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Reddit user /u/ReasonableNotice4106's Detransition Story

female
low self-esteem
porn problem
hated breasts
took hormones
regrets transitioning
depression
influenced online
influenced by friends
serious health complications
now infertile
puberty discomfort
anxiety
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About me

I started taking testosterone because I was deeply unhappy and thought it was the answer to not fitting in as a woman. It was the biggest mistake of my life, making my mental health worse and terrifying me with its permanent physical changes. I now believe my discomfort came from low self-esteem and social pressures, not from being born the wrong sex. I’m focusing on healing my body naturally and learning to accept myself as a female again. My mission now is to live healthily as a woman, free from any ideal I'm supposed to conform to.

My detransition story

My journey with transition and detransition was long and complicated, and it started from a place of deep unhappiness with myself. I never felt like I fit in, especially during puberty when my body started to change. I hated developing breasts; it felt foreign and wrong to me. I now believe a lot of my discomfort was tied to low self-esteem and the pressure to look a certain way, which was made worse by what I saw online and in porn. I think I was also influenced by the friends I had at the time and the communities I was part of online, which all seemed to point to transition as the solution to these feelings.

I ended up taking testosterone. It was the biggest mistake of my life. I was told it would help my mental state, but it only made my depression and anxiety worse. I became terrified of the permanent changes it was causing to my body, especially the cellular changes it was making. I was reading about how it was affecting me and I realized the last thing I ever wanted was to develop penis-like cells. I was horrified. I started to realize that a lot of the information I had gotten from doctors wasn't trustworthy, and I began to trust the experiences of other detransitioners more.

I was also worried about my fertility and long-term health. I had a Mirena IUD while on testosterone, and I sometimes wonder if that helped lessen some of the damage, but I still live with the fear of serious health complications down the line, like autoimmune diseases or diabetes. I know I’ve put my body through a lot of unnecessary pain and I now have to worry about being infertile.

My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I don't believe that hormones or surgery are the answer to psychological pain. It won’t help with mental illness; it’ll make it worse. I see now that my body is a female body, an XX chromosome one, and no amount of hormones can change that fundamental truth. My mission now is to focus on adapting to life as a woman again, without putting too much pressure on myself to conform to any ideal. I’m trying not to compare myself to other women. It’s difficult, but I’m focusing on my health first: exercising, taking women’s daily vitamins, and using natural supplements like sea buckthorn and red clover to help my body heal.

I absolutely have regrets about transitioning. I feel I was pushed into it by a culture that presents it as the only option for people who are uncomfortable with their sex, and now I find myself wanting to push others away from it, but in what I hope is a healthier way—a tough love. I believe being trans is not anyone's only fate in life. We are entire people with the freedom to choose, and we shouldn't let anyone take away our biological sex or our ability to feel like ourselves in our own bodies.

Age Year Event
(Age not specified) (Year not specified) Started taking testosterone.
(Age not specified) 2022 Stopped testosterone, began detransition. Realized the profound negative impact on my mental and physical health.
(Age not specified) 2023 Fully committed to my detransition, focusing on natural health remedies and accepting my female body.

Top Comments by /u/ReasonableNotice4106:

8 comments • Posting since July 21, 2022
Reddit user ReasonableNotice4106 (detrans female) explains her regret and warns a 17-year-old FTM about the severe health risks of testosterone, including mental illness, autoimmune diseases, diabetes, and lifelong reproductive complications.
19 pointsDec 28, 2022
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It won’t help with mental illness, it’ll make it worse. And you’ll regret your decision this young in your life. You may develop autoimmune diseases, diabetes, or life long reproductive complications and it’s NOT worth it. Testosterone will affect your BRAIN and ORGANS. It’s not worth it!!! I’m telling you right now you can end up in the hospital for the rest of your life and fuck that UNNECESSARY pain. I was on it and it’s the biggest mistake of my life. PERIOD.

Reddit user ReasonableNotice4106 (detrans female) discusses her relief in discovering that her post-transition anatomy is shared by other females, noting the diversity of natural vaginas versus pornographic images.
16 pointsJul 21, 2022
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Exactly! Thank you for this, beautiful timing. I was looking at images from the internet (as one does) and realized other females have this as well! Basically t enlarged this. So comforting to know I’m not the only one out there, all women have such unique vaginas it’s hard to differentiate between model-like porn and unique vaginas. (Sorry for so much vagina talk, but this subject calls for this haha)

Reddit user ReasonableNotice4106 (detrans female) explains why it's never too late to detransition, advising self-compassion and focusing on health over conforming to an ideal of womanhood.
9 pointsAug 17, 2023
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It is never too late to detransition. The mission, once you do decide to take the better of the two paths, is to focus on adapting to your new lifestyle and find what works best for you while not putting too much pressure on yourself to conform to an ideal of being a woman. I’ve been trying not to compare myself to other women, etc. It’s very difficult but I feel it is worth it in the long run. For your health mentally, physically, and spiritually. I find myself pushing people to detransition as I think it is the best option no matter what. That’s what people did to me to transition, pushed it. But at least this push is a healthy one, perhaps even a tough love. Be slow with yourself and realize you are still young and full of potential. Being “trans” is not your only fate in life. You are an entire person and have the freedom to be and chose as you want. Don’t let anyone else take away your biological sex, or the ability to feel like yourself in your own body; which is an XX chromosome one. Don’t criticize yourself too much, and adapt and evolve as you please. Do what makes you healthy 1st. In order to even be human, you must be alive. As Stephen Hawking once said “as long as there is life, there is always possibility”. Take care of yourself and relax a bit🤍 you are alive and that is a privilege in its own.

Reddit user ReasonableNotice4106 (detrans female) explains why they believe taking cross-sex hormones is not comparable to necessary medical treatments like chemotherapy or the natural process of pregnancy.
8 pointsMar 10, 2024
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LOL you’re seriously comparing this to pregnancy and chemotherapy??? You need chemo to live and it isn’t a CHOICE first off. Secondly, pregnancy is to continue your lineage and that is fundamental for our species to continue. Are hormones necessary? NO. The only thing it does is DAMAGE. There is no end goal except to look like a demented man. Big difference.

Reddit user ReasonableNotice4106 (detrans female) explains her distrust of doctors' claims that clitoroplasty doesn't affect sensitivity, stating she trusts the experiences of other detransitioners more and will now be conservative with her body.
6 pointsJul 21, 2022
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Sensitivity is most important to me too. They claim the surgery doesn’t effect this but I don’t trust doctors anymore to begin with. I trust what y’all are saying more. Thank you. I’ll be conservative with my body, it’s what I should’ve done since the beginning.

Reddit user ReasonableNotice4106 (detrans female) comments on how a Mirena IUD may have alleviated some effects of testosterone and discusses its lack of long-term fertility impact.
3 pointsDec 30, 2022
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While I feel your pain, this is also somewhat good news for me because I had a Mirena while on T and this may have alleviated some of the effects of T. Also I’m not sure of long-term effects of the Mirena but have heard that it should not affect fertility and periods come back once you take it out.

Reddit user ReasonableNotice4106 (detrans female) comments on the cellular effects of testosterone, expressing concern that it can develop penis-like cells in the clitoris.
3 pointsJul 21, 2022
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I think what freaks me out is I was reading about what t does to us cellularly and it said the clitoris starts to develop penis-like cells because of the hormones and the last thing I want is a penis! But you’re absolutely correct, a clit is a clit and it never was a penis or ever will be. No matter what enlargement happened. Thank you for this.

Reddit user ReasonableNotice4106 (detrans female) explains advice for body health post-transition, recommending women's daily vitamins, sea buckthorn for uterine health, and red clover for its phytoestrogens.
3 pointsAug 25, 2023
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When it comes to your body make sure you’re healthy, 1st. Exercise, and I recommend HIGHLY to take vitamins!! I suggest women’s daily vitamins that have special formulas designed for women’s bodies. Also I suggest sea buckthorn and red clover as red clover has phytoestrogens (a type of plant estrogen ) and sea buckthorn helps with the uterus and blood circulation. Hope this helps!