I absolutely except gnc people. I’ve always been gnc and will be throughout this. And I also accept that trans people will exist and I don’t think they deserve the hatred they get. Many of them really are victims. And I believe the vast majority of them are good people.

She is an activist. She’s not “obsessed with genitals” she’s obsessed with protecting female spaces and ensuring that male bodies aren’t in them. Female spaces are sacred and safe and males are not entitled to them. There is nothing transphobic about women not wanting to share their spaces or sports with males. Sane people understand this.

I will say that since I decided to detransition, I have quite literally never felt more free. It didn’t even feel like a choice, it felt like the only logical option. Biology is not identity. No one “feels” like a man or “feels” like a woman. That’s a myth. It is completely made up. You just are one or the other and to pretend otherwise is insane. You can be in a female body and wear whatever clothes from whatever clothing section and the same is true for those in male bodies.

Accepting your biology as a part of your identity is not mythical. There are social constructs of what men and women are and there is a biological reality of what men and women are and they are not the same thing. That’s the entire point! I can exist in a female body and like to fix things, be a provider, enjoy yard work and landscaping, enjoy politics, ride motorcycles, all things historically and contemporary considered masculine. it has nothing at all to do with my biology. But regardless of my actions, interests, and hobbies, regardless of the the sex stereotypes that exist/existed at any given time, regardless of what idea people have of men and women, my body is female and to pretend otherwise is absolutely insane.

Those first few sentences hit the nail on the head, my friend. And yes, love does rejoice with the truth. I’m not religious but I can greatly appreciate that verse. I think my detransition will be hard, but I cannot possibly imagine it being worse than what I’ve been through convincing myself I was a man for all these years. That was torturous beyond words. Only we will ever really understand. I am sitting with a lot, but feel so much better already, just psychologically. Thank you 🙏🏽

Okay.. I’m trying not to be ugly with you. You have rights. It is not a “right” to be able to invade spaces that don’t belong to you and never did. That is to take the rights of girls and women. Males have long taken and chosen the rights of females, this is just another version of that. My rights, my goddaughter’s rights, my fiancées rights, my potential future daughter’s rights are more important that you feeling like you’re a woman and thus entitled to women’s spaces. People who feel like women should not get to dictate the opinions and beliefs of people who are women.

I am all for trans-identified peoples rights to exist in the world in a way that is fair for all. But this type of rhetoric is where I draw the line personally and set boundaries. Female restrooms, changing rooms, and sports should be designated for females. It only makes sense. Women had to fight against males and the belief that we’re inferior and less worthy for the right to even have sports leagues.

Honestly I’ve only been exposed to her very recently via X. And I’ve only seen her saying things that make sense so I’m not sure what kind of person she actually is.. however, I do think it’s good for someone with that large of a restroom to point out some of the things she’s pointing out. My gender ideology and internalized homophobia was ran so deep that I almost didn’t realize I was allowed to believe things like women’s spaces should be protected.

So mind boggling to realize how effective propaganda can work when you were the one it worked on. I’m there right now. It doesn’t feel negative, but like puzzle pieces fitting together. I’m actually finding it so much easier to have self-compassion and understanding because it comes from an authentic place, not delusion, not trying to love myself in spite of my lies.

I really enjoyed your demonstration of the intersectionality between Christianity and organized religion at large with these types of ideologies. When people detransition, trans people say they were never really trans. Even tho you really were at one point before you realized it wasn’t real. People aren’t having surgeries, taking hormones, spending money, risking their health who aren’t really trans. It’s just that trans isn’t real in the way they think and we believed it to be. It’s a silly argument.

On the flip side of that coin, religious zealots say those that left their faiths were never really believers. Of course these people were. They dedicated their lives to the same god, worshipped, tithed, preached and proselytized. It helps both groups maintain their beliefs without having to look any deeper. It maintains the status quo very effectively.

And thank you, by the way. I do feel like my understanding is getting clearer by the moment. I already feel the exhaustion and brain fog starting to lift.

This is so real. Literally if a girl wants to present more masculinity, people will crawl out of the woodwork to convince her she is trans. It is so bizarre. Let girls be masculine and teach them that it’s okay, they’re not separate or “other” for it! I also believe I wouldn’t have transitioned if I had seen more gnc representation. I’d never look at a masculine girl and think “oh damn she’s probably trans, hope they get her hormones soon”. No! Let kids be kids.

Now I have to rewire my brain that it’s okay that Im masculine while being a woman!

Because transitioning is extremely surface level. And you begin to feel that deeply. It becomes harder and harder to ignore. I saw someone in here say on a post that they (former ftm) transitioned because they wanted to be a male. Not some strange caricature of a male. And they realized that they could never be that. And they’d never be happy with mimicking a group they’d never truly belong to. And that about hits the nail on the head.

You’ll never function as a female. The truth is for most mtfs, you’ll be lucky to even pass as one. You’ll draw all this attention to yourself, everyone’s eyes on you, your privacy will be disintegrated, you’ll stand out in ways you never did before. It’ll make you pick apart every single tiny aspect of yourself because you’re trying to live as something you can never be. You won’t even be able to walk a few steps without wondering about your posture, gestures, movements, if you’re passing, do they know I’m trans, can they tell, etc. it’ll be constant. And eventually that will become really painful. All of this pain, hurt, body damage, money wasted to find out it could never have fulfilled you.

The same person (can’t find the post now, it was an old one) said that maybe if they had less dysphoria and were okay with being a woman who identified as a man, it might not have hurt so bad. I think most ftms who detransition were once okay with being a woman who identified as a man. That goes away with time. You realize how performative and fake it all is, even when it once resonated and you convinced yourself that was your true authentic self. You won’t be able to use the bathroom without shame. You won’t be able to be intimate without shame. You won’t be able to look in the mirror without shame. And if the people around you don’t distance themselves from you, you will isolate yourself. It becomes fucking embarrassing. It eats away at your integrity, your soul, your values.

Take it from everyone here, it is not worth it. If you have all these people in front of you telling you they detransitioned and how being trans made them feel, and you still decide to do it at age 33, I imagine you’ll be even angrier with yourself at some point in the future than a lot of us have been with ourselves. Heed the warnings. Trans is not real. It’s a delusion. And it’ll never heal you.

Thank you, Simon. There is largely nobody in my life that is involved in the cult so the last part should be pretty easy.

They absolutely feel like any attack on the ideology is a personal attack. When I was trans-identified, it felt synonymous with death when I read things that challenged my perception of myself. It put me in fight or flight. So I know it likely runs that deep for them. That’s what makes fighting this fight so hard. It takes a lot to get to a point where you finally say, okay, this.. isn’t me. This isn’t real.