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Based on the provided comments, this account appears authentic. The user's posts are highly personal, emotionally charged, and contain specific, consistent details about a detransition journey (starting T at 16, mastectomy at 17, detransitioning at 19-22, being off T for 3 years). The language is nuanced, with self-reflection and regret that reads as genuine. There are no red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic account. The passion and anger expressed are consistent with the experiences of many detransitioners.
About me
I started as a tomboy who felt intense discomfort with my changing body during puberty, which I mistook for being a boy. I medically transitioned as a teenager, taking testosterone and having surgery to remove my breasts, which I deeply regret. The hormones changed my personality and even who I was attracted to, and the surgery left me with physical and emotional scars. I stopped everything at 19 and realized I had always been a woman who just needed time to grow into myself. Now, I'm learning to accept my changed body while mourning the female life and motherhood I lost.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was about 14. I was a tomboy and I started feeling really uncomfortable with my body as it changed during puberty. I hated the development of my breasts; it felt foreign and wrong. At the time, I thought this feeling was gender dysphoria and that I must be a boy. Looking back, I think it was just the normal discomfort of puberty that I couldn’t handle, mixed with some low self-esteem. I didn't actually want to transition or be "weird," but the feeling was so strong it just took over.
I started socially transitioning to male when I was 14, which I now feel was far too young. I began testosterone injections when I was 16. The hormones changed me a lot. I felt more confident for a while, but I also became really angry and found it hard to keep friends. My personality felt different. My family has since told me how much calmer and more level-headed I've been since I stopped.
When I was 17, I had a double mastectomy. I remember my grandmother saying, “I hope that’s really what you want,” and I thought she was being silly. I was convinced I needed it to look like a boy. I wish I had listened to her. I got rid of my breasts before they were even fully developed, before I knew who I truly was. The scars are very noticeable, and I have numbness in my chest. I’ve never felt comfortable taking my shirt off in public because of the scars. I also didn’t realize the importance of breasts until later, when I thought about wanting to have children and being able to breastfeed, especially during things like formula shortages. It pains me every day, especially in intimate situations with my boyfriend.
My sexuality changed a lot through this process. Before testosterone, I was obviously attracted to men. But when I started T, I became exclusively attracted to women and even felt almost homophobic about it. After I stopped testosterone three years ago, my attraction to men came back strong, just like it was before. I’m almost exclusively attracted to men now. I still find some women dateable, but it doesn’t feel as right. It’s weird how much the hormones affected that.
I stopped testosterone when I was 19. The biggest moment of clarity for me came a few months after stopping, when I met the first man I was ever with. He made me realize how badly I had missed being a woman and how much I wanted to be a mother someday. I realized that transitioning didn’t make me a boy. Boys think and act differently in ways I never even considered. In our society, men are expected to be tough, work hard, and provide. I feel like I have to put on an act every single day. I’d do anything to be my old female, tomboy self again.
I have a lot of regrets. I feel like I was influenced by the online world and by the doctors I saw, who were all very affirming and encouraged me to go through with everything. I curse the doctors who allowed this to happen to me when I was a minor. I look back and wish I had gone with my gut feeling of not wanting to transition. The best advice I can give is that if you have any doubts, you need to block out the opinions of others and listen to your gut. Don’t go through with it. For a lot of people, that feeling of discomfort passes with time. The only way to get through it is to avoid obsessing over it, don't look in the mirror and picture yourself as a different gender, hang out with friends who know the real you, be close with your family, and hope the feeling passes.
Dating is extremely hard for me now. I constantly feel like I will never look like a woman again. Some guys don’t mind, but most do. It’s a daily struggle.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and developing body. Began social transition (living as male). |
| 16 | Started testosterone injections. |
| 17 | Had a double mastectomy (top surgery). |
| 19 | Stopped taking testosterone. |
| 20-22 | Realized I am a woman and began living as female again (detransition). |
Top Comments by /u/Pretty_ktty3:
I understand except I was 17. A minor. A baby. I curse the homosexual doctors that allowed it to happen to me. But there are women who have mastectomies, it’s not unheard of. (Breast cancer) so the technology to have implants or whatever you think is growing more available. Unfortunately not even close to being the same but it’s nice to know it’s an option.
I started transitioning FTM at age 14. Too young. I started T at 16, double mastectomy at 17. Off T at 19, realizing im a woman age 20-22. For me the most clarity came when I was off T for a few months and met the first man I was ever with, the man who took my virginity. He made me realize how badly I missed being a woman. How badly I wanted to have children, be their mother. BE ABLE TO BREAST FEED. But after being encouraged by several homosexual and lesbian doctors that this would all be the right thing for me, I decided to go thru with the surgery and hormones. At the time (on T) I felt so confident yet angry and I had no friends. Being off of it my mom and family say how much calmer and level headed I’ve been off of it. It has a way of fucking with your head so bad and creating this false reality that you can’t see clearly until you stop the injections. I’m rambling at this point but what you need to know is that if you are having ANY doubts you need to block out the opinions of others and listen to your gut. Don’t go through with it. I wish someone told me this 7 years ago
I feel the same way as you. I had a double mastectomy at age 17 and I can remember my grandmother saying “I hope that’s really what you want.” At the time I didn’t even question if I really wanted it or not, I thought it was silly of her to say that because I had to have it if I wanted to look like a boy. I should’ve listened to her. The scars, the numbness, the fact that it’s almost impossible to pass as a woman currently. I can’t believe what I did to myself. It pains me every day and especially in sexual situations with my (bisexual) boyfriend. I got rid of mine before they were even fully developed, before I even knew who I truly was. Sometimes I blame the doctors for allowing this to happen to a literal child. But I digress
Lol, take the opinions of complete strangers with a grain of salt. Comparing detransitioning to world war 2 is so psychotic and ignorant whoever said that should be ignored immediately. That’s almost worth laughing at, don’t take everything so seriously and definitely don’t engage the trolls
Don’t get this false idea that you all the sudden get to go swimming and live with your shirt off. Because you’re going to have very noticeable scars most likely and depending on where you live those scars can draw some very negative attention. I have never at any point felt comfortable having my shirt off in a public setting, not because of my weight but simply because of the scars on my chest from top surgery. I realized the importance of a woman having breasts when I contemplated wanting a child or not and being able to breast feed naturally (especially during formula shortages) And also being attracted to men, it’s extremely hard to date now because I constantly feel I will never look like a woman again. Some guys don’t mind but most do
It could be helpful to know your age. When I was 14-15 I thought I felt gender dysphoria because of a changing body that I wasn’t used to, and I felt the same as you. I did not want to transition, I didn’t want to be ‘weird’ but that feeling of being in a new foreign body overtook me. Now at 22 and post ftm transition (mastectomy and testosterone for 2 years) I look back and wish I went with my gut feeling of not wanting to transition. I guess the only way to ‘cure’ that feeling is to avoid thinking about it at all costs. Don’t look at yourself in the mirror and picture yourself as a boy. Hang out with the friends who know you and like you. Be close with your family. And hope the feeling passes with time because for a lot of people, it does. One thing I’ve learned is that transitioning doesn’t make you a boy. Boys think and act much different than women about many things you wouldn’t even consider. In our society Men are expected to be tough and to work hard and to provide. I’d do anything to be my old female, tomboy self again. It sucks to have to put on an act every single day.
There’s nothing wrong with saying they’re lucky to still have that choice about their body. It’s helpful because they can see the experience of other people who went through something they haven’t. Not everyone needs comfort in their stressful moments. Some people need reality
Before I took T, I was obviously attracted to men. I started questioning my sexuality in my early teens, and started dating women before I had ever dated any men. When I began transitioning and taking T, I became exclusively attracted to women and almost homophobic because of it. After going thru a bunch of shit and realizing I don’t need or want T, I’ve been off it for 3 years and for that same amount of time I’ve been almost exclusively attracted to and crazy about men like I was before T. I still find some women to be dateable but not as easily as I find men dateable and attractive. I couldn’t see myself ever dating a woman again though sometimes I do think about it, it just wouldn’t feel right. It’s weird