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About me
I started taking testosterone at 20 because I thought becoming a man was my only escape from the pressures of being a woman. My transition was mostly driven by fear, low self-esteem, and the influence of online communities that offered it as a simple solution. I later realized I was trying to escape my reality and even saw my attraction to men as a reason to become one myself. A major shift in my beliefs led me to stop hormones and accept my female body as a given fact. I now see that period as being seriously misled, and I'm focused on healing the underlying issues that started me on that path.
My detransition story
My name isn't important. I’m sharing my story here because I think it might help someone else who is feeling lost, the way I was.
I started my transition in 2020 when I was 19, and I began taking testosterone in early 2021. I passed completely as a male and had planned to get all the surgeries, partly because I thought it would make me safer in the world. Looking back, I realize that fear was my biggest motivator. I was afraid that I could never be good enough as a woman, that I couldn't bear the pressures of being one, and that I'd never fit into what society says a woman should be. I thought transitioning was my only way out.
A huge part of my initial discomfort was rooted in puberty. I hated my breasts and the changes my body was going through. It felt wrong and foreign to me. I now see that a lot of my feelings were tied to deeper issues like low self-esteem, anxiety, and depression. I was also influenced a lot by what I saw online; it seemed like being trans was a cool, definitive answer to all my problems, and therapists and doctors were quick to affirm it without digging deeper.
I started to realize that my thinking was flawed. I began to understand that I was trying to escape from reality. I had this idea that if I became a man, especially since I'm attracted to men, I could become the thing I was attracted to. It felt like an aesthetic thing, not even explicitly sexual, but there was an element of autogynephilia to it, a desire to see the masculine traits I admired on myself. It was a form of escapism.
My detransition began when I had a major shift in my beliefs. I became a Christian about half a year ago, and it completely changed my perspective. I started to see my body and my biological sex as a given gift, a fact that I couldn't and shouldn't try to change. The whole idea that you can decide your gender or change your sex started to feel like a lie. I believed that by saying I was a man, I was just participating in a charade to escape the reality of being a woman.
I don't regret my transition because it led me to this understanding, but I do see it as a period of being seriously misled. I benefited from stepping away from affirming therapy and looking at my underlying problems. I had to confront my trauma, my self-esteem issues, and my need to feel special, which I think is a very feminine desire—the "not like other girls" feeling.
I stopped testosterone cold turkey. My body started producing its own estrogen again within a month, and things began to revert. My muscle mass changed, and my fat redistributed. I was on T for a shorter time than some, so I was lucky.
I now believe that truth and logic matter. There is a biological reality to sex that can't be argued away. The current culture that pushes for everyone to affirm everything without question is dangerous. It leads young, confused people down a path they might not need to be on. I know I was one of them.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| My Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 15 | 2016 | Made a angry, "demonic" self-portrait in school, showing my inner turmoil. |
| 19 | 2020 | Began socially transitioning to male. |
| 20 | Early 2021 | Started taking testosterone. |
| 22 | 2023 | Stopped testosterone cold turkey and began my detransition. Began identifying as a woman again. |
| 22 | 2023 | Became a Christian, which solidified my new perspective on my body and identity. |
Top Comments by /u/Remote-Parking-942:
No, be fully honest. There's literally thousands of young people who're also going or are gonna go through the same thing, I mean tf are you supposed to do if you're a teenager who has a hard time, there's this cool thing called trans and doctors and therapists affirm it. Yeah it was also your decision but that doesn't mean you're dumb.
I'm literally at the same point as you and also have only come out to my grandma, at school Imma wait until the school year is over (in summer) and go somewhere else and with the rest of my family eugh that's gonna suck
I also got banned/made to shut up multiple times from different places because I noticed someone's biological sex. They don't want you to talk about it. Being called trans is fine. But not female or male. If you say it less then it's less real, right? And their dysphoria makes them want it to be less real. So if you're not transphobic you try to not make them dysphoric.
Hey I'm also in transition since 2020, hormones since early 2021, pass fully as male, no surgeries yet but had planned all of them for partly the same safety reasons as you mentioned.
Fear is always a bad adviser. What made me transition in the first place was fear and thinking I could NEVER be 1. good enough to be a woman and 2. bear being a woman 3. fit into what a woman is. Now I see that this is not the truth and realised there are underlying problems and everything isn't as clear and obvious as it seemed.
Most importantly I discovered that I'm good in the most basic way I am and I'm safe.
Exactly and all those 10000 genders, not wanting to label yourself, the term "non binary", it's all very feminine in sense of multiplicity, hiddenness and misteriousness which shows up in the "Im not like other girls" thing since women both want to conform and be a useful part of society but also feel special and needed and loved
What made you think that you have the right to tell people to call you something, or to make them act as if they believe something that they don't believe? If you know what I mean. This is about I want this and you think that's not true but I force you to because otherwise you're a meanie and get cancelled. What is a woman?
I'm detrans and I have been conservative before that and Christian since half a year ago and yes all lgbt subs besides one constantly found what I said, um, to be harassment, even though I was polite
If I constantly say someone has a big nose, just because then yeah, but if it's relevant in the conversation then it's relevant, I know of people who've got all kinda of flaws and they're relaxed and can joke about it, only someone who has a deeper issue gets pissed like that, because they're afraid.
I somewhat get your point, context matters, but fact is that many trans people ..... which is not good, and even just me noticing it once and getting flamed, shows that there's a problem. You're detrans, wouldn't you understand?
Negro is one thing, but you wouldn't get pissed if I noted that you're black, if there's a reason to say it. Being black is not a bad thing, to trans people being their birth sex is. And I ..... It's my belief. Their belief is different.
Um no. There's a proper way to be and an improper way and for men it's even stricter. Not because someone evil said it but because the world works a certain way. It's like that for a reason. Of course he should deal with his issues and get help, what he does sounds like some fetishistic shit, otherwise he wouldn't wanna do it that much, there's something to it to him, and it's not unlikely that it's sexual.
I guess you're a woman so you want to be empathetic and caring and want everyone to be happy and free like that but it's not good to just let people act out whatever they feel or want and see it as the highest truth, that's what the whole woke cult(ure) is about and it's becoming dangerous (drag shows for kids, many teens get trans surgery, the idea to accept pedophilia, encouragement of all kinds of fetishes and "kinks" even very dark harmful ones)
No there's such a thing as truth and logic. Yeah there is or has been actual talk about laws that mandate preferred pronoun use and you get cancelled by many people and corporations if you refuse to join the woke ideology. No that's not good or right and we'll try to show that it doesn't make sense and that the whole ideology is harmful
I'm pretty sure a lot of those people actually cared about you but just also were misled and confused themselves. Doesn't excuse their behavior but I don't think most did it with evil intent. This is a bigger cultural phenomenon, hell, even Biden endorses it publically and did an interview with that clown Mulvaney. Feeling betrayed and gratitude are two different things, you're not necessarily scared of being grateful, but scared that you can't trust your own or other people's judgement.
Yeah muscle will definitely weaken if you don't exercise and fat will redistribute, why shouldn't it. It might take some time tho. And honestly look at some trans chicks (without surgery) even some of them managed it somehow and you're actually a female