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About me
I wanted to be a boy from childhood, feeling like a straight guy trapped in the wrong body. My journey was driven by internalized homophobia and a deep desire to escape the difficulties of being a masculine woman. I now understand my brain was trying to solve a social problem by altering my body. After therapy and self-education, I came out as a lesbian and learned radical self-acceptance. I am now a happy, self-accepting woman who believes in working with the body I was born with.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a kid. I wanted to be a guy for as long as I can remember. I never had the internet back then, so I just sat with these confusing feelings alone. I felt like a "regular" straight guy trapped in the wrong body. It was a deep, persistent feeling.
Looking back, I now understand that this wasn't about being truly transgender. It was caused by a lot of other things piling up. I'm a lesbian, and a lot of it was internalised homophobia. I had a warped self-perception and felt ugly and unlovable. I was bullied and sexualised by men from a young age, which led to a lot of self-hatred and body dysmorphia. I also grew up with religious indoctrination that made it hard to accept myself. I genuinely believed that if I could just become a man, I could escape all of that. I’d fit in, find a woman to love me, and finally be safe and normal. It was a form of escapism from the difficulties of being a gender-nonconforming woman.
I was also deeply affected by the fear and discomfort of being female in this world. I have a lot of anxiety, especially about male violence. I get jealous of the physical safety my male family members seem to have. Being a woman feels dystopian sometimes; I deal with a debilitating monthly cycle that landed me in the hospital once, I get paid less than my male colleagues, and I've had to deal with sexual harassment in the workplace. There were times I wanted to remove my breasts and womb just to escape the pain and the vulnerability. I even experienced what I call "penis envy," not because I wanted a penis, but because I envied the perceived easier life that came with being male. I wanted a beard to hide my femaleness from society.
If I had had access to the internet and YouTube as a kid, like many do now, I absolutely would have transitioned. I would have been on testosterone for years. Luckily, I didn't. When I turned 18, I started getting therapy and educated myself about lesbianism. That was my turning point. Learning to accept myself, coming out, and having family support saved me. I realised that my brain was trying to solve a mental and social problem by altering my body. A brain problem is never fixed by cutting or modifying healthy flesh. I learned that the healthiest option is radical acceptance: working with the cards you've been dealt.
I now believe that what I experienced was a social and mental health issue, not a biological one. I see parallels between transition and other conditions like body dysmorphia or even plastic surgery addiction. The excitement about surgeries, the surgeon worship, the enjoyment of the attention—it all seems related to me. True gender dysphoria, in my opinion, is extremely rare. For most people, it's better to learn to live as a gender-nonconforming person, like a masculine woman or a feminine man.
I don't regret transitioning because I never medically transitioned. But I deeply regret the years I spent in confusion and self-hatred. I regret that I ever felt I needed to change my body to be happy. Now, I fully accept myself as a lesbian woman. I'm different from heterosexual people, and that's okay. I don't need anyone's validation but my own. Embracing my reality has set me free.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Wanted to be a boy. Felt like a "regular" straight guy. Experienced bullying, sexualisation, and internalised homophobia. |
| 18 | A turning point. Entered adulthood, received therapy, and gained education about lesbianism. Began the process of self-acceptance. |
| Adulthood (Present) | Came out as a lesbian. Fully self-accepted. No medical transition occurred. Believe in radical acceptance of one's born sex. |
Top Comments by /u/Open_Cricket6700:
A female will never know what it's like to be male and vice versa...no matter how many surgeries or hormones.
It's like me having dolphin surgery... I'll never be a dolphin 🐬 or know what it feels like to be one, no matter how much I pretend or how many fins I attach.
It's perfectly normal. Even as a lesbian I have all sorts of sexual fantasies.
It's important to realise that not all sexual fantasies should be explored because reality and fantasy almost never align. Example, a woman once asked me to 🍇 role play, my acting was so good she got frightened and we had to stop immediately 😂 I am as gentle as jesus and would never harm anyone but in that moment after just playing around for 2 mins we realised that fantasy and reality are 2 different things.
Women have penis envy at times, so why wouldn't men have vag envy?
We all get curious and wonder what things would feel like.
I've wondered what it would feel like to be dominated yet in real life I would never let anyone do that to me.
In heightened states of arousal we are not fully ourselves, hence men call it post 🥜 clarity lol
Bruh I fear for my life daily. I am a ball of anxiety just travelling to work. Our city is overrun with junkies and I wonder daily if I'm going to make it home to my family. We as women do not have anything easier trust me. When I look at my male family members and how careless and happy they are because they actually have the strength and stature to protect themselves, I get jealous.
Not only that but we deal with debilitating monthly cycles. Everytime I have it I ask myself if I am going to die because I feel like I'm having a heart attack. I was in hospital recently because my iron levels were at 2 which means my heart was struggling, my whole body even went numb.
Then I have to deal with getting paid way less than my male colleagues when they don't even know how to operate the computers at work and I have to constantly help them. I had to login from my phone anydesk at hospital to help them complete a project, imagine that. I told them recently that they will also come knock on my coffin for help.
Then I had to fearfully bear witness to a sexual harassment trial at work too, a man kissed my assistant without her permission and I reported it. So much shit just in 2 years time span, it is in fact a nightmare to be female IMO it feels dystopian. You're not missing out on anything.
Exactly they are especially going to have a very hard time in the workplace with all those different personalities. I have had to deal with ppl being homophobic in my face, I had to report a sexual harassments against a man who kissed my assistant against her will, I had to deal with political arguments, I sat in 5 meetings to deal with a co-worker who refused to ever take accountability for their mistakes.
My openness to different opinions prepared me to stay neutral, calm and professional and drama free in all these situations and to not escalate the conflicts at work. If I was a soft Reddit Mod LOL I would have crumbled a long time ago.
True trans ppl don't care about external validation, it's not a hatred of how they look but a general discomfort presenting as their birth sex to the point that it causes dysphoria. True trans is an extremely small percentage of the worlds population, not to be confused with social contagion, trends, political agendas, attention seeking, confusion, gender identity disorders and autism.
I don't however agree with the medical community that surgery and medication can cure it. We as humans can cure very few things. The safer option is to live as a gender nonconforming person eg. Feminine man or masculine woman. Accepting that the impossible will never be possible is the healthiest option. Work with the cards you have been dealt and you won't have anything to regret in future. I've never heard of a case of an old person saying "I regret not transitioning" but I've seen older detrans ask for euthanasia and be granted it because the loss was just too huge.
I am lesbian, LGBTQ spaces are not trans exclusive, what are you talking about?
I am not on any trans subs as far as I know and would not directly post there to hurt anyone because I know my views are controversial.
My question was Lesbian related in the LGBTQ sub, nothing to do with anything trans related at all.
They stalked my profile and started calling me transphobic. Which to me shows the LGBTQ community has largely been overtaken by Lily Tino types who just love to complain.
It's so weird that ppl read my care and concern as condescending.
The trans community also think that about me when I try to tell them most doctors are not to be trusted.
I'm against the corruption in the medical community, not against my fellow woman/mankind.
I want to remove my breasts and womb every month but it's because it causes me discomfort and pain. I want to have a beard to hide my femaleness from society. This is because of my fear of men and male violence towards women.
I have penis envy...again due to my cycle.
Our body parts cause us distress either because it is painful or because of the way society treats us.
In reality and in a perfect world I don't actually want to remove healthy body parts or sew fake parts onto myself because that is horrifying.
It's just envy for an "easier" life. Grass is never greener on the other side.
Well it's not like you can hear my tone. I also come from a country where we don't beat around the bush, we are very to the point, so maybe Americans get that confused with rudeness. In my culture the person who is most honest with you will immediately tell you what they think instead of putting honey on the lips first.
Believe it or not but ppl in these comments do care about your wellbeing, I don't think anyone is here to judge or attack you.
Plastic surgery addiction, transition, body modification, body dysmorphia, BIID, Munchausen Syndrome seems so very related to each other when I look at all the research and behaviours.
Behaviours: ~Excited about surgeries. ~Excitement that a follow up surgery will be needed. ~Boasting about surgery, complications and even failures and posting pictures/videos of it on social media with zero shame. ~Surgeon worship, the surgeon can do no wrong EVER. ~Enjoying the attention from social media, medical staff, friends or family, total strangers. ~The enjoyment of treating a wound and seeing it heal. ~ Being lost and feeling a void when no more surgeries can be done.
There are a lot more behaviours that cross over. Hence personally I think Detrans surgery is dangerous and that radical acceptance is healthier unless it's a medical emergency of course.
If ppl accepted their healthy functioning bodies from the start they would have way less problems.
The medical community is there to help us when a body part malfunctions or becomes unhealthy. There's a reason medical insurance refuses to pay for cosmetic surgery, well at least in my country.
I also don't think that when the brain is malfunctioning and unhealthy that we should cut and alter the body. Mental health needs some serious revamping.