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About me
I was born female and my journey started when puberty hit, making me feel completely out of place with my own body. I was influenced online to believe medical transition was the only solution, so I took testosterone and had top surgery to become male. I soon realized that changing my body didn't fix the underlying mental discomfort rooted in my depression and low self-esteem. After detransitioning, I found that true healing came from therapy that helped me confront those issues directly. I now live with the permanent regret of my infertility, and I believe we need to offer mental solutions before considering such drastic physical changes.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was really young, feeling completely out of place with my body. I was born female, and when puberty hit, I hated the changes more than anything. I hated my breasts developing; it felt like a betrayal of my own body. I didn't have the words for it then, but I now know that was gender dysphoria. It’s a real mental discomfort, and for me, it was really severe.
I spent a lot of time online looking for answers and found communities that told me this feeling meant I was trans. I was influenced a lot by what I read and by friends I made in those spaces. They supported the idea that medical transition was the only way to be happy. I started identifying as non-binary first, but that quickly shifted to wanting to fully transition to male. I thought taking testosterone and getting top surgery would finally make me feel right in my own skin.
I did take testosterone for a while and I got top surgery. For a short time, I felt a kind of relief, like I had solved the problem. The people around me who had encouraged me to transition celebrated it. But that feeling didn't last. The underlying discomfort was still there; it had just changed shape. I realized I had been trying to solve a mental problem with a physical change. It’s like if someone is scared of heights, they don't need new legs to feel safe. They need to work out the fear first.
I came to understand that my issues were rooted in more than just gender. I struggled with depression and very low self-esteem. I think a lot of my discomfort was also tied to puberty itself and the pressure I felt from society about how a woman should look and act. I saw how straight men who show any feminine traits are bullied and overlooked, and I think I internalized a lot of that fear. I didn't want to be seen as a soft woman; I wanted to be seen as strong.
When I decided to detransition, the same online communities and friends who had supported my transition completely cut me off. It was a lonely and isolating experience. It showed me that they didn't really care about me as a person; they just cared about the trans identity. I had to learn to love myself, which is a much harder journey than taking hormones. It’s better to learn to love yourself than to do costly, drastic, and dangerous changes.
I don't believe "transexuality" is real in the way it's often presented, but I know gender dysphoria is a very real mental struggle. However, I believe it needs mental solutions first and foremost. Medical intervention should be an absolute last resort, especially for young people. I have serious regrets about my transition. I am now infertile because of the hormones I took, which is a permanent consequence I have to live with. I think about how many others are unhappy or have regrets but feel they have to put on a fake smile and pretend because the community doesn't want to hear our stories.
My thoughts on gender now are that men and women are different, influenced by their hormones, which can affect personality. But there's a natural spectrum. Some men have less testosterone and are less assertive; some women have more and are more ambitious. That's all normal. We don't need to medicalize these natural variations. I want to believe we are stronger than the chemicals in our brains.
I ultimately benefited from non-affirming therapy that helped me work through my underlying issues instead of just affirming my desire to transition. I had to confront my low self-esteem and depression head-on. My biggest regret is not getting that kind of help sooner, before I made permanent changes to my body. I wish I had listened to the people who loved me and urged caution, instead of being influenced online.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started hating my body and the changes of puberty; began feeling severe gender dysphoria. |
| 16 | Spent a lot of time online; was influenced into believing I was trans. Started identifying as non-binary. |
| 18 | Began taking testosterone. |
| 20 | Got top surgery. |
| 22 | Realized the medical changes didn't solve my underlying mental discomfort; began to detransition. |
| 23 | Underwent non-affirming therapy to address depression and low self-esteem. Stopped testosterone. |
Top Comments by /u/PowerOhene:
I have tremendous respect for her telling the truth.
In reality the radical left doesn't give a sht about trans people.
When she went on T they "supported" her
When she detransitioned they cut her off.
Chloe is brave and intelligent.
Hormones, puberty blockers and surgery are not they way, a sad reality. Mental health needs mental solutions, gender dysphoria is real, but not primarily physical.
Waaaay more than 1% of trans people are unhappy, have regrets, want to/have detransitioned, are depressed or on the verge of/have committed self life end.
All of these collectively make up more than 1%, Those who are no longer with us, or severely depressed? media covers them up, and doesn't tell their stories
Those who have regrets or are simply unhappy with the transition, just put on a fake smiles and pretend they are happier.
Leaders and the like want to ignore the science, the bad consequences, the regrets of the T in the lgbtq+
Its infuriating, they pretend they care, but they just want profit/ cultural dominance or control. They don't care about all the kids/adults/parents severely hurt by the mistreatment of gender dysphoria.
Sadly but truthfully - Ignorance is bliss
Denying the reality that gender dysphoria is a mental allment and not a 'end all be all' - is negligence, it should be criminal, so much can go wrong during that operation/hormone therapy
There is a risk with most things ( bbl's can be deadly, steroids are dangerous etc ) but the life altering issue that cones with being "trans" should never be glossed over, yet her we are
I feel for you and your story, but please don't hate yourself! you were strong enough to get out, love yourself instead! 💚
This is why we need things like "Gays against grooming"
Young people with gender dysphoria need 'mental medicine' not life altering surgeries
I wish you all the best forward! 💚
Oh, gender dysphoria is a real thing
But it is a mental discomfort, it can be fleeting or really severe.
In some cases, a normal puberty completion or time is enough to be "cured"
Sometimes medical and psychiatric assistance is needed.
But surgery and opposite sex hormones is not the answer imo
Someone who is scared of heights doesn't need new legs, first they need to work out the fear.
It's better to learn to love one self than to do costly, drastic and dangerous changes.
This what i tell em;
"Transexuality" is bullshit, Gender dysphoria tho, is a real thing
But it is a mental discomfort, it can be fleeting or really severe.
In some cases, a normal puberty completion or time is enough to be "cured"
Sometimes medical and psychiatric assistance is needed.
But surgery and opposite sex hormones is not the answer imo
Someone who is scared of heights doesn't need new legs etc to feel safe, first they need to work out the fear.
It's better to learn to love one self than to do costly, drastic and dangerous changes.
The truth hurts, especially to them sadly
We don't need more ppl addicted to plastic surgery, many guys don't actually wanna date a barbie like nikki manaj or kim k. If you ask a average guy what he finds attractive in a woman, you would know how simple men see it. The average man is not really pressuring nobody, squats over bbl's etc.
Gender dysphoria is not cured by physical intervention 99% of the time, many people whom transition never truly feel like the sex they wanted to transition to, but gender surgeons, doctors etc refuse to do long term studies, as they know the truth would expose thier lack of care and greed they harbor.
Women often say "my husband" etc
I don't know where u live or how you grew up
But in the 'modern west' of the world foggy equality is coming, the man doesn't own nothing. Stay at home husband exist, woman are equal, some are leaders and breadwinners!
I hope you find peace within - wish you all the best 💚
It might be a "told you so! you shoulda listened!"
Childish father, someone makes a mistake because of complex reasons and you bully them for it? all humans make mistakes god dammit, being a jerk to your own child is bizarre to me - i wish you both the best 🙏🏿
Balance it out by never skipping leg day! ( if ya already done plenty legs then thats great )
Women that workout usually get pretty leg, glutes and thighs dominant - a feminine look even tho they put on muscles
Having muscles doesn't take away from your feminity! ( some straight guys are into that anyway, btw )
Do not care what society thinks too much, you are you! you are unique, you deserve love, and you should try to love yourself first and foremost 💚