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The user's story is highly detailed, emotionally consistent, and spans personal topics like autism diagnosis, PMDD, military service, and desisting. The writing style is natural, with varied sentence structure and personal anecdotes that are difficult to fabricate consistently. The account's perspective aligns with known experiences of female desisters who detransition for reasons like social alienation, trauma, and co-morbid conditions, rather than a centralized political narrative.
About me
I was a kid who loved dinosaurs and only had male friends, but I never felt like I fit in anywhere. I started hating being female when I got unwanted attention from men and struggled with severe mood swings from my cycle. Getting my PMDD diagnosed and treated with birth control completely eliminated those feelings of dysphoria. My time in the Marines showed me that medical transition wouldn't have solved my deeper issues, which I now understand are also linked to autism. I'm glad I never medically transitioned and finally got the right help for my actual conditions.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition started when I was really young. I was always a kid who loved dinosaurs, cars, and dragons, and I only ever had male friends. As I got older, it became harder and harder to make friends with girls. I just didn't understand how to be friends with them; their social circles felt complex and confusing. Boys were simpler and easier for me to understand, but even then, I never really fit in anywhere.
I was an ugly kid, and people treated me worse because of it. I was also weird and didn't pick up on social cues, which made me an easy target. Girls would mess with me in ways I often didn't even realize until later, and boys would just make fun of me straight to my face. I hated the attention I got from men when I hit puberty. From the age of twelve, I was seen as a sexual thing, even by my own father, and I hated myself and them for it. My own leg hair became an object of male attention, which felt disgusting and wrong.
A huge part of my discomfort was also tied to my cycle. Throughout puberty and into adulthood, I had terrible mood swings, severe bloating, cramping, and a mental instability that wrecked my relationships. It wasn't until I went through boot camp that I figured it out. My period stopped during that time and my mood became completely even and normal. I was shocked when all the instability came back after boot camp. I was eventually diagnosed with PMDD. Getting on the right hormonal birth control made all those symptoms, including feelings of dysphoria and dysmorphia, go away.
I'm currently in the process of getting an autism diagnosis, which explains a lot about why I never understood social situations and always felt like such an outsider. I think a lot of my desire to transition came from never fitting in as a girl and hating how men treated me. I wanted to escape being seen as weak and pathetic for being small and female.
I joined the USMC after I desisted. The military environment really put things into perspective for me. I've known a lot of transgender people in the military, and almost all of them had serious comorbid mental issues that made it impossible for them to handle the stress. Many got kicked out for suicidal ideation, failure to adapt, or assault. I was even stalked by a male-to-female person in my unit who was obsessed with me because he assumed I was a lesbian. It solidified for me that I had made the right choice in not going through with a medical transition.
Looking back, my thoughts on gender are that people are just individuals. The generalizations people make about men and women drive me crazy; we're all just people with different interests and personalities. I don't regret exploring my gender because it led me to understand my PMDD and get the help I needed for that. I don't regret my social transition either, as it was a part of my journey, but I am glad I never medically transitioned. I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy and finally getting the right medical treatment for my actual conditions.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Childhood | Always preferred stereotypically male interests (dinosaurs, cars, dragons) and only had male friends. |
| Pre-teens (12) | Began experiencing unwanted male attention, including from father. Started hating being perceived as female and sexual. |
| Throughout Puberty/Adulthood | Experienced severe mood swings, bloating, cramping, and mental instability linked to menstrual cycle. |
| 18 | Went through USMC boot camp; period stopped and mood stabilized, revealing the hormonal source of my issues. |
| 19 | Diagnosed with PMDD and started hormonal birth control, which eliminated cycle-related dysphoria and other symptoms. |
| 19 | Desisted from social transition and joined the USMC. |
| 20 | Began process of seeking an autism diagnosis. |
Top Comments by /u/Present_Toe_what:
im in the military (usmc). I have known several transgender individuals in the military.
I have not met any save for one FtM that was combat capable which is our purpose. To get hormones or transitional help you essentially have to tell them you’ll kill yourself without them and if you do that it’s an automatic separation. Or you have to prove you have absolutely no other mental issues which guess what? Most of them do.
and tbh I wouldn’t want most of the trans people i’ve met at my side in combat. All but two of the dozen or so trans people I met got kicked for suicidal ideation, failure to adapt or assault. And yea it wasn’t because people hated them it’s because they had serious issues. when you have insanely harsh schedules and work environments that destroy your mental state, you should NOT already have a fucked up mental state.
I was also stalked by an MtF in my unit who told me he was obsessed with me bc i was a lesbian. I was not, he assumed I was bc my hair was short at the time. The other two MtFs I met at other units also assaulted both men and women which makes me distrust them in the military- which already has issues with assaults- in general.
The other thing is that I def do not want them in boot camp with their identified gender. You take shits and shower in completely open areas with your plt, toilets have no stalls/doors and showers are just a wall with shower heads. A lot of females would’ve refused to train and been dropped from the military if a full ass male was in there with us.
Hey, for bathing suits, I can help you out. Buy racing suits (theyre cheaper used) like Tyr, Arena, Speedo, etc. They’re compression suits and theyre great for people with slight or flat builds. I’m quite small and they make me look flat anyways, while still being flattering
it’s because far more women transition now than men (the inverse of how it was for a long time, until trasngender got popular on social media) so now far more detransition. I’ve also heard men are less likely to admit to themselves they were wrong and detransition but idk if that is true i don’t have enough personal experience around detrans males to know
This post is just weird as hell. You talk like men and women are different species and put women on this weird pedestal. And then you say that women who transition due to negative male attention are TERFs…..????????
Humans are individuals. Yes there are gender norms. But people are incredibly different. You are making huge generalizations about people.
I transitioned partially because I had NEVER been able to make female friends. For the most part I was ostracized and bullied because I was an ugly kid, and I had irregular interests and behaviors. I could not properly navigate the complex social circles of most girls and flocked to male friend circles, which are simpler and easier to understand, but I still did not fit in.
I also transitioned because men treated me like I was weak and pathetic for being small and female. I hated being seen as a sexual thing, even by my father, at the age of twelve. My leg hair was the object of male attention when I was twelve and I hated myself and them for it.
I am a weird person. I have varied interests. I don’t get along with most people and get described as eccentric. When I introduce myself I don’t start with “I’m a woman.” I start with my name and “I like to dance.”
I’m naturally flat, and the best-looking suits for that, in my opinion, are one-piece racing suits. They’re flattering with the compression material, usually comfortable (don’t buy new and don’t buy tech suits or they won’t be nearly as comfy, tech suits are downright painful)
Tyr, Speedo, and Arena are my fav brands
I have PMDD, it’s like this for me, I feel dysphoria/dysmorphia when Im off the meds, but it goes away when I’m on. Some other symptoms (horrifying week long mood swings depending on the time of the cycle, severe bloating of my stomach and face during my period, severe cramping, weakness in my legs, and mental instability that affected my relationships severely) also go away.
From being active in the military here’s two cents.
The problem is 99% the mental and physical issues that come with being trans (how many do you actually know didn’t have some sort of comorbid issue?) and the medicines and post surgery things (like dialation) that they require. And before you can say “well people in the military get diagnosed with depression/anxiety/ptsd while in” yes they do, but it often makes them ineligible for deployment. Why would you let someone in you know is going to end up ineligible for the thing you sign up to do? That’s why they don’t let people who have been treated for that sort of thing in without them having been of meds for at least 2 years and pass a psych evaluation.
Also, yea. It’s a bathroom problem. There isn’t privacy in any boot camp or MCT or even some schoolhouses (ESPCIALLY infantry). I mean, no stalls for toilets. Showers are a big open room with showers on one wall. It’s commonly like this in field environments. It wouldve been horrible for my all female platoon to share that with males.
There is a pecking order to every pack, male or female. I was an ugly kid. People almost ALWAYS treat ugly people worse. I was also weird and didn’t understand social cues which made it easier for girls to fuck with me without me knowing I was being fucked with really.
Men would do the same sort of stuff except they make fun of you straight up most of the time. It’s just the same pecking order but with a different socialization. You’re weird and ugly and awkward, that makes you easy to make fun of. And a lot of girls experience this, by the way, and even girls higher in that pecking order feel insecure about themselves and anyone will be mean.
You’ll never understand what it is about navigating being a girl as a preteen and teenager because you weren’t one. I cannot impress upon you the intricacies of it. It isn’t all fun and “omg i’m one of the girls squee” shit i see on mtf forums. I wouldn’t say “women are awesome” like id say “cats are awesome” because I have met an equal number of bad, morally grey, and good women, same as I have men.
again it just sounds like you don’t spend a whole lot of time interacting with people on a basic level and get to know a lot of them. I work a job where I meet people of all ages and from all over and I get to know them, so I definitely see a bit more of it, but anyone can do it
Get checked for PMDD!! I had the same issues throughout puberty and into adulthood. I went thru boot camp and when my period (hormone cycle really) stopped during so, my mood became even and normal. I was flabbergasted when I became unstable again at the return of my period. Was put on a couple dif hormonal BCs until I found one w no side effects that stops PMDD from wrecking my life.
yes, it was part of what happened to me (many things contributed). I always loved dinosaurs, cars, dragons. As a little child i had only male friends. As i got older it became harder to have girlfriends. I didn’t understand how to be friends with them. Boys were easier.
I am in processing for an autism diagnosis.