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Based on the provided comments, the account appears authentic. There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or a bad-faith actor.
The comments show:
- Consistent, passionate ideology aligned with a specific radical feminist (GC) perspective common in some detransitioner spaces.
- Emotional reactivity (e.g., "And don’t tell me to calm down, idiot") and engagement in heated debate, which is typical of a real person invested in the topic.
- Direct, personalized advice to another user (e.g., "Taking a look at your internalized homophobia..."), which is complex and context-specific, making it unlikely for a bot.
The tone is aggressive but consistent with a genuine, highly passionate individual who feels harmed.
About me
I started feeling deeply uncomfortable with the expectations placed on me as a female and thought transitioning would be my escape. I realized the problem wasn't my body, but the sexist stereotypes I was trying to run from, and that true freedom meant learning to be happy as I am. I saw people pushing the idea of "male and female brains," which just felt like more sexist nonsense to me. A lot of my struggle was actually internalized homophobia, and I had to learn that being a masculine woman is perfectly fine. Now, I'm learning to accept being a woman on my own terms, without feeling I need to change my body.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was really uncomfortable with myself and the expectations placed on me as a female. I wanted to escape, and for a while, I thought transitioning was the answer to that deep feeling of wrongness. I believed that if I could just become a man, I could leave all those uncomfortable feelings behind.
But I’ve come to understand that the feeling of wanting to escape your sex is a real feeling, especially for women living in a sexist world. The solution isn't to transition; if it was, most women would probably do it. The real solution is to come to terms with your biology and fight against the sexist stereotypes, to learn how to be happy with who you naturally are.
I got really deep into the online arguments about this stuff. I saw people talking about "male brains" and "female brains" and it just seemed like sexist nonsense to me. The science they kept citing felt ridiculous. Human brains vary so much; you can't just assign a gender to them. To me, gender is a social construct, not something biological. Hearing people just repeat "Gender is biological!" over and over felt like something out of a dystopian novel. It doesn't make it true just because you say it a lot.
I also strongly believe that you can't claim to have a female experience if you weren't born female. That experience starts at birth with how the world treats you. Claiming that experience feels like appropriating women's oppression.
A big part of my own confusion, and something I see in others, was internalized homophobia. I had to ask myself why I felt being a masculine woman wasn't enough and why I felt I needed to be a man. A lot of that came from society's hatred and discomfort with the female body, and with women who aren't traditionally feminine. There's nothing wrong with a female body. Women can be hairy, they can be masculine, they can be whatever they want to be without needing to change their bodies with hormones or surgery.
I was advised against taking testosterone because of the health problems it can cause, and I'm glad I listened. There's no shame in trying something and realizing it's not for you. You can identify however you want and wear whatever you want without medical intervention. The most important thing is to find your own happiness, on your own terms, without feeling like you have to follow a specific script.
Looking back, I don't regret exploring my gender because it led me to where I am now, but I do regret ever thinking that changing my body was the only way to be comfortable in it. I am a woman, and I'm learning to be okay with that.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my recollections:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and social expectations as a female. |
| 17 | Began identifying as non-binary as a way to escape being a woman. |
| 18 | Heavily considered taking testosterone but decided against it due to health concerns. |
| 19 | Started to critically examine internalized homophobia and societal misogyny. |
| 20 | Stopped identifying as non-binary and began the process of accepting myself as a female. |
Top Comments by /u/ResponsePending:
If you feel better off t and not performing as a man, you should detransition. You say you don’t “think like a woman.” What does “think like a woman” mean to you?
Taking a look at your internalized homophobia and thinking about why that makes you wish you were a man is important. It’s not your fault, it’s society’s
Feeling uncomfortable with who you are and/or your gender and wanting to escape to the opposite sex is a real feeling. If you’re a woman, this is normal for obvious reasons of living in a sexist world.
The solution to this feeling isn’t to transition. If that was the case, most women should transition. The solution is to come to terms with your biology and to fight against the sexist gendered stereotypes and learn to be happy with who you naturally are.
You don’t have a right to list your argument without people disagreeing. Telling women to “calm down” is a classic sexist move. Ive already seen those studies and they are ridiculous. If the variety of human brains vary that much no matter your biological sex, how can you assign a gender to them? Gender is a social construct.
At the end of the day, it’s up to you whether or not you take T. I’d advise against it because of the health problems it can cause. There is nothing wrong with how your body naturally is. Remember that society has a lot of hate against a female body which may make you want to get away from being recognized as having one and also remember that being hairy doesn’t make you any less of a woman. Women can be hairy. No matter if you take T or not, you can still identify as whatever you want, wear whatever you want, etc. There’s also no shame in admitting that you tried something and realized that it’s not for you or redefining what those actions mean to you. There’s no script you have to follow, just try to find happiness for yourself.
Where is the source for this so-called science? Thinking there is a male brain and female brain is sexist as hell. But I’m not on detrans to debate. For that go to the GC vs QT subreddit, not detrans where a majority of the subscribers (especially the former FTMs) have found help through GC instead of accusing me of going down the wrong “road” or whatever wrong-think bullshit you’re trying to sell.
And don’t tell me to calm down, idiot.
“Gender is biological! Gender is biological! Gender is biological” “Trans woman are woman ! Trans woman are woman! Transwoman are woman!”
Heard it all before. Do you not realize how you sound straight out of 1984 pushing invalid statements like that? Just because you repeat it over and over doesn’t make it true.
You’re claiming a gender when gender is a social construct and thus not real. There is no action such as clothing style or mannerisms that would make you female. You’ll never have the female experience because that starts at birth and to claim to have the female experience, you are appropriating women’s experience and oppression.