Maybe I am too hopeful, but I believe we will soon see the day where the number of us who regret medical transition or even blockers will be too much to ignore, and like the lobotomy, this will go down as the worst medical scandal of history. I believe that this will happen, and it will happen SOON.

Ask questions to explore her identity. What makes her masculine? How does she envision herself as a boy? What would that look like in the future? What are her specific transition goals? How will transitioning help her specifically? Does she envision herself growing old as a man? What would that look like? Is she ok with having to use testosterone for the rest of her life? Does she know about the risks of surgery?

I knew I wasn't trans because I finally passed and then I realized it was all wrong. This is the worst possible outcome. I was later diagnosed with autism, ADHD, and BPD. I felt different from other women because I was autistic, and the trauma from being neurodivergent didn't help. Hope this helps you. Please remember that hormones are often permanent

I would advise you not to go though any medical procedures unless you feel persistent and severe dysphoria SPECIFICALLY based on your secondary sex characteristics.

A good rule of thumb is, 'If I was alone on an island, would I still have distress over my body?". If not, don't bother. It's not worth any of the potential complications

Edit: the rest can be worked through with therapy. I STILL don't want to be a woman in this society. Yet I accept that I simply am one.

I blame the professionals who were not, and still not educated about autism and never told me I was an autistic woman, even before all the trans stuff. That is what I am focusing on now. I KNEW I wasn't like most other women, I just couldn't pinpoint how.

Not lesbian, but check out r/Actuallylesbian instead. They seem to share your thoughts. Arielle Scarcella is a lesbian on youtube who also shares some of these thoughts. She has lots of followers so she must be resonating with some lesbians out there

This is tough. I think that they might go on the defensive if you question your identity. Maybe you can just ask exploratory questions like 'What does being a man feel like to you?' and somehow bring up maybe jokingly that they will deal with all the issues of looking like an old man eventually (balding etc). You can ask specifically what their transition goals are and what they want to look like and have a discussion about what usually ends up happening (you look like the men in your family) But yeah this is really tough :(

You remind me of my old self, and I have detransitioned and I had honestly given myself reverse dysphoria from my transition. I recommend NOT going on hormones if you don't have severe and persistent dysphoria regarding your primary or secondary sex characteristics. I turned out to be an autistic female with BPD traits. Hope this helps.

I think my experience might be different than most because I did not experience true gender dysphoria (I thought I had social dysphoria only) and I now see my experience as misunderstanding my very autistic perception of my own gender. I find that this is very different than the average trans experience. I didn't want to be a man, per se. I wanted to BE trans. I don't know if that makes sense. For me, there was no dysphoria to be resolved. There was an identity to be uncovered. I unfortunately now have 'dysphoria' about my voice and hair :/

Take a break from it all if you need. No one might listen to you if you argue on the internet. The best way to change people's minds is to get out in the real world, make relationships and then speak openly to people. Arguing on the internet is usually not worth it. I personally find it very triggering sometimes