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About me
I was born female and my journey started with the overwhelming discomfort of puberty, which I mistook for being trans. I got swept up in online communities that encouraged me to see my normal struggles through that lens. After identifying as non-binary, I realized I was just using it to escape my depression and low self-esteem. I'm out of it all now and grateful I never pursued medical changes. I've learned my feelings came from other issues, and I'm finally learning to just be myself.
My detransition story
My name isn't important, but my story is. I was born female, and my journey into and out of transitioning was confusing and painful. Looking back, I think a lot of my feelings were tangled up with other problems I had, like anxiety and a deep unhappiness with myself. I never felt good enough or comfortable in my own skin, especially when I was younger.
I remember being really uncomfortable with my body during puberty. I hated developing breasts; it felt wrong and scary. Getting my period was also a terrifying and painful experience, and I felt a strange sense of dysphoria when it was late or irregular. I now see that this discomfort wasn't necessarily because I was a boy, but because puberty is a difficult and overwhelming time for a lot of people.
A lot of my ideas about gender came from the internet and from friends. Online, especially in fandoms, I saw people labeling any character who didn't fit a strict stereotype as trans. It felt like there was this huge pressure to see everything through that lens. I had a friend who identified as a trans man, and when I asked her why, she said, "I know I'm a man because I don't want to be a woman." That logic confused me even then. It felt like being straight or just being a girl who didn't like stereotypes was seen as boring or uncool, and I think, unintentionally, I got swept up in wanting to be something more interesting.
I started identifying as non-binary for a while. It felt like a way to have a special label without having to commit to anything medical. It was a form of escapism from the person I really was. I was deeply depressed and had very low self-esteem, and I think I latched onto this identity as a solution.
Eventually, I realized I didn't agree with the whole ideology anymore. When I tried to talk to my friend about my doubts, saying I just didn't agree with it, she completely cut me off. She told me I could never be an ally with that mindset. It felt so black and white to me—you were either 100% on board or you were a bigoted enemy. There was no room for questions or critical thought.
I'm out of it all now. I'm glad I never pursued medical transition like hormones or surgery. I know that path would have led to serious regrets for me. My feelings were rooted in other issues: body dysmorphia, the normal discomfort of puberty, and a need to belong. I've benefited from stepping away from those online spaces and that way of thinking. I’ve also found a lot of strength in my Christian faith, which has given me a different perspective on my body and my worth.
I don't believe I was ever truly trans. I think I was a confused young woman who was influenced by the world around her and was trying to solve deeper psychological problems with a gender identity that wasn't right for me. I don't regret exploring it, because it led me to where I am now, but I absolutely regret the pain it caused and the friends I lost. I'm finally starting to learn how to just be myself.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on my experiences:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Early Teens (Puberty) | Experienced significant discomfort with breast development and menstruation. Felt a general sense of unhappiness and anxiety. |
| Mid-Teens (approx. 15-16) | Heavily influenced by online fandom culture and friends. Started to believe my discomfort was gender dysphoria. |
| 17 | Began identifying as non-binary as a form of escapism from low self-esteem and depression. |
| 18 | Had critical conversations with a trans-identified friend; her reaction to my doubts made me question the ideology further. |
| 19 | Realized I did not agree with transgender ideology. Stopped identifying as non-binary and began to detransition socially. |
| Present (20) | Understanding that my issues were related to body dysmorphia and puberty discomfort, not a transgender identity. No medical intervention was ever pursued. |
Top Comments by /u/SakurachiMochi:
"I love my trans friends so dearly, but they won’t understand. They couldn’t. Those still deep in it can’t handle skepticism or critical conversation of any kind because their ideology doesn’t make sense. They immediately accuse you of bigotry for having very reasonable doubts"
This quote right here. EXACTLY what happened between me and my friend. All I told her was I don't agree with this trans stuff anymore and she typed this whole paragraph about "If you don't want to be an ally that's on you but you'll never have trans friends if you keep that mindset"
Maybe I don't want to be these people's "ally" but that sure as HELL doesn't mean I hate them or that I'm their enemy. But that's the only thing these kinds of people can see. You're either an ally or an enemy. There is no in between.
As a bio girl who currently gets her period one week after the month ends so it's all wonky (still haven't gotten my December period and my last one was in either October or Early November) I can tell u having a period is really fucking scary (not to mention painful)
Dysphoria for not getting a period is insane
The fact that in almost every fandom in existence if there's a character who goes even SLIGHTLY against stereotypical masculine or feminine ways people ALWAYS say they're trans.
It annoys me so badly. Not every character is trans or "trans coded" because you can read into it. In fact, one of my favorite genshin characters who often gets called trans, I realized his story can also be read as a detrans allegory.
Honestly, there's just way to much of this going around and the internet makes me mad atp.
My advice is just stay off most of the internet, for your own sanity's sake.
THIS.
I remember a long time ago I was asking my friend why she considers herself to be a man
And her answer was something along the lines of "I know I'm a man because I don't want to be a woman"
How I ever got wrapped up in all this is beyond me, and tbh I'm glad I'm out.
This is how children get wrapped into this, and I have the personal experience to say so.
Unintentionally or not, a lot of people tend to paint being straight or not trans as "uncool" or "boring", so kids want to be able to have a label that they think will make others think they're cool as well attached to them.
I feel like this is also what the non-binary thing is doing. It's letting kids have these trans identities without having to actually do anything about it or have medical treatments.
I once had a dream where I was the genshin impact character Shikanoin Heizou who got mad at someone threatening his best friend Kazuha so he said "Im going to destroy your bloodline"
Now I'm personally never going to destroy anyone's bloodline nor am I a femboy detective nor am i anywhere smart enough to be one.
Dreams are wild and they don't mean anything, so don't worry about it
No, it's not. I don't know where the hell you got your interpretation from, saying "I don't agree with you" is not the same as what you said.
If someone takes it that way it just proves my point, and that they're probably emotionally vulnerable.
I don't act out like you did whenever someone tells me they're an atheist and don't believe in God (I'm a Christian)
Honestly it also reminds me of Ritsu Sohma from Fruits Basket. I'm a major Fruits Basket fan (I literally have the whole series lol). SO many people call him trans, (i've even seen him called a trans icon) BUT HE ISN'T EVEN TRANS! He's a cross dresser who dresses like a woman because it takes the edge off his anxiety, but even at the end of the series he finally gains the courage to dress as a man and he cuts his hair short.
Personally I find people who call those kinds of people to be trans annoying ngl :\