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The user's story is highly detailed, internally consistent, and evolves naturally over time. They describe a nuanced personal journey of discovering their autism, re-evaluating their gender dysphoria, and adopting an agender identity without medical transition. The language is personal, reflective, and contains specific, plausible details (e.g., mentioning the Chalmers clinic in Edinburgh). The passion and specific focus on the autism-transgender overlap are consistent with a genuine, invested individual.
About me
My journey started at 16 when I came out as a trans man, believing medical transition was my only path to feeling comfortable. Getting an autism diagnosis at 19 completely changed my perspective, as I realized my discomfort was more about sensory issues and social pressure than gender. I decided against hormones and surgery because I was tired of trying to perform as a man or a woman. An experience with LSD helped me see gender as a fluid concept and accept myself outside of any label. Now, I see myself as just a human being, and while I still have some dysphoria, I've found peace by accepting my body for what it is.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender started when I was a teenager. I came out as transgender, specifically as a trans man, when I was 16. I really thought that medically transitioning—taking testosterone and getting surgery—was the path I needed to take to feel right in my body. A lot of my discomfort was tied to puberty; I hated the changes, especially developing breasts. It felt wrong and I just wanted it to stop.
When I was 19, everything changed. I was going to a gender clinic, which I was really happy with, and they actually suggested I get tested for autism. It turned out I am autistic, and that diagnosis explained so much. I learned that a lot of what I was feeling as "gender incongruence" was deeply connected to being autistic. I had sensory issues that made the physical changes of puberty unbearable, and I struggled with the social rules and expectations around gender. The idea of "passing" as a man felt like just another impossible social performance, another mask to wear, and I was already exhausted from a lifetime of masking my autism.
Finding out I was autistic made me completely rethink medical transition. The clinicians at the clinic were great; they were honest and told me that hormones could potentially make my sensory issues worse and that, as an autistic person, I might need a lower dose. They encouraged me to take time to understand this new part of my identity before making any permanent decisions. I decided not to go on testosterone or pursue any surgeries. I realised that moving from trying to perform as a "woman" to trying to perform as a "man" wasn't solving the root problem. The problem was that I was forcing myself into boxes I never fit into.
What really helped me was a powerful experience I had with LSD. During a trip, I had a visualisation where I saw gender not as two separate, fixed things, but as colours blending into one another until they were indistinguishable. It helped me break down the binary thinking I was trapped in. It allowed me to see that I don't experience gender in a typical way, and that it's okay to just be me, without labels. That experience, along with the support from my clinic, gave me the courage to detransition socially. I told people that transitioning wasn't for me, and everyone was okay with it. I still dress the same way I did when I identified as trans—I'm still gender non-conforming—but I've dropped the pressure of the labels.
My view on gender now is that it's largely a social construct. I don't really see myself as a man or a woman. I'm just a human being. I've worked hard to stop looking at my body and judging it as "male" or "female." My chest is just my chest; my body is just my body. It's mine. I practice acceptance and focus on expressing myself in ways that feel natural, regardless of what society says is for men or women. I still have some dysphoria, but it doesn't control my life anymore. I'm mostly happy.
I don't regret exploring transition, because it was a necessary part of me getting to where I am now. But I am very glad I didn't medically transition. For me, the answer wasn't changing my body to fit a gender, but freeing my mind from the idea of gender altogether. The most important thing I learned is to be true to yourself first, ignore the social pressure, and know that you can deal with dysphoria without hormones or surgery. You are a human deserving of peace, no matter what you look like.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 16 | Came out as a trans man (FTM). |
| 19 | Was assessed and diagnosed with autism through the gender clinic. This led to the decision not to pursue medical transition (hormones or surgery). |
| 19 | Began identifying as agender/genderless and started socially detransitioning. |
| 19 | Had a significant experience with LSD that helped solidify my understanding of my non-binary identity and self-acceptance. |
Top Comments by /u/Satanks:
Talk to your father, you cannot trust your mother with this. She has medically abused you. Absolutely do NOT go through SRS, the good news is you can probably quit hormones and go through a male puberty. But you need to be in a safe space to do that, you may have to move away from your mom
You absolutely can deal with dysphoria without hormones. It's different for everyone, but for me I had to realise that going from one performative mask (my perceived idea of what a female should be) to another (the same as male) would not solve the root issue that I was simply holding myself to standards I cannot meet, and dont have to exist. I was lucky enough to get screened for autism at the gender clinic, they helped me so much. You can suffer gender dysphoria and identity issues without needing medical interventions, some people benefit more from freedom of expression, dropping the strict binary standards we are fed throughout our lives. Being autistic, I struggled with the societal view of gender the most, arguably more than my chest issues. Now I am free of most my issues because I accepted that I express a bit differently, I appreciate androgynous looks in myself and others, I don't care if others view me a certain way as the only perception I can control is my own. My life has improved so much. My issues haven't disappeared but I am no longer choking on them, I am mostly happy. You can be too I don't doubt but it takes work
Hi, I have dysphoria and was ftm. I came out at 16, and decided not to transition after I found out I have autism. This is more common in AFABs. I advise getting screened for this first, you can Google autism quotient test. Same one they gave me in clinic. The gender clinic are helping me with this :)
What helped me the most was dropping the jargon, everything. Wear and express however you like!! You are first and foremost a human. Do not focus on labels, do what feels right and take your time. I don't really view myself as man or woman, in the sense I am not defined by it, I am just me! If you don't see yourself on testosterone, don't go on it. I'm not either, and yeah maybe being a girl doesn't sit right with me either, but it is just a label. Again I identify more as a human first,
Just a warning. I was planning to go for full transition until I learned I have autism spectrum disorder, which causes issues since autistic people react differently to hormones and it can make sensory issues worse, possibly leading to anxiety as a result. Please take an autism quotient test. Having autism doesnt stop transitioning altogether but it means lower doses are required.
One thing I have gathered from this is that you do still identify as a woman. Am I right in thinking so far you are enjoying the changes HRT has brought you and the place this finds you in society (as in, passing as a woman?. Unlike some on the sub, I do believe HRT and transition is right for some people with dysphoria, however it is clear that this is not the right choice for everyone. My advice is to hold off on any surgical procedures until you are in a more stable position, HRT is a little safer for male born folks as much of the changes are reversible if worst comes to worst.
I do not think you are an autogynephile, normally you would carry some of these fetishes over and it seems as though you have not. Perhaps this fetish stuff was sort of a coping mechanism pre transition...lets not forget that porn is rather unhealthy for most teenagers, so I wouldn't get too dogged by down by what you were into in the past. I am not qualified to say though. I do however think you are paranoid of being one, and suffering from psychological dysphoria, by this I mean you are suffering from the expectations and ideas of what a woman or indeed a trans woman should be. I think it you are putting too much pressure on yourself to conform to the idea of what a woman or indeed a man should be, when in fact you should be true to yourself, as this is the only presentation you will find happiness in, not comparing yourself to others, and this does not mean becoming defined by your birth sex or female stereotypes or social expectations. It means releasing all that, thinking things through pragmatically, and following what is best for yourself not what others pressure you to do. .Please speak to a therapist and try not to over think things, remember that no matter what you look like or how you identify, you are a human deserving of peace and happiness <3
You are visible in the sense that people will be gentle with you, but in academics i felt pretty invisible I also found it almost impossible to keep close friendships without a guy developing a crush on me and this would end up damaging the friendship if I didn't feel the same.
Yep. I'm 19, found out I'm autistic and a lot of my gender incongruence is related to that. Sensory issues making puberty hard, social issues. I figured I'm not medically transitioning, however I'm still in treatment for gender incongruence and being autistic (it was the gender clinic who got me an autism test. I like the clinic very much.)
They're effectively locked behind a judge. I don't see how some judge is going to make a good medical decision, they definitely are not knowledgeable on gender dysphoria. Second, services have already stopped prescribing them, I don't see how they can handle such red tape
I'd recommend seeing a gender therapist before making any big decisions. Remember even without HRT and surgery, you can be named what you like, wear what you like. You don't need to go present as 'female' or 'male', just do what YOU want. Personally I consider myself agender and I want a chest reduction. I didn't want to go on HRT or get surgery due to the same reasons. Though there's nothing wrong with being androgynous, that doesn't mean you have to go on hormones to affirm that if it's not for you. Be true to yourself first and weigh up the pros and cons. You can't reverse HRT but you can start at any point in life so no rush
I have dysphoria and in that sense I am trans, however I know what you mean. I call this passing politics. It is neurotic but it's a reflection of what they experience and what I experienced when first coming to terms with my gender incongruence. People just want to fit anyway they can, however people need to understand that it's ok to not know, it's ok not to be sure, and not see it as a bad omen. Incongruence is incongruence