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Based on the provided comments, this account exhibits serious red flags for inauthenticity.
The primary red flag is the highly repetitive, copy-pasted text. The same lengthy paragraph is posted verbatim at least five times across different days and threads. This is a common tactic used by bots or agenda-driven accounts to spread a specific message efficiently, not the organic behavior of a person engaging in conversation.
While a real detransitioner could hold these views passionately, the lack of personalized engagement and reliance on a single, repeated script suggests this account is not a genuine individual sharing their lived experience.
About me
I was born female and felt trapped by society's expectations of what that meant. I transitioned to male to escape those pressures, taking testosterone and having surgery. I eventually realized my unhappiness wasn't with my body, but with the stereotypes and treatment I faced as a woman. I stopped transitioning and now see myself as a woman who is free to express herself however she wants. I've found peace by learning to live in my own skin without shame.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition wasn't really about my body. It was about the boxes the world tried to put me in. I was born female, and from a young age, I felt a deep discomfort with what that was supposed to mean. I hated the expectations, the pressure to be a certain way—vulnerable, sensitive, to seek support. It felt like a role I never chose.
I started to believe that if I could just become a man, I could escape all of that. I thought that was the answer. I transitioned socially and then medically. I took testosterone for several years. I got top surgery. I was convinced that changing my body was the only way to fix the deep unhappiness I felt.
But it didn't fix it. Instead, I realized I had been misled. The problem wasn't my female body. The problem was how I was treated because of it. I had internalized all these societal rules and made them my problem. I thought my discomfort with stereotypes meant I was in the wrong body. Transition felt like an escape hatch from the shame and objectification that came with being a woman.
Now, I see that there is no right way to be a man or a woman. I don't regret my journey because it brought me to this understanding, but I do regret the permanent changes I made to my body. I regret that I didn't have someone to help me ask the deeper questions sooner. I was so focused on the idea that I was born wrong that I never stopped to consider that maybe the world's expectations were wrong.
I don't identify as trans anymore. I see myself as a woman who went through a difficult time trying to find peace. My thoughts on gender now are that it's mostly a set of stereotypes, and we should be free to express ourselves however we want without having to change our bodies. I wish I had known that it was okay to just be a masculine woman. I wish I had been given the space to explore that without immediately jumping to medical transition. The real healing began when I stopped trying to become someone else and started learning how to live in my own skin without shame.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14 | Started feeling intense discomfort with female social roles and expectations during puberty. |
| 19 | Began identifying as a trans man and started social transition (changing name, pronouns). |
| 21 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 23 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 26 | Began to question my transition and realized my distress was rooted in societal treatment, not my body. |
| 27 | Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of detransition. |
Top Comments by /u/PurpleKriek:
I think you might be referring to the 1% regret rate, because the detransition rate is unknown. Trans subreddits will often conflate the two words (regret and detransition).
Study states (survey pop. of 6,793):
The percentage of people who underwent gonadectomy within 5 years after starting HT remained stable over time (74.7% of transwomen and 83.8% of transmen). Only 0.6% of transwomen and 0.3% of transmen who underwent gonadectomy were indentified as experiencing regret.
This is where the infamous <1% regret rate comes from.
Yet people ignore the massive loss to follow up:
Although transgender people receive lifelong care, a large group (36%) did not return to our clinic after several years of treatment. Therefore, we could have missed some information on, for example, gonadectomies performed at other centers or people with regret.
You are not struggling with being a woman. You are struggling with how the world treats your female body. The shame, the objectification, the pressure to perform a role you never chose.
Society tells women to do A, B, and C. For example, be vulnerable, seek support, express sensitivity. On the other hand, society tells men to do X, Y, and Z. For example, be tough, show ambition, take charge.
So ask yourself this: Do you truly want to be a man, or are you trying to escape what being a woman has come to mean in your life?
It’s not your body you hate. It’s the expectations and assumptions that have been forced upon your body.
You are not struggling with being a woman. You are struggling with how the world treats your female body. The shame, the objectification, the pressure to perform a role you never chose.
Society tells women to do A, B, and C. For example, be vulnerable, seek support, express sensitivity. On the other hand, society tells men to do X, Y, and Z. For example, be tough, show ambition, take charge.
So ask yourself this: Do you truly want to be a man, or are you trying to escape what being a woman has come to mean in your life?
It’s not your body you hate. It’s the expectations and assumptions that have been forced upon your body by society.
You’re not struggling with being a man, you’re struggling with the way your male body is treated and judged by society. The shame, the rejection, the pressure to perform a role you never asked for.
So ask yourself this: Do you really want to be woman, or do you just want to escape what being male has meant your whole life? It’s not your body you hate, it’s the expectations and assumptions the world has placed on it.
You don’t hate yourself. You hate what you’ve been told you have to be. Gender dysphoria isn’t proof that you were born wrong. It’s a response to being forced into narrow roles and labels that never fit. You internalised those expectations and made them your identity because no one gave you the space to ask why you felt the way you did.
This isn’t about failing to be one thing or another. It’s about being human in a world that only offers two boxes. You are not broken. You don’t need to be rebuilt into someone else. What you need is care that helps you understand the pain, not cover it with a new label. You deserve to exist as you are, without having to perform for anyone.
You are not alone in this. There is a future for you that doesn’t require you to become someone else to be accepted. You deserve peace, support, and to feel at home in your own skin.
2cal4u’s comment is great. Taking testosterone and pursuing your transition will only hurt you both in the short term and long, as you’ll just be digging further down the rabbit hole so to speak.
I’ll just leave the following:
You are not struggling with being a woman. You are struggling with how the world treats your female body. The shame, the objectification, the pressure to perform a role you never chose.
Society tells women to do A, B, and C. For example, be vulnerable, seek support, express sensitivity. On the other hand, society tells men to do X, Y, and Z. For example, be tough, show ambition, take charge.
So ask yourself this: Do you truly want to be a man, or are you trying to escape what being a woman has come to mean in your life?
It’s not your body you hate. It’s the expectations and assumptions that have been forced upon your body by society.
I know you asked for female advice, but I haven’t seen any that actually digs deep into the causes for gender dysphoria (except for Equivalent-Cow-6122’s comment). So I’ll leave the following text that I always leave on such posts:
You are not struggling with being a woman. You are struggling with how the world treats your female body. The shame, the objectification, the pressure to perform a role you never chose.
Society tells women to do A, B, and C. For example, be vulnerable, seek support, express sensitivity. On the other hand, society tells men to do X, Y, and Z. For example, be tough, show ambition, take charge.
So ask yourself this: Do you truly want to be a man, or are you trying to escape what being a woman has come to mean in your life?
It’s not your body you hate. It’s the expectations and assumptions that have been forced upon your body.
There is no right way to be a man or a woman. You don’t have to fit a stereotype. You don’t have to change your body to be okay. You just have to learn to live in it without shame, without feeling suffocated by the expectations of what a man should look like and do.
Transition didn’t fix anything because it wasn’t the real issue. The issue was how deeply you felt you had to be someone else to be accepted or happy. You’re not broken. You were misled. You don’t need a new identity. You just need to be allowed to be yourself. That’s enough.
Want to wear makeup? Go ahead. Like dresses or high heels? Wear them. That’s self-expression, not proof you were meant to change your body. There’s no wrong way to exist in your body. You don’t need to be anything other than yourself.
Yeah, I get that. Just understanding it doesn’t suddenly make everything feel okay, and it’s totally okay that it still feels hard. Getting comfortable in your body after all the messages you’ve internalised takes time.
But honestly, even being able to say “I know what this is” is a big step. You’re not broken, and you’re not alone. Just keep going at your own pace. It gets easier, little by little.
What you are describing is exactly the point. You do not hate your body. You hate the way the world treats you because of it. That does not mean you are a man or a trans man. It means the roles and stereotypes tied to being a woman have become unbearable.
Identifying as trans in this case is not about discovering some inner truth. It is about internalising the idea that being more masculine, in a way that fits society’s image of how men behave, must mean you are male. But that is not how it works. Whether your body is male or female, there is no right way to act, dress, or express yourself. You are a biological woman who is simply more masculine. Just like some men are naturally more feminine.
Every human is a mosaic. A unique mix of traits, temperament, and personality. But it is hard to see that when most people are still performing the same old stereotypes they have been conditioned to follow.