Okay, agreed👍🏼. Just one question has come to mind now: If trans people's minds are full of delusions, were trans people in the past truly trans? For instance, in historical tribes or among Indigenous people? Weren’t they just GNC? Also, I really like the idea of 'invalidating people here,' because I DO have the same feeling, TBH.

"I believe that a lot of us almost get "locked in" to our traumas and negative mindsets when we transition because transition cements those ideas in place and puts us in a strange stasis in which personal development and growth become much harder."

I agree with this statement ten million times over. As soon as I accepted that I’m a woman—a girl, a female—everyone around me noticed it too. People constantly tell me that I exude positive energy and that I seem obviously happier overall. They don’t know that I’ve decided to detransition, but I often think to myself, "This is just the beginning." It’s as if a lock was broken the moment I embraced my identity as female, and my mental health has improved significantly. It feels like a domino chain reaction. Every day, I discover new aspects of myself and see just how much I’ve changed compared to when I believed I was a boy.

You’ve also mentioned a "quasi-religious aspect," which fascinates me as an atheist. Could you tell me more about it? Have you read any accredited books or articles on this topic?

Exactly, no one screened girls for autism or ADHD because only "boys" are thought to have ADHD. It's insane!!! Sometimes I think it's not as common as it's diagnosed, because I've seen many people who are happy with their transition, but maybe they're still at the beginning, maybe they haven't self-reflected, or perhaps they're fooling themselves... I don't know. Sometimes I think it's not real at all. I honestly don't know.

Wow, that’s exactly how I feel. I have never ever thought I’m a man trapped in a woman’s body. I’ve always, seriously always said that I hate my body because it feels like a prison and it’s not mine. It’s fully prepared for a child—giving birth and breastfeeding—which I hated, & still do. Rarding the last point, it has always been a challenge for me. I feel the same way. Honestly, when I see a trans man, it feels different from when I see a cis man. Sometimes, I felt ashamed and told myself, 'You’re being judgmental too.' With all the messaging that 'trans men are men' and 'trans women are women,' I’ve thought if I didn't believe this idea, it made me narrow-minded.

Thanks a lot for your comprehensive and interesting answer. I have a friend who is a gay trans man. He's in terrible condition right now because his phalloplasty was botched. He has been completely butchered by his doctors in both his lower and bottom surgeries. When I see him, it really breaks my heart. He's clearly suffering from many mental health issues. I feel so sad thinking that he lost everything for nothing, especially "if transgenderism doesn't exist." He always says, "I don't have any family." He was mistreated by a doctor who constantly told him, "I'll operate on you, but you'll still be a girl." Even after the surgery, he doesn't have a partner, and he's constantly sick, in pain, and sad. I always ask myself: why are doctors and others trying to take our lives? For what? Seriously, for what? And now you answered me.

That's quite interesting: 'There's no actual scientific evidence that transgenderism exists.' So, if a trans man says, 'I transitioned because I'm a man,' is he just a girl dealing with mental health issues? Or can you explain how so many psychologists, trans volunteers, and counselors are dedicated to supporting trans people, with some even promoting their services/advertising transness? Are all of them wrong, and should we ignore their expertise/their arguments? In that case, are we living in an illusionary world?

I get what you're saying. I once asked a trans guy about using the word "different," and he said it was wrong and that I should say "minority" instead. So, I’ve stopped using "different," even though I don’t totally agree. I remember when I identified as a trans man, one of my doctors said my identity was "completely artificial" and that I’d be an "artificial boy." That really hurt. Starting my transition was rough—people would clock me, updating my documents was a nightmare—every step felt awful. Family, doctors, friends, girls... . I know how hard life can be as a trans person. These days, I don’t really argue with trans men about it, because I’ve come to feel like they’re just seeing things in a way that doesn’t fit for me anymore. I don’t want to make anyone feel invalidated or sad, but it kind of feels like they’re part of my past. ((I think the way I'm feeling is due to an Emotional Deprivation Schema.)) Sometimes, I even feel like staying away from other trans men because I just don’t relate to their arguments anymore. But honestly, I’m still not sure... I really wish there was an in-person community or gathering for people who are detransitioning. 😊

Thank you so much, my dear friend.😇❣️🙏🌺

I completely agree with you. I remember when I went to a psychologist who was a trans man himself, after my upper surgery. I told him that I regretted it, didn’t want to undergo another surgery, and didn’t want to be a man anymore. He told me, 'You’ve done nothing so far. You have to get a phalloplasty or a meta and experience having a penis. Then you’ll realize that you’re a man.' He said that because I didn’t have a penis, I felt this way, and that mastectomy was nothing—a simple surgery. I immediately left his office and have never stepped foot in there again.