This story is from the comments listed below, summarised by AI.
Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on these comments alone, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a larper.
The comments show a consistent perspective (a radical feminist mother of a desister), personal details (age, health issues from menopause), and a conversational tone that evolves over time. The user also acknowledges the community's boundaries, which is not typical troll behavior. The passion and anger present are consistent with a genuine person who feels harmed.
About me
I'm a mom who supported my daughter when she identified as trans and planned to transition to male. The most important thing I did was love her unconditionally, which gave her the safety to later realize it felt dishonest and she desisted. I am also post-menopausal and have seen firsthand how hormonal changes can seriously impact health. I believe in accepting the body you have while expressing yourself freely. Now, I hope for better medical safeguards so fewer people go through what we did.
My detransition story
Of course. Here is a summary based on my comments.
My journey with all of this didn't start with me, but with my daughter. I'm a mom, and a few years ago, my daughter went through a period where she believed she was trans and was going to transition to male. It was a really scary and confusing time for our whole family.
Looking back, I think the most important thing I did was to step back and just love her unconditionally. I made a conscious decision to fully accept that this was the path she might take. I told her that medical decisions about being trans were hers to make when she was an adult, but that no matter what, I loved her. I tried to be patient, consistent, curious, and open. I think that was a key factor for her. She later told me that once she felt completely accepted and knew I loved her no matter what, some of the pressure lifted. She said that trying to be a guy took a lot of energy and felt dishonest. She felt like she was lying a lot. Letting go of that allowed her to find her own integrity.
I’ve seen a lot online comparing the current medical approach to transition to experimental procedures like lobotomies. It feels like doctors are just trying things out to see what happens, and that’s terrifying. I hope that detransitioners are able to sue and that the system is forced to change.
On a personal health note, I’ve experienced my own version of hormonal issues. I’ve been post-menopausal without any hormone replacement therapy since I was 27. I’m 37 now, and it has aged my body tremendously. My tendons are giving me problems, and I’m at a high risk for bone thinning. I also worry about the lack of protection for my brain and that I might face dementia early. It’s a tough hand to be dealt, but I believe we have to work with the body we’re given and try to keep it as healthy and whole as possible.
I’ve always appreciated people who are comfortable playing with gender expression. Some of my favorite boyfriends back in the 90s wore eyeliner and skirts, and they were super hot men. To me, that’s separate from changing your body. I believe in accepting the basic reality of your body while having the freedom to express yourself however you want.
Here is a timeline of the main events from my comments:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 27 | I became post-menopausal and chose not to take Hormone Replacement Therapy (HRT). |
| 37 (Present) | I am currently dealing with the health effects of early menopause, including tendon issues and high risk for bone problems. |
| (Daughter's teen years) | My daughter socially transitioned and planned to take testosterone. |
| (Daughter's late teens) | My daughter desisted after feeling accepted and realizing the transition felt "dishonest." |
Top Comments by /u/RadicalFemale:
Hey, lurker radfem. I stepped back and let the folks here have their space when they asked for non detrans people to not participate in discussions. We talked about it in GC and that was basically the consensus.
I’m bummed people think we larp here, trolls come in any variety. They probably don’t come from a group of women that support your decision.
I’ve been post menopausal with no HRT for ten years, I’m 37 now.
It basically ages your body a ton. All my tendons are going and I’m at a high risk of bone thinning issues. Also less protection for my brain, I’ll probably have dementia by 60.
But that female privilege, amiright?
That’s what I compared it to when this got really rolling. It’s as experimental as lobotomies. Doctors and scientists are doing this because they’re curious and they want to see what happens.
I hope every detransitioner sues and we see the system take a big hit.
As a mom that’s done this that’s all you can do. Be patient, consistent, curious and open. Keep the line between you open and maintain that medical decisions about being trans are hers to make when she is an adult.
I fully accepted my daughter was going to transition and take testosterone. Once I accepted her no matter what and she knew i loved her no matter what she desisted. That wasn’t the only factor in her decision, but it was a factor. She said it was too hard to try to be a guy. It took a lot of energy. It felt dishonest. She lied a lot in those years, now she has integrity and character.
Love your kid, hold the boundaries and take care of yourself.
Some of my favorite boyfriends wore eyeliner, skirts, feather boas, and they were super hot men. The 90’s were great.
I’m glad you accepted you have to play the hand you got. We don’t get a choice about what bodies we get but we do decide what to do with the body we get. Keep it healthy and whole.
Stay safe.