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About me
I was a girl who felt uncomfortable with my body and was influenced online to believe I was a man. I started testosterone and had surgery as a teenager, but the doctors never explained the serious, permanent health risks. I now live with chronic pain and the grief of not being able to have children. I see now my discomfort came from trauma and internalized homophobia, not from being born the wrong sex. I am trying to heal from this medical abuse and live again as the woman I am.
My detransition story
Looking back on my whole journey, it’s hard to know where to start. I was a girl who never really fit in, and I think a lot of my problems came from low self-esteem and depression. I hated my body when I went through puberty, especially developing breasts. I felt so uncomfortable. At the time, I thought this discomfort meant I was supposed to be a man. I see now that I was influenced a lot by what I saw online and by friends; being a butch lesbian didn’t seem like enough, and there was this pressure that to be truly comfortable, you had to transition.
I started taking testosterone and I eventually got top surgery. The doctors and therapists I saw never really explained the long-term health risks. They made it all about aesthetics and treated my discomfort as proof I was trans. My parents were pro-gay, and because the trans movement had latched onto the gay movement, they were gaslit by the professionals into thinking this was the right path for me. They were told it was the same as being gay, but it’s not. You can’t be born trans the way you’re just naturally gay or bi.
I have serious regrets about transitioning. The testosterone messed up my health, and my chest still hurts years after the mastectomy. They told me the bad side effects were uncommon, but I think they affect almost everyone because cross-sex hormones are like poison in such high doses. I was a minor when I started all this, and I couldn’t possibly understand the lifelong consequences. I can’t have children now, and that’s a heavy thing to live with.
My thoughts on gender have completely changed. I see now that my feelings were a mix of trauma, internalized homophobia, and just plain hating the changes of puberty. I see so many butch women today going down the same path, feeling like they have to imitate men to be valid, and it’s sad. Butches aren’t men. Testosterone isn’t something you take for aesthetics. I think a lot of people, especially young people, are being medically abused, and the doctors should be ashamed of themselves.
Detransitioning has been its own kind of trauma. Worrying about not passing as female, dealing with the aftermath of surgery… it’s a level of pain most people can’t understand. I get angry when I see how callous people can be about it, like a boyfriend telling his detrans girlfriend she doesn't sound female. It’s an incredibly shitty thing to say to someone who has been through this. But talking to regular people about my experience helped me stop blaming myself. They were horrified by my story, because it is a horrible story. The only people who don’t see that are the ones who are completely indoctrinated by gender ideology.
Here is a timeline of my journey based on what I remember:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 13 | Started puberty, began to hate my developing breasts. Felt intense discomfort with my body. |
| 15 | Influenced by online communities and friends, I started to identify as transgender. |
| 16 | Began taking testosterone after being approved by therapists and doctors. |
| 17 | Underwent top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 19 | Realized I had made a mistake and began to detransition. Stopped taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Now living as a woman again, dealing with the permanent health effects of my transition. |
Top Comments by /u/Scared-Whereas7498:
I hate it. Butches aren’t men and shouldn’t be pressured to feel like they have to imitate men in order to be comfortable in themselves as butch women. So many butches with obvious internalized homophobia transitioning nowadays… I spoke to this one lady who said she wanted a mastectomy but would miss her breasts in bed. It’s sad. And T isn’t something you get on for aesthetics. It messes up your health so bad.
Almost all trans identified males are dealing with AGP but I don’t think most realize it… and the thing is some AGP dudes seem to realize and can do damage control, but many get wrapped up in trans identity, which makes the AGP and the narcissism worse because they expect women to validate their fetish. They can’t admit they have AGP because it makes them feel like men with a fetish, which they are. They have to pretend to be women.
He shouldn’t have said that and it was an incredibly shitty thing for him to say. I really think it would be worth telling him that comment made you feel.
Detransition, worrying about not passing as your sex, having surgery… it’s a level of trauma most people cannot begin to comprehend. He should have known better but I definitely think bringing it up may help, and his response will tell you a lot about the kind of person he is.
My parents were pro gay and because the trans crap latched itself onto the gay movement, they associated the two. It’s not possible to be born trans the way some people just naturally develop and are gay or bi. They were gaslit so gd hard by my therapist and endocrinologist.
I tell people they’re wrong about the trans community whenever it comes up. It took me forever to stop blaming myself and one of the things that helped is that normal people know this is wrong. Every regular person I told my story to was horrified, because it is a horrible story. The people who don’t see that are completely indoctrinated.
You’re right in that it came from a cruel honesty, but he’s her boyfriend. He absolutely should have handled it better. Detrans women who come across as not fully female know when we are being seen oddly be others. There was no need to shove the knife in further. These women have been through enough suffering. I understand the point you are making, though.
I’m sorry he said that to you. Your anger is completely legitimate. Tbh I would have gotten madddd if my partner said that bull crap to me. I do not consider what he said fine or OK. It was completely insensitive to you and as your boyfriend, he should have either said nothing or said it in a less stupid way.
Not sure what your story is but if it makes you feel any better, the shame isn’t yours to bear. Every trans and detrans story I hear is atrocious. People are being medically abused and we’re really suffering out here for it. People have really swallowed gender ideology and it’s made them lose their minds. I saw some of your other comments. If older people are gendering you female I can p much guarantee you people intuit you ARE female, but then overthink it because they’re paranoid about women secretly being TIMs.
I think you’re right tbh. I see some teen boys who basically become AGP because they are so much trans porn and go down the MTF Reddit rabbit hole. They’re basically grooming themselves, or older men are grooming them. The most narcissistic ones seem to whine about lesbians not wanting to fuck them, whine about how nobody likes them bc they’re trans…
Tbh I don’t think the ladies going after gay men are doing that because they think gay men are easier to manipulate. I think they’re doing it because they use them as validation props and because they’re afraid of feeling unequal to men in the relationship, so they want a “gay” relationship to feel like they’re being treated as a full human. That’s the impression I get anyway.
I feel you ❤️ I’m sorry you’re in pain. My chest still hurts years post mastectomy. My doctors never made me aware of what hormones or surgery would actually do to my body, in terms of physical health. It was all aesthetic. And all the health issues were downplayed and made out to be uncommon side effects, when in reality it’s highly likely they will affect everyone eventually because cross sex hormones are poisonous in such high doses.
But that doesn’t matter because we were both minors. Minors don’t understand what they’re doing in this situation. They cannot comprehend they’ll likely grow out of it.
All these doctors should be ashamed of themselves