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About me
I was a shy teenager who felt completely out of place in my female body, especially when I started developing during puberty. I found communities online that convinced me my depression and discomfort meant I was trans and that medically transitioning was the answer. I socially transitioned to male and almost started hormones and surgery, believing it was my only way to escape feeling broken. I eventually realized my struggle was really about being autistic and dealing with low self-esteem and internalized homophobia, not about being the wrong sex. By stepping away from those online spaces and getting proper therapy, I learned to accept myself as a female, and I'm now in a much healthier place.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was a teenager, feeling completely out of place. I was born female, but I never felt like I related to the other girls. I was shy, struggled to read social cues, and felt a deep discomfort with my body, especially when I started developing breasts during puberty. I hated them; they felt foreign and wrong on me. I now believe a lot of this was tied to being autistic, though I wasn’t diagnosed at the time. I just felt like a "weird" girl who didn't fit in anywhere.
This feeling of detachment and depression led me online, where I found communities that seemed to have all the answers. I was heavily influenced by what I saw on the internet. Seeing trans celebrities get praised and accepted made it seem like a valid path to escape my unhappiness. In these online support groups, people told me that my depression and feeling of not being a girl were clear signs I was trans, and that the only solution was to transition. It felt like I had finally found a reason for why I felt so broken.
I socially transitioned to male for a while and seriously pursued medical transition. I was looking into getting testosterone and a double mastectomy. I was convinced that changing my body was the only way to fix the deep-seated discomfort I felt, which I now understand was a mix of body dysmorphia and the normal awkwardness of puberty. My low self-esteem and anxiety made me an easy target for this kind of thinking. It offered a clear, albeit drastic, solution.
Looking back, I think a huge part of my desire to transition was a form of escapism. I wanted to escape being the person I was, who I saw as weak and unlovable. I also struggled with internalized homophobia; the idea of being a lesbian was somehow more distressing to me than the immense challenge of becoming a man. I thought transitioning would solve everything.
I eventually stepped back from the brink. I never went through with hormones or surgery. What helped me was taking a break from the online spaces that were reinforcing this single-minded path. I started to understand that my brain was wired differently because I'm autistic, and that was okay. I didn't need to change my body to fit in; I needed to learn to accept myself. I benefited greatly from therapy that wasn't just about affirming a trans identity, but that helped me unpack my trauma, my autism, and my self-esteem issues.
I don't believe there are more than two sexes. I think my brain, a female brain, was trying to solve a problem that wasn't really about gender. My discomfort was from a lot of other things piling up. I do have some regrets about how deep I went into the trans identity and the time I lost being so consumed by it, but I don't regret ultimately stepping back and not permanently altering my body. It was a difficult and confusing chapter, but it led me to a much healthier place of self-acceptance.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty; began to feel intense discomfort with my developing breasts and felt detached from other girls. |
| 16 | Spent increasing time online; discovered trans communities and influencers; began to believe I was transgender. |
| 17 | Socially transitioned to male and started researching medical transition (testosterone and top surgery). |
| 18 | Stepped back from transition plans; began non-affirming therapy focused on autism, trauma, and self-esteem. |
| 19 | Came to terms with being a homosexual female and stopped identifying as trans. |
Top Comments by /u/SandtheB:
After reading "Irreversible Damage: Teenage Girls and the Transgender Craze" By: Abigail Shrier
There are points I disagree with, but it's very clear that the explosion of FtM or FtNB girls attempting to go through transition, has a lot to do with the underdiagnoses of girls on the autism spectrum. Not too long ago, "weird" boys and girls would never have gotten diagnosed, now only "weird" boys are being diagnosed but still at far to low a rate.
After the invention of the smart phone and cheap high speed internet, these girls and boys that would normally have pro-social behaviors, outside play, face to face interactions, broken bones and scraped knees etc. are now losing what social skills exposure they would normally have.
So, they fit in even less then they would normally, and as a result they don't relate to other girls.
The popularity of Trans Celebrities (Laverne Cox, Caitlyn Jenner, Elliot Page) and acceptance of LGBT people as a part of normal society are also a part of it.
Finally, They are also joining online support groups that claim the reason for their depression and detachment from other girls is because they are trans and the only solution is to transition. These girls are attempting to order Testosterone, Double Mastectomies and hysterectomies with very little push back and oversite from psychiatric medical professionals.
There are no simple solutions to this issue, but some things that can help are:
More checks before a teenager or young adult can order testosterone or irreversible medical procedures.
Increasing of checks in children for autism and Asperger's spectrum disorders.
Decreasing the screen time children get, encouragement of outdoor play and pro-social behavior.
TL;DR:
The problem is multifaceted: the exposure of trans celebrities (Laverne Cox, Caitlyn Jenner, Elliot Page), the acceptance of LGBT people as parts of society especially online, Easy access to cheap internet/smart phones, and the depression and detachment of Millennials and Gen Z.
The solution is not simple: More checks before someone can permanently transition, more diagnosis of boy/girls on autism spectrum, more time in the real world, and more socialization.
The pronouns thing is very annoying, but of the Trans people that fully transitioned. They don't worry about pronouns as much, they have already been to hell and back.
The extreme focus is because of the non-binary takeover of trans spaces, they REALLY want to you to ask pronouns. When most trans people I know try super hard to "pass" and it's worse for their transition if they don't.
This is a result of the non-binary "takeover" of trans spaces.
According to they/them, it's MORE polite if you see a homely person with a weird haircut, to assume non-binary pronouns.
According to the trans people I know (ftm or mtf) if you say they/them when he/her is clearly male/female, it's very offensive and triggering.
As for you, it's going to be awkward, because people are walking on eggshells around you, especially when you are not "passing"
I can field this one, I really relate to your dilemma here, I never tried to transition or use different pronouns but I have never related to the other boys in the locker room or at school. Growing up I've always been shy, skinny, underweight, weaker, unable to read social cues, scared of the dark and horror movies.
I realize however that I AM A MAN because for biological reasons, I have mostly male needs and male wants, also I find it easier to relate to men rather then women. For example, no matter how much I try to repress my sexuality it always forces it's way back and I still want to have romantic relationships and PinV sex with very attractive women.
It is my opinion that here are only 2 genders and sex is biologically connected to that, people are able to play with that if they want, but you shouldn't because your brain REALLY needs sexuality to function.
The First piece of advice I can give is be easier on yourself and don't let your past make you pick a worse future.
Second, I suggest that you "pick a team" and define your masculinity on your own terms based on experiences dating, working, and your health goals.
Third, if the people you surround yourself with can't accept you for who you are, be it trans/cis or gay/straight etc. you need to find better friends that will.
Fourth, don't cut off ALL ties to people that you don't agree or have common interests with, because this world would be a lot more boring if everyone was the same.
Finally, relationships are hard for people like us, it's hard for us to effectively express our wants and need to neurotypical people, because it's hard for them to effectively express their wants and needs to us.
This is very interesting. It makes some sense. Many of the lesbians I know identify with most "masculine" jobs like construction worker and plumber etc.
If I were to raise a daughter I would never teach her to identify ONLY with female characters, but rather BOTH male a female characters that have the characteristics she is impressed by.