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About me
I was born male and started transitioning at 20, believing it was the answer to my deep unhappiness and discomfort with puberty. I took estrogen for nearly three years, but I eventually realized I was trying to solve an internal problem with an external change. I stopped hormones five months ago and had surgery to remove the breast tissue that developed. I’ve since found my way back to my faith and a much stronger sense of self. I now know my problem was never my male body, but that I hated myself, and I’m finally healing.
My detransition story
My entire journey with transition and detransition was driven by a deep unhappiness that I mistakenly thought was gender dysphoria. For me, it was never really about gender; it was about a profound discomfort with myself and my life that I tried to escape from.
I was born male, but I never felt like I fit in. I had a lot of anxiety and low self-esteem, and I hated going through male puberty. I saw transitioning as a way to become someone else entirely, to leave all my problems behind. I now see that this was a form of escapism. I was influenced a lot by what I saw online; it seemed like everyone who was unhappy just transitioned and found immediate happiness, and I wanted that quick fix for myself. I didn't do enough research into the long-term effects or really question if this was the right path for me.
I medically transitioned for 34 months. I took estrogen and had all the effects that come with that. It was a confusing time because while some parts felt good initially, like people perceiving me differently, a deeper discomfort remained. I started to realize I was building a new identity on the same shaky foundation of unhappiness. I was trying to solve an internal problem with an external change.
Coming to the decision to detransition was terrifying. I knew it would make a lot of people in the trans community uncomfortable because my story didn't fit their narrative. I’ve seen people say that detransitioners like me were "never really trans" or "didn't do enough research," but that feels like a way to dismiss our very real experiences and the permanent changes we have to live with. The movement seems to care more about adding numbers than about the individual well-being of each person.
But I had to stop caring about what everyone else thought. My real friends and family just wanted me to be healthy and happy, and they supported me through my detransition. It was hard work, almost like transitioning all over again, but it was worth it. I’ve been off hormones for 5 months now, and I have gotten my life, my confidence, and my happiness back. My body is slowly reshaping itself naturally. I had to have surgery to remove the breast tissue that developed, as it wasn't just fat and required gland removal. The scars are a permanent reminder, but I am learning to accept my body for what it is: a male body that I altered, but that was always male.
Through this, I found my way back to my Christian faith. I believe that God’s will is for us to live fully, to persevere through every struggle, and to find our truth. My will to live authentically is what guided me back.
My thoughts on gender now are that it is not something you can change medically. I was born male, and all the procedures I did only hindered that reality; they never changed it. I regret transitioning because of the permanent physical changes and the years I lost. However, I don't regret the journey because it led me to a much stronger sense of self and a deeper faith. I finally see that my problem wasn’t that I was born in the wrong body; it was that I hated the one I was in. That was something no hormone or surgery could ever fix.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 20 | Started taking estrogen (HRT) and began medical transition. |
| 22 (approx.) | Underwent surgery to remove developed breast tissue (gland removal). |
| 23 | Stopped hormones after 34 months of medical transition. Began detransition. |
| 23 | 5 months into detransition, feeling my body and mind healing. |
Top Comments by /u/RUN-ESCAP3:
It's OK to feel this way. When you detransition or experience regret, or when you come to accept trans or GD is "curable" outside of medical transition, you go against the narrative and you delegitimize their intense and urgent need to transition. You put at risk their lifestyle since you disprove their transness because you disproved your transness. Your language becomes altered and no longer aligns with their narrow dogma. At least, that was my experience. They are so afraid of losing this "fight" to prove transness that they are willing to sacrifice detransitioners as a "small percent" or "never trans to begin with" or "didn't do enough research." They make no attempt to gatekeep transitioners since they prove trans by adding numbers, even though a large number of detransitioners pop up with life-long negative physical and mental side-effects. The individual is not as important as the movement of the group as a whole.
It’s incredible how our self-perception is so skewed, perhaps even worse than trans people. I suffer much the same. You are very feminine and female looking. I still see the feminine side of my face. It’s not easy to get over. I like to remember I was born male, and never was female, and all the procedures I did only hindered that but never changed it.
Fuck that. I am so pro family and even reconverted to Christian but I'll tell you what, God's will is your will to live and to live and bleed through every cut you're ever gonna take. You're will is to live and there is a way. Make it happen and DM if you need an ear.
I'm glad you're feeling better. I would only advise cautioning against H(T)RT if you're still able to make your own. Even at 20, you are still developing, so since you have got some good changes, consider allowing your body to take over and check your bloods after encouraging natural testosterone production, then consult a doctor about TRT if you are still unhappy with levels around 25.
What you said was correct, so there was no reason for the downvotes. I will add however that the primary gland (non-fatty tissue) composing the major mass in MTF “breast tissue” is hardly removable with liposuction. Only gland removal will suffice, usually best done through the nipple. Though, this surgery is commonly available, the surgeon may not specialize in it leading to varying results.
You're going to continue to be confused about how to proceed if you continue to value everyone else's experience over your own. I admire that you're so focused on other people's thoughts, feelings, beliefs, words, but it is rampant and useless. Look at your last 6 paragraphs or so, 4 of them all about what others will think, feel, do, say, and your plan is to move forward between all these opposing opinions and lilypad through your relationships without letting down a single soul or being exposed to even one sentence that makes you uncomfortable or puts you in the hot seat.
Take a moment and recognize you carve your way through your life. People will say things, people will judge you, people will talk about you, people think things, and people will use your story for their agenda or as dinner conversation or they may be angry with you, happy for you, confused even.
It's not your job to make them happy. Live your life. Say your piece.
And yes, detransing makes trans some people uncomfortable and can make them think and feel many things. Friends stick with you. Friends love you and want you to be happy. Friends and family support you and listen to you and help you. They want you healthy.
Medically MTFTM 34 months on, 5 off. Do it. It gets better. I got my family, my life, my voice, my walk, my romance, my confidence, my happiness, I got it all back. Yes, it detransitioning can be as much work as transitioning. The scars don't go away, the breasts have to be removed, your body will reshape itself naturally and you can help push it in the right direction. Going deeper into transition will not help. You already know trans has caused you pain and discomfort.