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The user's comments are consistent, nuanced, and reflect a personal, evolving philosophy on gender that is common among desisters. The argument that gender is an immutable trait (like eye color) that doesn't dictate personality is a genuine and repeated perspective in detransition spaces. The shift in tone in the 2024-08-05 comment is unusual but not a definitive red flag; it reads more like a cynical, off-topic political tangent than an automated or scripted response.
About me
I started my transition because I didn't fit the stereotypical male mold and thought that meant I couldn't be a man. I lived as a woman for years before realizing my thinking was backwards and that manhood is a broad spectrum. I now understand you don't need to "feel" like a man to be one, any more than you need to feel like you have your eye color. I regret the medical procedures, which were based on a misunderstanding of myself and society's narrow expectations. I've stopped hormones and am now learning to live as a man, my own way.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition started because I felt like I didn't fit in as a man. I saw how society expected men to act and dress, and I didn't feel like I matched that at all. I felt more in line with what people expected from women, so I came to the conclusion that I must not be a man. That led me to start identifying as non-binary and then later as a woman. I began taking hormones and lived that way for several years.
Looking back, I realize my thinking was completely backwards. I thought that because I didn't fit a narrow, stereotypical idea of a man, I couldn't be one. I now see that manhood is a much bigger and more diverse spectrum than I ever gave it credit for. The problem wasn't that I was born in the wrong body; the problem was that I had bought into a very sexist and outdated set of rules for what a man is allowed to be.
I don't believe it's possible to "feel" like a man or a woman. I don't "feel" like I have blue eyes; I just do. That's how I see gender now. It just is what it is. A lot of the confusion, for me and I think for others, comes from believing that being a certain gender should make you feel a specific way. When you don't feel that way, you assume you must be the other gender. But that's a trap. Your gender doesn't have to dictate how you express yourself, what you wear, or how you think, any more than your eye color should.
I benefited from stepping back from all of it and just trying to live my life without constantly analyzing my gender. I realized that manhood and womanhood are both spectrums. A woman can have a so-called "male brain" and that's noteworthy precisely because she is a woman. It doesn't mean she's not a woman; it just means she's her own kind of woman. The same is true for men.
I do have some regrets about medically transitioning. I spent a lot of time and money on something that was ultimately a misunderstanding of myself. The idea that surgery that results in sterility is "life-saving" seems backwards to me now; it often feels like it's more about making a person functional for society rather than what is truly best for the individual.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Realized I didn't fit male stereotypes and began identifying as non-binary. |
| 21 | Started identifying as a woman and began taking estrogen. |
| 28 | Began to question my transition and the concept of gender identity. |
| 29 | Stopped taking hormones and started detransitioning. I am now relearning how to live as a man, just a different kind of man than I thought was possible. |
Top Comments by /u/PirateNinjaLawyer:
Just because you don't "fit in" with your gender, doesn't mean that you aren't that gender.
Instead of thinking that you must belong in a different bucket, maybe you should consider that the first bucket is actually much bigger and diverse than you originally thought
Even if it were true that a female can have their brain wired in such a way that its more similar to a male's brain or vice versa It's literally an example of "the exception that proves the rule"
A woman having a "male brain" is noteworthy BECAUSE she's not a male
A man having a "female brain" is noteworthy BECAUSE he's not a female
I realized that gender isn't a spectrum. Manhood and womanhood are spectrums.
I thought I was a female because I didn't meet society's expectations of what a man should be, and fell more in line with society's expectations of women.
I realized that these societal expectations are outdated and sexist. Men can dress,act, think how differently from how society says we should
It's never really about what's best for the individual, sadly, it's about what's best for society at large. Life saving surgery ensures that the individual is able to continue paying taxes and provide for society.
SRS typically results in the individual becoming sterile, which is very beneficial to society at large
Instead of thinking that you don't fit in the "male" bucket and so must belong in the female bucket, accept that maybe the male bucket is much bigger than you originally thought.
You can express yourself however you want no matter your gender. Your gender shouldn't effect how you express yourself/feel as a person anymore than your eye color should.
Your gender just is what it is, and there's nothing really more to it
Personally I don't really think that it's possible to "feel" like a girl, or boy. It's like eye color. I don't "feel" like I have blue eyes, I just do.
I think a lot of people think that being a certain gender should make you feel a certain way, and when it doesn't; they think that by process of elimination, they must be the other gender.
I know its easier said than done, but Mayne try not thinking about it, just live your life