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About me
I was a woman who felt disconnected from my body due to trauma and was influenced by online communities to believe I was a man. I medically transitioned with testosterone and surgery, which I now deeply regret. My real healing only began after I detransitioned and found therapy that addressed my trauma instead of my gender. I am now living as a female again, but I have to deal with permanent health issues and infertility. My discomfort was never with being female, but with the pain I experienced because of it.
My detransition story
My name isn't important, but my story is. I'm a woman who was born female, and for several years, I believed I was a man. Now, I know I was wrong, and I want to share what happened to me in plain words.
My problems started long before I ever heard the word 'transgender'. I had a lot of childhood trauma from a strict religious background. I was also treated badly just for being a girl, and I experienced sexual trauma as a teenager. All of this made me feel completely disconnected from my body and from being female. I felt like my body was the source of all my problems. I hated my breasts; they felt like a target that brought me the wrong kind of attention and shame. I also struggled with depression, very low self-esteem, and anxiety.
I found a lot of my community online, and that's where I was first influenced by trans ideology. People in these spaces, my online friends, told me that my discomfort with puberty and my body meant I was probably transgender. They called it "egg culture," where if you even question your gender, you're told you're trans. This felt like a cult, and I fell for it completely. It was a form of escapism—a way to run away from all my pain and trauma by trying to become someone else entirely.
I also realize now that I struggled with internalized homophobia. I'm bisexual, but I was especially uncomfortable with my attraction to women. It made me feel predatory, like a man, and that feeling was terrifying. The idea of transitioning felt like a way to fix that, to make that attraction feel more "acceptable" by becoming a man in a straight relationship. It was easier to think I was a straight man than to accept being a lesbian woman.
I started seeing a therapist who was a trans-identified male himself. His office had pro-trans propaganda posters all over it. Instead of helping me deal with my trauma, he reinforced the idea that all my problems were because I had gender dysphoria and needed to transition. He groomed me into believing this was the only solution.
So, I started testosterone. I was so deep in the ideology that I ignored the signs that it was wrong for me. I didn't want male body hair or a beard, but I was told those feelings were just doubts I had to push through. The testosterone changed my body, and I started to pass as male. But instead of feeling better, I began to develop real sex dysphoria. I felt horrified by the male features growing on my body. I had been tricked.
I eventually had top surgery and had my breasts removed. I now deeply regret this. I am infertile because of the hormones, and I have serious health complications from the testosterone that I still deal with today. My body is permanently altered.
Leaving the trans identity was like waking up from a nightmare. I realized I had been in a belief system that denied reality. They wouldn't listen to anyone who regretted transition; they just quoted a flawed study saying regret was only 1%. They live in a delusional world where they have to deny any fact that challenges their narrative.
I don't believe in gender identity anymore. I think sex is observed at birth, not assigned, and that gender is just the social stereotypes that go with being male or female. My discomfort was never about being the wrong sex; it was about the trauma I experienced for being female.
I absolutely regret transitioning. It was a medical and psychological mistake that caused me permanent harm. I benefited greatly from non-affirming therapy after I detransitioned—therapy that finally addressed my trauma, OCD tendencies, and eating disorder, instead of blaming everything on gender.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13-17 | Experienced religious and sexual trauma, began hating my female body and breasts. |
| 18 | Found online trans communities; was influenced by friends and "egg culture" ideology. |
| 19 | Started seeing a therapist who affirmed I was trans and encouraged me to transition. |
| 20 | Began taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 24 | Realized I had made a mistake; stopped testosterone and began to detransition. |
| 25 | Underwent non-affirming therapy that focused on my trauma, leading to real healing. |
| Present (26) | Living as a female again, dealing with permanent health issues and infertility from medical transition. |
Top Comments by /u/Radical_Malenia:
Hi, a bisexual female detransitioner here. Yes you will regret it; whether it's in a few months or a few years. Here's why I can tell you this:
like again I feel like a man even mentioning that I’m attracted to women. Almost predatory.
This is internalized lesbophobia. It's not your fault, but it sucks ass to deal with; and I'm so very sorry. I PROMISE you that you are NOT predatory in the slightest for being attracted to other women! It doesn't make you a man. It sure as hell doesn't make you "like a man". It also certainly doesn't make you predatory. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it at all - zilch, nada, nothing. It's natural, and it's every bit as beautiful and innocent and harmless as heterosexual attraction is. I promise you this. There is nothing wrong with you for being a lesbian woman, nothing bad about it.
But I don’t want body hair, a beard etc
This means you don't have sex dysphoria. Which means that being transsexual isn't for you. Importantly, this also means that you WOULD develop sex dysphoria if you got on testosterone and began developing things like facial hair and more body hair...appearing more like a male would cause you to develop it, and therefore the longer you are on the hormones the worse it will get. This would be awful for you and this is the main reason why you would regret it.
- and someone said to me ‘yeah it’s going to keep doing that till you transition’.
Please for the love of the gods don't listen to these people. They're wrong. They're part of an ideology that says no one regrets transition, despite tremendous numbers of people regretting it. They're part of an ideology that pushes everyone to identify as trans. Part of an ideology that says a person is trans if they even question it; that says they're trans if they have even the slightest bit of struggle with their personal identity, physical appearance, or sexual orientation. I cannot put into words how incredibly harmful this is and how wrong it is, and how much harm it has already done. Please, please believe me on this. I could write you a full dissertation about it, I've been heavily involved in this issue for many years now.
Thank you for posting here, you did the wise thing going for a different opinion; and especially for somewhere where people don't just completely ignore reality and truth in favor of being pro-transition no matter what. Please listen to us here and don't do it. You are perfect and beautiful as a lesbian, and there is nothing wrong with your female body. Don't put yourself through the pain of trying in vain to change who and what you are.
I saw Becky Weiss react to it, her anger and disgust was absolutely warranted. It's a truly abhorrent case of abuse, of neglect, of medical malpractice. Yes, I also don't think it's purely physical disability.. That poor girl deserves so much better.
None of us have an "agab". Unless we have a disorder of sexual development (intersex disorder). For all regular people sex is not assigned, it's observed. And "gender" is just a societal construct that goes with your sex.
I convinced myself that I was supposed to be the opposite sex/gender because of a combination of childhood trauma, of media indoctrination and societal influence; and of a therapist who groomed me into thinking I had gender dysphoria instead of treating my trauma properly.
To be more specific, I had childhood religious trauma and suffered misogynistic abuse. Then I also experienced sexual trauma in my teens. These things significantly alienated me from the reality of being female and from the existence of my own body. I was also pre programmed to be susceptible to religious cults. Then, enter trans ideology: I fell for it hook line and sinker. It played on all my religious cult programming, it told me that there was a super easy solution to my discomfort with my body, it told me that my discomfort was because I was secretly actually the other sex all this time - not that the problem was within how I had been TREATED for being female. Then, finally, I began seeing a therapist who played upon all of this foundation and convinced me that the greatest source of all my problems was indeed gender dysphoria and if I began to "transition" that everything else would fall into place.
He was also a trans-identified male himself...he had a significant bias towards transgenderism. He even had those ridiculous "genderbread person/gender unicorn" propaganda graphics taped to his door. He should never have been a therapist, much less one whom people came to with trauma or with confusion about who and what they were.
I know the GCs who are spreading this don't give any regard or actual feelings for the affected and how they feel..
That is not true at all, like what? A core reason many people are GC is because they care so much about how this ideology negatively effects the people who fall victim to it. A lot of us are even detransitioners ourselves and therefore understand how it feels only too well; because we went through it. Maybe I'm not understanding your comment, but what it seems to say is definitely not right.
They lie and say the regret rate is like 1%. So if you tell them otherwise, they don't even listen. They'll throw that one debunked "study" at you as "proof" that the regret and detransition rate is only like 1%. They won't listen to proof that the study is flawed. They won't listen to anything. They're literally in a delusional world, outside of facts, since that's the only way to maintain this belief system in the first place.
And to stay in it and keep arguing what they argue, they have to keep denying everything that opens their narrative to debate or challenge.
No, they definitely don't know what they're talking about.
Get out of those spaces. They will do you nothing but harm. The people who push "egg culture" are terminally online weirdos and they propagate gender ideology like plague bearers.
YES. I can't even begin to state how harmful those spaces are. They had gotten me years ago and now they're getting one of my older friends, too. It's like he's falling into some unhinged religious cult. Like he's suspended the critical thinking he used to have, and now he's saying wild stuff about "gender" and "feeling" that he wouldn't have a couple years back.
The rest of your comment is absolutely on point, as well