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About me
I was a lonely teenager who found community online and became convinced that transitioning from female to male was the solution to my deep discomfort with puberty. I started testosterone and even scheduled top surgery, but I canceled it after a wave of panic made me realize I was making a permanent choice out of confusion. I began to understand that my problem wasn't with being female, but with the pressures and stereotypes society places on women. I stopped hormones and now accept that my female body is my material reality, which has brought me a sense of peace I never had before. My journey taught me that my real issues were about trauma and self-esteem, not gender.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was very young and lonely, and I got deeply caught up in the world of social media and early YouTube. I was confused and looking for an identity, and I found it in online communities that celebrated transition. I think a lot of my desire to transition came from a place of not fitting in and wanting to escape my own skin, especially during puberty. I hated the changes happening to my body, particularly the development of my breasts. I saw transitioning as a way to become someone else entirely, to shed the discomfort and just be seen as a different person.
Looking back, I realize I was heavily influenced by what I was watching online. The content from BuzzFeed and other creators in the 2010s made this life seem not just possible, but desirable. It felt like a solution to all my problems with self-esteem and anxiety. I started identifying as non-binary first, which felt like a safer way to step away from being a woman, and that eventually led me to believe I was a trans man.
I began taking testosterone. I was so sure it was the right path, the only way to fix the deep unhappiness I felt. I even scheduled a consultation for top surgery. But in the months leading up to it, a deep sense of doubt started to creep in. I remember reading a comment somewhere that stuck with me: if a permanent medical decision isn't a "hell yes," then it's a hell no. I realized that if I didn't get the surgery, I could always do it later. But if I went through with it, my breasts would be gone forever. That thought filled me with a panic I hadn't expected. I was confused, and making a lifelong choice while feeling that confused seemed like a terrible mistake. I canceled the consultation.
Stepping back from the brink of surgery forced me to really question everything. I started to look into things from a different angle. I got into radical feminist writers like Andrea Dworkin and Gail Dines, who talked about womanhood and the pressures we face in a way that resonated with me deeply. I began to understand that my discomfort might not have been with being female, but with what society expects from females. The idea that a strong, stocky woman is "masculine" is a very Western concept; in many other places, she's just a woman. I started to wonder if I was just trying to escape harassment and the pressures that come with looking feminine.
I also started to see how a lot of gender ideology is rooted in post-modern philosophy, which feels completely disconnected from material reality. I’ve always been a leftist, and it struck me that old-school Marxism was based on physical, biological, and economic realities—you can’t just imagine yourself into a different class or a different sex. That really aligned with how I was starting to feel. My body is female; that’s my material reality. No amount of identification can change that.
I stopped testosterone. Letting my body return to its natural state was frightening, but it felt honest. I don’t regret exploring transition because it led me to where I am now, which is a much more secure and peaceful place. But I do have regrets about the permanent changes from testosterone, and I am deeply, deeply grateful I listened to my doubt and never got surgery.
I don't think my underlying issues were ever about gender. They were about trauma, low self-esteem, and the desperate need to find a community and an identity. I benefited immensely from stepping away from social media and from therapy that wasn't just about affirming a new gender, but about questioning why I wanted it in the first place. My journey taught me that sometimes the bravest thing you can do is to be who you actually are, even when it's hard.
Age | Event |
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14-16 | Started feeling intense discomfort with puberty and my developing body. Felt lonely and found community online. |
17 | Began identifying as non-binary, influenced by social media and online creators. |
19 | Started taking testosterone, believing I was a trans man. |
21 | Scheduled a consultation for top surgery but canceled due to overwhelming doubt and confusion. |
22 | Stopped testosterone. Began the process of detransitioning. |
Top Comments by /u/Royal_Gas_3627:
As with many things in life, if it's not a "hell yes," then it's a hell no. I learned this from dating: if they want you, you'll have no doubts. If they don't want you, you'll be confused.
Similarly, especially about permanent medical procedures, if it's not a hell yes, then it's not appropriate for you, at least in this moment. Remember, if you DON'T go through with top surgery right now, you can always do it at a later date. If you DO go through with it, you'll never get your breasts back.
This is not a decision you should make while feeling confused.
i don't really think there is such a thing as a "masculine mother." there's just mother, and there's just father.
trans and gender ideology is such a western phenomenon. you go anywhere else in the world, there will be cultures of "stocky strong women" who americans would call a "masculine woman" but to them, they're just a woman. simple as that. they work laborious jobs, raise kids, discipline them, etc, but nobody thinks of them as "masculine." it's just the woman of that culture.
be who you want to be.
case in point:
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oh nooooo. anyway
That happens when gender-affirming care and gender-affirming research is the only opinion allowed in academic research. You literally cannot research alternatives. Dr. Debra Soh talks about this in her book and in Youtube interviews. Really eye opening.
*Oh, and she's a liberal/progressive. Apparently a lot of people assume she's right wing.
Most of the radical feminist spaces that get called "T3RF" intersect with anti-porn activism, so you're not far off. Unfortunately it does draw in the religious types as well but imo it's irrelevant since they're only a subsection of anti-porn activists (who come in all stripes and types).
Anyway. Look up Gail Dines on Youtube.
recent article that was posted to r-science showed their method was flawed. they reported only 1% because it only counted people who went BACK to the same clinic they got their gender reassignment surgery to reverse their surgery. only that population was figured into the "regret" pile
post-modernism in higher ed was a CIA-backed counter program to rising communist sentiments in the US. they used figures like Foucault (post-mod philosopher) and Judith Butler (liberal 3rd wave feminist) to push it.
I'm about as leftist as it gets, and hate r-conspiracy nuts. But this unfortunately I think is true: https://thephilosophicalsalon.com/the-cia-reads-french-theory-on-the-intellectual-labor-of-dismantling-the-cultural-left/
ding ding ding! it's post-mod as I commented above. the more "conceptual" you get, the more you get away from unions/economic dissent (physical/tangible realities). modern NB "marxists" make no sense. cuz marxism would've hated NBs (but no prob w/real transitioned trans ppl). it's all about the physical/biological/economic realities baby! you can't IMAGINE yourself into a higher income and "eat cake." the cake has to actually exist physically! conceptual cakes don't feed empty stomachs. but post-modernism/anti-communist ideology would LOVE to have you think so.
I knew a man in his 50s who was a cardiothoracic surgeon and completely quit the job as soon as his father died because it prompted a cascading waterfall of reflections that made him realize he only did this to please his father, and that he never wanted to do this job. However, the job became core to who he was. He believed he was The Surgeon, and that was his persona for decades. He does carpentry outta his garage now.
Anyways, don't worry about not knowing now the reasons why. Time will tell. All you can do is your best. And if nothing else, you sure got to experience the world in a way few have!
I grew up at the start of social media, so that played a huge role. It's also part of the reason why I stepped back from everything. I'm only on Reddit but nowhere else. And for Reddit, I only visit my home page where I intentionally curate what I see.
Anyway, all that's to say, I was also young and confused af. And I reacted by isolating from social media (which often times meant friends too). 🤷