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About me
I started transitioning because I was deeply uncomfortable with the stereotypes of being a woman, not with being female myself. I thought testosterone would fix my anxiety, but it just made me feel like I was performing a role all the time. Finding faith helped me see that my body wasn't a mistake and that I needed to find comfort in the truth of who I was born as. I stopped hormones and am now detransitioning back to living as a female. It's a difficult journey with some regrets, but I'm finally learning to accept myself.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started from a place of deep discomfort, but not necessarily with being female. I think I just hated the expectations and stereotypes that came with being a woman. I felt like I didn't fit in anywhere, and I was looking for an escape from myself and my life. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and I think transitioning felt like a solution, a way to become a completely different person.
I started by socially transitioning and then went on testosterone. I thought it would fix everything, but it didn’t. I spent a lot of time online and with friends who were also transitioning, and I think we all influenced each other. I was trying to learn how to be a man by watching other men, from vloggers to celebrities, trying to pick up their mannerisms. I even gave advice to others about eating steak and watching sports to feel more masculine. It all felt like a performance, like I was studying for a role rather than living my life. It was exhausting, and after a while, I realized that feeling like you're acting all the time isn't sustainable.
A huge turning point for me was when I found faith. I was raised Catholic but never really believed it. A friend brought me to their church, and for the first time, I had to seriously confront the idea of God. My main reasons for not believing were that terrible things had happened to me and that I’d never met a Christian who wasn't judgmental. But I realized those weren't arguments against God's existence; they were just my experiences. I started to build a real relationship with God, and it completely changed my perspective. It helped me see that my body wasn't a mistake.
I began to understand that switching genders doesn’t work the way we imagine. It’s like wishing you were a genius and then printing out a fake Harvard degree. No matter how convincing the performance is, it’s not the truth, and people can often tell on some level. The best chance at a happy life, for me, was to find comfort in the body I was born in. It wasn't my favorite option, but it was the true one.
I stopped testosterone and began to detransition. It’s a journey, and you don’t just wake up one day and feel completely alright. It takes time. My body is still changing back, and sometimes I get impatient, but I know I’ll be okay. I have some regrets about the physical changes from testosterone, and I know my body will never be exactly what it was, but I'm learning to embrace it.
I don't think I was ever truly trans. I think I was a woman who was uncomfortable with puberty, didn't fit stereotypes, and was influenced by the world around me. My thoughts on gender now are that it's better to be true to the body you were born in. For me, finding a supportive community and my faith were what helped me finally see that.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 23 | Began socially identifying as male and started to present as male. |
| 24 | Started testosterone hormone therapy. |
| 26 | Underwent a significant personal crisis and began questioning my transition. |
| 26 | Found faith and began attending church, which radically shifted my perspective. |
| 27 | Stopped taking testosterone and began the process of detransitioning. |
| 28 | Currently living as female again and working on self-acceptance. |
Top Comments by /u/Quarter120:
Essentially, everyones been brainwashed into thinking its ok. Traditional logic tells us kids cant make good decisions, hence drinking age, smoking age, age of consent. But for this singular example, everyone forgets about that and says “yay kids make permanent decisions.” Thats how you know its brainwashing. Glad you found your own path. Incredible really that you found it on your ownand at such a young age
Just my take, but i think the best thing to do is go back to female. I think everyone in this sub will tell you that being true to the body you were born in may not be your favorite option but it truly is the best one. Switching genders simply doesnt work the way we all imagine it does. You may be starting from nothing. You may not have too many people around you supporting you as ftmtf. But you will find support. And you will start finding your place and comfort with the life you have now. It may be small comfort. And it may last awhile. But over time itll grow and from my perspective, thats your best chance at a happy life.
Was definitely curious about the face. And you are literally a girl haha just a girl with a tiny mustache. But its very easy to look past and see a beautiful girl. I would guess you feel like your face structure hasnt totally returned but it will, itll just take time.
I think youre great as feminine already. Wouldnt know youre on hormones unless you told me. Not js this, you are beautiful. Truly, you dont need to change. But since you asked, i can think of a couple things if you really wanna go the extra mile: longer hair is generally more feminine. I like your length a lot. But longer could be better. Its just more fem in general. Longer lashes would be more fem too. Yours are fine. But that could be another thing. Last thing id say is just try to dress the part too. But you are beautiful. Im sure a few months off T and youll start to see it yourself
You can kind of equate it to wishing you were a genius. You can print out a degree from Harvard and study a subject the best you can on youtube. You can put your name on academic books you didnt write but know the book front to back. You can tell everyone youre a higher-up at your favorite company. But at the end of the day, no matter how big or detailed the show is, its still not the truth. And somehow people can always tell
The mental grip on them has them desiring to fit in more than anything. Putting them in their own group off in the corner is how they started so certainly not how theyd like to end up. For the record i think their nuts too. Just explaining the psychology here
This is a great description of what a lot of us had to go through. It does sound like you have some dysphoria but it seems thats simply from not fitting the stereotypes of a guy. Just imo, it doesnt sound like thats deeply rooted in who you are or your personality. It sounds like you were born a guy, grew up as a guy, then poked your head out and looked around to find out there werent a lot of guys like you. I think a new environment might be the better solution rather than 30k in surgeries. Esp if you feel like youre acting. Thats taxing after a long while. And though most of us here have probly felt like that, i feel like someone whos “born to be trans” doesnt feel like that. Cuz its definitely not sustainable long term.
Happy to hear that you pass a minimum of 95% lol definitely better than average. I think your most comfortable life is gonna be found detransitioning. No more medications. No more permanent body alterations. Then, honestly, idk where you are or anything but i think the best thing you could do to address it is relocate to a place closer to your balance of masculine and feminine. Like if you live in rural texas, that might be a big factor in your dysphoria. Theres probly a lot of places that would work, Miami, Charlotte, or Jersey maybe, but i think the Pacific Northwest is where your tone fits. Sorry if this is a bunch of garbage and doesnt fit lol only goin off this post and have no idea who you are. But i feel like something clicked with me while i was reading it. So just in case you feel like this makes sense for you, there you go
Thats a good question. I became a Christian and ive met quite a few older men that inspire me to be better. But id bet most people here arent Christian, so in todays world, thats a tough one. Maybe like the other guy said, pick Kobe or Keeanu or someone out of reach but a role model nonetheless
Took me a long time to come around too. But i found out Hes real. Did he create the world? He said he did, but maybe we’ll never know for sure. Did he rise from the dead? He says he did. And so did a lottt of other people who were around for it. But maybe we’ll never know for sure.
But is he real? Definitely
It definitely helps to just consistently spend time with other women and pick up mannerisms naturally. Some slower than others. But the right youtube searches and “studying” women is good too. People like vloggers just describing their day, their reactions, their emotions. Feeding your mind that content and being in that environment