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About me
I started taking testosterone because I felt my female body was wrong and didn't fit in. My autism made me obsess over transition as a perfect solution, but it just became a cycle of chasing physical changes. I realized too late that you can't just give a female body male hormones without serious risks and permanent consequences. I now believe being a woman simply means being born female, and you don't need to change your body to be valid. I'm planning surgery to fix the damage and have learned that self-acceptance, not modification, is the real answer.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started from a place of real discomfort, but looking back, I think I misunderstood a lot of what I was feeling. I never felt like I fit in with other girls, especially when puberty hit. I hated the changes in my body, particularly developing breasts. It felt like my body was betraying me. At the time, I thought this meant I wasn't really a woman. I now see that a lot of this was just a normal discomfort with puberty that got twisted into something bigger.
I also have autism, and I think that played a huge role. For me, it’s easy to get stuck on an idea and obsess over it, chasing a perfect solution that doesn't exist. Transitioning became that obsession. I thought if I could just change my body to look a certain way, then I would finally be happy and comfortable. I started taking testosterone and it felt like I was taking control. But it was like a never-ending game. Okay, my voice dropped, but then I wanted more changes. It was a cycle of chasing the next physical modification, thinking it would fix the internal discomfort.
I started to realize that this was a trap. I told my doctor I only wanted minimal breast growth when I was on estrogen, and we tried different combinations of hormones, but it was all just guessing. It didn't solve the underlying issue. I'm still having to get surgery to remove the breast tissue that developed. That was a real wake-up call for me. I saw that you can't just give a female body testosterone and expect things to be fine, just like you can't give a male body estrogen without risks. I know a man who had to detransition because the estrogen was causing him to have seizures. Our bodies are built for the hormones we were born with.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I don't believe there's one way to be a man or a woman. Being a woman can be as simple as you were born female. You don't need to change your body to prove you're masculine or feminine. There are plenty of female bodybuilders! You don't need testosterone to build muscle; on estrogen, I actually gained more muscle because I worked out more consistently. The problem wasn't my body, it was the idea that I had to fit a specific mold. I think we've gotten to a point where it doesn't make sense to heavily gender things. A woman is just an adult human female, and that can mean anything you want it to.
I do have regrets about my transition. I regret the permanent changes to my body and the health complications I now have to deal with. I regret getting caught in that cycle of body modification, thinking it was the answer to my unhappiness. The real answer for me was finding out what makes me, as a woman, great, and stopping the obsession with changing everything else. I've become much more pro-nonconformity and less supportive of jumping into medical interventions. We confirm this idea that you need to modify your body to match a feeling, and we even have insurance pay for it, which just sets people up to never be happy. The goal should be self-acceptance, not a never-ending chase.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started hating my body and breast development during puberty. |
| 19 | Began taking testosterone, believing I was transgender. |
| 22 | Realized the hormone therapy was a cycle of obsession and wasn't solving my problems. Stopped testosterone. |
| 23 | (Current Age) Planning top surgery to remove breast tissue developed from hormone experimentation. |
Top Comments by /u/Potential_Taste3486:
There are plenty of female boyd builders. Do they take T? I dont know the answer. What is it about being a woman that seems bad? Is it patriarchy making you feel less than? You also dont need tetsterone to make mscules. On Estrogen I gained more muscle than I had on testerone because I worked out more.
honestly just look at the brow bone. Ive never seen someone afab that didnt look off becaus they have no male brow bone. Maybe if they got surgery I wouldnt know, but I dont think that is common. Most MtF are driven toward FFS which is why they are often far more passible. Ive seen so many bearded women calling themselves men.
yeah you really dont need it. Why dont trans people ever talk about the number of issues these drugs can cause? I know a man on estrogen who had to detransiton because the estrogen was literally causing seizures. You cant just give a female body testerone and expect thigns to be all dandy. A female body was literally made for estrogen. I dont care how anyone dresses or defines themselves, but these drugs and procedures arent standard care.
What led you to want to live as a trans person anyway? Girl simply means born as a girl. Just because you took T doesnt mean you were ever a man. Thats the thing transmen are still female and basically masculine women. Calling yourself a man doesnt mean you're actually a man like real men born male, you're just someone calling themselves a man. There is no way to be a woman and you've always been one!
yeah and even on hrt i realized its all guessing. I told my doctor i wanted minimal breat growth on esrogen and we tried different combos but im still ahving to get breast removal. But through my experience have become more pro nonconormity and less jumping into a neverending body modifcation game. We confirm this gender body modification and even have insurance pay for it, which leads us to never really be happy. Its awesome to see more regular looking people in beauty ads and even oversized models. As someone like me tahts ASD it can be a never ending game of chasing the next thing, ok boobs, butt, face, and never really being happy. The answer is finding out what makes you as your original gender / sex great and stop worrying about everything else,
yes, and they can go into other features scuh as brow bone, many of these features develop very early on. There is no surgery to change that. I mean look at height, these ftm call themsleves "short kings". Its just semnantics to deny the fact that they are indeed female.
there is no one way to be a woman or a man. Neither a man nor a woman is less than the other nor better or worse, just in a biological system that was meant to help produce offspring. You're either the egg or the sperm. I think we've gotten beyond a point where it makes sense to heavily gender things and being a woman can be as simple as you were born female.