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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, the account "PeachyPlum3" appears to be authentic.
There are no serious red flags indicating it is a bot or a bad-faith actor. The comments demonstrate:
- Personal, consistent narrative: The user shares a specific, repeated backstory (e.g., being a "tiny blonde woman" with authority issues, taking T for ~5 years, being off for ~6 years, having lasting facial hair).
- Emotional depth: The tone is passionate, angry, and regretful, which aligns with the genuine trauma and strong opinions many detransitioners express.
- Practical advice: The user offers specific, experiential advice on topics like shaving, voice, and navigating medical and social situations post-detransition.
- Ideological consistency: The views expressed are complex, nuanced, and consistently critical of what they perceive as "toxic positivity" and rapid-onset medicalization, which is a common perspective in the detrans community.
About me
I started taking testosterone in my early twenties because I felt dismissed as a small, blonde woman and thought becoming a man would earn me respect. After five years, I realized the change was hollow and that I was running from my own low self-esteem instead of fixing it. With my partner's support, I stopped hormones and began to learn how to truly love myself. Now, years later, I'm living simply as a woman, focusing on my life and hobbies instead of my gender. While I regret the permanent changes, I found real happiness by moving on and no longer defining myself by a label.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition started from a place of deep insecurity. I was a small, blonde woman who felt like no one took me seriously. I thought the problem was my appearance, that if I looked like a man, I would finally get the respect I craved. I had a lot of authority issues, feeling dismissed and overlooked because of how I looked. I see now that this was mixed up with low self-esteem.
I decided to take testosterone. I was on it for about five years. For a little while, I thought it was working. People did treat me a bit differently, but it wasn't the real respect I wanted. It felt hollow. Even when people saw me as a man, if they found out I was trans, the dynamic would shift. It wasn't the solution I had hoped for. The hormones didn't fix the problems in my life; they just changed my appearance and, honestly, threatened my health. I have a heart condition, and even though my doctor knew, they still pushed testosterone on me, which is known to make heart problems worse.
During that time, I tried to blend into the trans community, but it felt like everyone was obsessed with the "trans" label. Their entire identity was wrapped up in being trans, not in who they were as people—their dreams, their hobbies, their careers. It felt like a trap.
What really saved me was my partner. They helped me see my own worth and that I needed to learn to love myself instead of trying to hide behind hormones. I realized that transitioning was a form of escapism. I was running from myself rather than dealing with my internal issues. I decided to stop testosterone and begin the process of detransitioning.
It's been about six years since I stopped. Most of the changes from testosterone have reversed. My body shape returned to a more feminine one, and my voice softened. But one of my biggest regrets is the facial hair. I have to shave every other day to avoid dark stubble, and it's a constant reminder of a choice I wish I hadn't made. It's hard to feel like a sexy woman when you're shaving your face all the time. I also worry about the long-term effects on my heart.
I don't regret transitioning in the sense that it led me to where I am now, but I deeply regret the permanent changes and the years I spent focused on the wrong solution. I believe that for many people, gender dysphoria is a sign of underlying issues like depression, anxiety, or trauma, and we should focus on treating those first instead of immediately jumping to hormones and surgery. I think it's alarming how easily people, especially young people, are pushed into medical transition without enough exploration of other causes for their feelings. Society and social media trends create a lot of pressure, and therapists are often too quick to affirm instead of asking tough questions.
My thoughts on gender now are much simpler. I think we overcomplicate it. At the end of the day, I am a woman, but that's not the most interesting thing about me. I have cats, I love tarantulas, I have a life beyond my gender. We put way too much stock in labels and presenting our gender and sexuality to the world. It's exhausting. True happiness came from moving on, from focusing on my career, my hobbies, and my relationships. I had to stop identifying as "detrans" and just live my life as a woman. The key was to stop hyper-focusing on gender altogether.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early 20s | Started taking testosterone because I felt disrespected as a small, blonde woman and thought becoming a man would solve my problems. |
| Mid-to-late 20s | Was on testosterone for approximately 5 years. |
| Nearly 30 | With the support of my partner, realized I was using transition as escapism and stopped taking testosterone. Began detransitioning. |
| Now (mid-30s) | Have been off testosterone for about 6 years. Most side effects have reversed, but I have permanent facial hair that requires frequent shaving. |
Top Comments by /u/PeachyPlum3:
I find myself shaving every. Other. Day.
I'm not particularly hairy otherwise, with light, fine blonde hair everywhere. But the stubble is relentless and dark.
It's hard to feel like a sexy woman when you shave your face every day to not be questioned.
I was on for 5 years... Off now for 6. Biggest regret. ... But everything else reversed, so it's not a complete loss.
It's strange how it's become passé to simply be as you are. There's a strangec pressure to constantly change. They'll never be men, those lesbians. It'll be a hard thing to get over if they realize too late that it's simply a trend for the most part
The pronoun concept is to step on egg shells to baby someone. Sorry, but it's true. Not sorry. It's harsh, but we really need to saddle up and realize they there's more to life than crying about hating our body or gender. At the end of the day, you do you, but don't expect everyone to follow suit
Honestly, you're at a point in your life where socially, hormonally, and many other aspects are coming together to try to shape you into the person you will be.
I, unfortunately, call it 'trans trending' with your age group. , And it's very highlighted in the media right now. People might feel like they are not feminine enough as a woman, or not masculine enough as a man, and think they would be more comfortable with the other side.. self-doubt or self imaging problems you may have.
It's normal to not like you, or be uncomfortable at your age. I was there. I'm nearly 30, but I remember being 14, 18, 21 and hating 'me'. You hear this a lot, but you will grow and change with time.
All of that special attention to make you feel like it's amazing for you in the short run, you might feel on top of the world. But amanda, there are so many side effects and many of are irreversible. You can go home, you lose your butt and or breast shape, you may have facial hair for the rest of your life and so much more than nobody talks about like high blood pressure and heart disease exacerbation.
You're having doubts about who you are the person, you need to see the counselor and with therapist and maybe talk about it without jumping on the hormone train immediately. A lot of them are bad for pushing hormones in the same way that some doctors push pain pills.
You don't want to be choices that you make now the next coming year is when what you have done to yourself cannot be undone. Many regret going through surgery so take off parts themselves, or add other stuff that don't change who they are.
It is okay to be here and feel like you aren't a carbon copy of what is the idea image of a woman or a man. That doesn't make you trans, it makes you an individual
When the lgbt community is trying to convice everyone that it's only adults maiming themselves or regretting... I can only shake my head. Kids like yourself and younger are being maimed and hurt before they experience life as welly they are.
I'm sorry they let you go through with it. I'm sorry society failed you.
I hope you can heal and learn to live your life and who you are.
I hope you can find peace 😿 this is why I fight for transitioning to be so so much harder to get. People really need to think about what they want before they destroy themselves like this. It'll never be 100%. A vagina can be turned into a penis and vice versa. We need to find ourselves from within... Not with hrt and scalpels
This story is why we're all here. Honestly, I think we need a pinned archive of statements like this for those who doubt r/detrans to see. The toxicly positive think detransitioning is so rare... When truly trans people are rarer.
Honestly.. Where I live, Pride has become nothing more than a fetish parade. I hear of high schoolers mocking the cis and anyone who is 'vanilla'.
What happened? Acceptance bred resentment?
I've added it to the list of events that I no longer acknowledge tbh. Every day is pride day just as every day is cis, white, black, Asian, cat, etc day.
We need to call it quits with the LGB animosity.
This is why, honestly, I think therapy should address mental issues until at least the age of 25 before ANY gender based hormones or therapies start. So many hormonal teenagers are changing their bodies drastically and regretting it later. After 25 it really calms down
Honestly, the average person has very little in their sights to achieve. The world is on fire, we're working hard to get nowhere, there is past trauma, and so much more. When people can't just go about their lives and enjoy each day... They focus. Those with an unstable constitution and dysphoria/dysmorphia about themselves will hurt focus their insecurities and hatred. This is why we need better healthcare services. ... And perhaps less toleration for babying some... My 2¢ after coming to my senses.
You were most like encouraged and pushed by the same toxic positivity many of us were swept by.
I occasionally lament needing to shave daily unlike many other women because of all the T. While I look like a proper woman again (luckily) I can grow a goddamned beard. Screw the trend. Screw the acceptance of this self destruction.