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Reddit user /u/PsychologPhilosoph's Detransition Story

Transitioned: 23 -> Detransitioned: 26
male
internalised homophobia
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
homosexual
had religious background
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About me

I started transitioning because I was deeply unhappy being a male and thought becoming a woman would make my attraction to men feel normal. I believed I had gender dysphoria, changed my name to Jessica, and took hormones, which gave me breasts. After a lot of reflection, I realized my pain came from internalized homophobia, not from a true discomfort with my body. Now I'm stuck with permanent physical changes and feel confused and regretful. I'm worried about detransitioning but also about continuing to live based on a misunderstanding of myself.

My detransition story

My journey started with a deep unhappiness about being male. Looking back, I think a lot of it was internalized homophobia. I grew up in a religious background and I prayed constantly, begging God to take away my attraction to men and to just make me a woman instead. I thought that if I were a woman, my feelings would be "normal" and acceptable. I now believe this was the main reason I started transitioning; it felt like an escape from being a gay man.

I became heavily involved in online trans communities. The idea was presented that if you didn't like the stereotypes or the role assigned to your sex, or if you just hated being a man or a woman, that could mean you were trans. I latched onto that. I started identifying as a woman and asked everyone to call me Jessica. I fully believed I had gender dysphoria.

I took hormones for a significant period of time. They gave me breast growth, which at the time I was happy about because I hated my male body. But now, I'm not so sure. The more I learned and the more I reflected on my own past, the more I realized that what I was experiencing might not have been true gender dysphoria. I started thinking it was more of a "gender discomfort" caused by other issues, like my internalized homophobia. It was a really difficult and painful realization because I had already fought with my family over my identity, and all my friends knew me as Jessica. I had physically changed my body.

I began to feel that the trans community had widened the definition of being trans so much that it included people like me, who probably shouldn't have transitioned. I started to believe that needing a diagnosis of gender dysphoria and pursuing medical transition to be recognized as the opposite sex was important, to separate people with a medical condition from those who are dealing with other problems like trauma or internalized issues. I even thought that having alternative, neutral spaces would be better than just self-identification for access to sex-segregated areas.

I don't really believe in the social concept of gender. I think arguing that stereotypes or social roles define man or woman is flawed, because then anyone who doesn't fit a stereotype wouldn't be a man or a woman. For me, it always came back to the body and a deep, innate sense of dysphoria with it, which I now question if I ever truly had.

I do have regrets. I regret not understanding my own motivations sooner. I regret the permanent changes to my body, like growing breasts, because now I'm stuck in a difficult middle ground. I'm worried about regretting detransitioning and losing the chance to live as a woman, but I'm also worried about continuing to live a life based on a misunderstanding of myself. It's a very confusing and hurtful place to be in.

Age Event
Childhood Struggled with homosexuality and prayed to become a woman.
Early 20s Convinced myself I had gender dysphoria due to internalized homophobia.
23 Started socially transitioning, changed name to Jessica.
24 Began taking estrogen and testosterone blockers.
25 Developed breasts from hormone therapy.
26 Began to question if my feelings were truly gender dysphoria. Realized internalized homophobia was a major factor. Started considering detransition.

Top Comments by /u/PsychologPhilosoph:

7 comments • Posting since May 14, 2024
Reddit user PsychologPhilosoph (Questioning own transgender status) comments on a detransition post, advising OP to present more femininely by removing facial hair, styling eyebrows, and trying a feminine hairstyle to better assess their gender identity.
13 pointsMay 22, 2024
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You should try to present fem and remove that facial hair. This way you can see what you are really dealing with. Your facial structure looks fem to me, but your facial hair and eyebrows seem a bit more masculine. Maybe try a more fem hairstyle as well.

Reddit user PsychologPhilosoph (Questioning own transgender status) explains how internalized homophobia and religious guilt over their homosexuality were likely the primary drivers for their medical transition.
11 pointsMay 29, 2024
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To me it feels like saying God just took away my homosexuality lol. Isn’t that based. Like as a child I struggled begging God to take away my feelings of homosexuality and praying for him to make me a woman. Which is leading me to the idea of internalized homophobia. This could very well be exactly the reason I started transitioning in the first place.

Reddit user PsychologPhilosoph (Questioning own transgender status) explains how trans rights activists use stereotypes to justify a core identification-based definition of gender.
10 pointsMay 26, 2024
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I’ve never defended the idea of gender. What’s makes a trans person is gender dysphoria and transitioning. At the end of the day when you argue with a trans rights activist they may bring out the social definition of gender but all definitions include and exclude things that do or don’t meet a given criteria. If you say stereotypes make an individual a man or woman that means things that don’t fit that stereotype are not men and women. This is where they often fall back to the identification of a given gender. Trans rights activists do not genuinely care about the stereotype definition. It’s just a way to make their identification definition longer.

Reddit user PsychologPhilosoph (Questioning own transgender status) explains their doubts about having gender dysphoria and fears about the social and physical consequences of detransitioning.
6 pointsMay 29, 2024
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Yeah, the more I learn the more I’m thinking what I have isn’t gender dysphoria. It sucks though because I’ve already fought with family about my identity. I’ve already got breasts and all my friends refer to me as Jessica. I’m also worried that I’ll regret detransitioning and giving up the potential to pass as a woman and just live that life. Idk, it hurts to think about.

Reddit user PsychologPhilosoph (Questioning own transgender status) explains how "gender discomfort" from issues like internalized homophobia, trauma, or AGP/AAP can be mistaken for true gender dysphoria.
4 pointsMay 30, 2024
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True I agree, I think these differences could be easily weeded out. For instance earlier today someone expressed that they hate being a man. This type of language perked my ears. It made it clear to me they probably don’t suffer from gender dysphoria but maybe one of many conditions that lead to what I refer to as gender discomfort. internalized homophobia, internalized misogyny/misandry, AGP/AAP, sexual trauma etc… these are all things that could lead someone to believe they are a dysphoric individual, but in reality they have another issue at play.

Reddit user PsychologPhilosoph (Questioning own transgender status) suggests requiring medical transition or gender dysphoria diagnosis for sex marker changes and access to female spaces.
3 pointsMay 14, 2024
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I’ve been wondering if we could make it so that to change sex marker or to use female spaces you have to go through a certain amount of medical transition or have a gender dysphoria diagnosis (maybe a mix) to weed out most of that self ID crowd. It would honestly just be the best if we had an alternative bathroom.

Reddit user PsychologPhilosoph (Questioning own transgender status) explains how widening the definition of "trans" to include those without dysphoria or a desire to transition has dehumanized the movement and failed its core purpose.
3 pointsMay 14, 2024
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I think it’s partly because we’ve widened what trans is beyond just having gender dysphoria. We can even accept people who don’t want to medically transition or attempt to pass at all. We’ve got almost militant activists. It seems like we’ve widened what is trans so far that it includes people who should not be considered trans at all, and the movement fails to do what any civil rights movement should do. Humanize the dehumanized.