, working on accepting myself.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started in my late teens. I felt a deep discomfort with myself that I couldn't pinpoint. I was depressed, had very low self-esteem, and felt a lot of anxiety about my future and my place in the world. Looking back, I think a lot of this was just the general turmoil of being that age, but at the time, it felt all-consuming.
I started reading about gender online and found communities where people described feelings similar to mine. They said this discomfort was gender dysphoria and that transition was the answer. It felt like I had finally found an explanation for why I felt so wrong. I became convinced that if I transitioned, all my other problems with depression and anxiety would be solved. I was heavily influenced by what I read online; it gave me a framework to understand my confusion, but it also gave me a single, definitive solution.
I socially transitioned in my early twenties. I didn't tell many people—just my immediate family and a couple of close friends. I was very careful to keep it separate from my work life and my older friendships from high school. I'm grateful for that now because it meant those relationships weren't changed by my transition and I could go back to them easily.
I took testosterone for about two years. I never had any surgeries. During that time, I became very politically involved in trans activism online. I strongly believed that access to medical care was the most important thing and that any psychologist who questioned someone's desire to transition was a bigot. I argued that the pressure on therapists to be unquestioningly affirming came from a good place—from trans people who needed care and a left-leaning culture that wanted to support minorities.
But the longer I was on testosterone, the more I realized it wasn't fixing my underlying issues. The initial excitement wore off, and I was left with the same depression and low self-esteem, just in a different package. I started to see things more clearly. I noticed that within the trans community, there were many different types of people with very different reasons for transitioning. I met people who seemed to be driven by sexual compulsions, and I saw that autism was very common. I began to question the one-size-fits-all narrative I had believed in so strongly.
I started to detransition because I realized I had been wrong about myself. My problems weren't about being born in the wrong body; they were about hating the body I had for other reasons. I had used transition as a form of escapism, a way to run away from myself and my problems instead of dealing with them. I regret transitioning. I regret the permanent changes from testosterone, and I feel like I was led astray by an online community that meant well but was too ideologically driven to offer balanced advice.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's often far more complicated than the current social conversation allows for. I think the intense political pressure to affirm anyone immediately, especially young people, is dangerous. It prevents the kind of honest, rational self-reflection that people like me desperately needed. Two things can be true at once: some people might genuinely benefit from transition, but many others, like me, are trying to solve a different problem with the wrong tool.
I don't think men and women are exactly the same; we're different, and that's okay. I also don't think it's wrong to be a feminine man or a masculine woman. I believe my own discomfort with puberty was more about the pressures of growing up than about being fundamentally the wrong sex.
I am now living as male again. My relationships with my old friends are normal; we're just bros, and I'm thankful that part of my life was never disrupted. I don't have any serious health complications from the testosterone, but I do live with the regret of making permanent changes to my body based on a temporary feeling.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 17-19 | Experienced severe depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem. Began searching for answers online. |
| 20 | Became convinced I had gender dysphoria after engaging with online communities. |
| 21 | Socially transitioned (to a limited circle); began taking testosterone. |
| 21-23 | Heavily involved in online trans activism, advocating for immediate access to care. |
| 23 | Began to question my transition, realizing it wasn't solving my core issues. Stopped testosterone. |
| 24 | Fully detransitioned and returned to living as male. |
Top Comments by /u/OkHippo1430:
The pressure on psychologists to only be positive and only be validating towards transition is not coming from their own ideology. Its coming from other trans people who have determined that access to trans medical care is more important than the risk of quickly advancing someone like you through irreversible surgeries and medical treatments.
And its coming from the general culture of the left which says that all professions, all government institutions have to listen only to the oppressed and the minorities when formulating policies that effect said groups.
So trans people will continue to be the dominant determinate in how trans medical care is dealt out (as opposed to the narrative that conservatives are somehow in charge of giving out this care, we all know this is false, the people in charge of this care are not 'anti-trans' republicans like they may have been 20 years ago).
So if trans people continue to believe that teenagers receiving surgeries and hormones is that most important thing, then why would a psychologist ever push back and be labelled a bigot?
Shrug, this is how the political left is these days. You must agree with them or you are a bad person. And if you are even associated with the "bad people" then you are also a bad person, regardless of what you believe.
No I am not commenting on the validity of political stances, but I am criticizing the ATTITUDES of those on the left.
I have not read her book. Probably would agree with most of it
I don't know. I am not autistic and most of the MtF friends I made were not autistic. But I definitely met many autistic trans people, its obviously over-represented. But its not like everyone is autistic.
I think autistic trans people are PARTICULARLY bad at understanding passing and whether or not they pass. Its already hard enough for the rest of us to deal with those things.
I doubt most of the trans MtFs posting on tsescorts.com right now in my city are autistic, perhaps 1 or 2. There are definitely different "types" of trans people
It was easy for me. But I also did not tell anyone at my "work" or really anyone outside of immediate family. Many of my best friends from high school (who I did not see as much after college during transition) I did not tell which I am grateful because I think it would have changed our relationship.
I feel I can have a more normal relationship with them now. We can still be bros so to speak
Passing has nothing to do with misogyny. No offense but the ideas you present in this OP are confusing and I don't follow them.
I think you being post-op is very important in determining how you want to live your life. I will not say that Post-op MtFs cannot detransition, that is up to them, but I will say that it makes less sense for post-op MtFs to detransition, because living as a man that way seems unsatisfying.
Well you should start by not being fantastical about where your body is.
16 year olds are well into male puberty. So your idea that your body did not experience puberty... is like incorrect.
I understand if its part of your ego to claim otherwise, but the first step to determining who you are is to be honest with yourself.
This seems like a bit of a troll post idk. If you are 5'10" then you definitely have a large frame and are not some waif.
It sounds like you more want to be convinced that you are too feminine to go back to being male, rather than looking at your situation with a rational eye
Definitely not at 16. And also I don't think there is any good evidence that estrogen will radically change a males hips regardless of the age. There are many biological programs that are not determined by hormones like its some black and white switch. This or that.
Honestly, I am just so tired of the "girls are emotional and incapable of thoughtful decisions and that's why they've got rogd now" narrative.
Personally I am tired of the narrative that boys and girls are exactly the same and that the stereotypes which are based off of observation are some how morally wrong to make or reference.
Fact is you just don't agree with her politics which tends to look at things through a lens critical of the generally dominate Leftist political social ideology that dominates our media and "narratives" when it comes to everything in our society. And thats fine.
But personally, because I likely share more of her politics, I would whole heartedly agree that gender ideology is corroding society. I also think racially essentialist victim stacking like CRT is corroding society.
Maybe if more leftists weren't afraid to share their thoughts, because of fear of being attacked by other leftists, you would have more authors come out with their perspective. But as it stands, leftists are terrified to criticize "gender politics" and this woman is not.
I have not read her work. I prefer to say two things can be correct at the same time. There are lots of sexual freaks and people with fucking pathetic and obvious sexual compulsion that end being "trans". I could go find you a bunch of these MtFs on grindr right now, tis clear the are SEXUALLY mentally Ill. But of course many detrans males or males that regret transitioning did not do so out of sexual compulsion. And those that did do it out of sexual compulsion should be pitied rather than feared. Most people are not "predators", IN GENERAL. Any assignment of that label to trans people is by definition wrong and just trying to attach inflammatory hatred.