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About me
I started identifying as trans when I was 13 because I didn't feel right as a girl and thought being a straight guy would be easier. I felt pressured to continue my transition even when I had doubts, which made me feel stuck between two bad choices. I ultimately decided to detransition because I knew I had to learn to accept my real female body. I'm still uncomfortable with feminine clothes, so I just dress like a tomboy, which feels normal for me. Now, I'm just trying to take things slow and be myself without any labels.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I just didn't feel right. I was really young, only 13, when I first started identifying as trans. I think a big part of it was that I just wanted to be normal and fit in, but I felt like I couldn't as a girl. I was into girls, and the idea of being a lesbian was really scary to me; I think I had some internalized homophobia without even realizing it. Being a straight guy seemed a lot easier in my head.
I was bullied for being trans, which made everything so much harder. When I went to a new school where no one knew my past, it was a huge relief, but it also made me terrified of detransitioning. I was scared that going back to living as a girl would just start the bullying all over again, even though I'd be considered cis.
I talked to my mom about how confused I was feeling. I told her I felt like I was just pretending sometimes and that I didn't know what my next move should be. I knew I didn't want to be trans, but I was also scared that if I stopped, I'd regret it later. My parents were supportive, but when I talked about stopping puberty blockers, they said something about how I might regret it because I can't turn back after stopping. That made me kind of mad because it felt like they were pushing me to keep going.
I ultimately decided to detransition because I felt stuck between two bad options. I could either start testosterone, which I knew wouldn't make me a "real cis guy" and I thought I would just end up hating myself, or I could stop the blockers and try to learn to accept my real self. I explained it to my mom like choosing between two buckets: one full of feathers and one full of sand. They both suck, but why choose the one that comes with more pain and health risks?
The idea of dressing in feminine clothes is still really scary to me. I don't see myself in that kind of clothing at all. I'm just going to keep dressing how I dress, which is pretty tomboyish—like skater clothes. I know a lot of girls who dress the same way, so it feels normal to me.
I don't think I'll ever be completely happy with my body. If I could choose, I would choose to have been born a cis man, but I know that's never going to happen. I have to learn to accept that this is the body I have. I'm still working on that.
I don't have any serious health complications from the time I was on blockers, and I'm thankful for that. I'm still really young, so I don't know what my future holds or how my feelings about my gender might change. Right now, I'm just trying to take things slow and be myself without any labels.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
Age | Event |
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13 | Started identifying as transgender. |
13 | Was put on puberty blockers. |
13 | Talked to parents about my doubts and decided to stop blockers and detransition. |
13 | Began living socially as a girl again, but kept my same style and appearance. |
Top Comments by /u/Sch1lpad:
Wow our story’s are very similair, I had a talk with my parents yesterday and they told me something along the lines of: Well you can stop now but you might regret it cause you can’t turn back after stopping blockers. It just seemed a but like they wanted me to keep going or whatever, it made me kinda mad lol. But yeah thanks for the comment!
it’s kind of a habit i guess, I wouldn’t just make up a story. When I wrote this I was desperate for some help, cause no one knew yet. Formulated too well? Idk if that’s a compliment or not, cause I’m only 13 and can’t speak english fluently so yeah haha
Yeah, I’ll probably de-trans I don’t know how long it will take me too do it tho. I made the decision to because I either go on T which will suck cause I won’t be a real cis guy anyways and I will hate myself, or I stop blockers soonly and learn to accept my real self without any of the health risks. I explained it to my mom like this: You have two buckets one full of feathers and another one full of sand, they both suck but why choose the hard one with the most risks on pain etc when you can choose the easy one which also sucks but you won’t risk as much. Hope that makes sense
Well I just had a talk with my mom about this, and what your saying is so right. There is no rush, I might starting to indentify as a girl but I’m sure that I won’t try to change much. By that I mean that I won’t dress differently or act differently, I’ll just be me but without blockers. Which will be hard cause if I could choose I would definitely choose to be a cis man, which I know I’ll never be. Just like you are saying the route of going back seems the easiest, but will also be one of the hardest.
Our stories are really alike, I always feel like I’m just pretending. But I just don’t know my next move, I want to be a tomboy but if I was born a boy i would just like that. I really just want to be considered normal, and I have no clue if I would accept my body. I don’t want to be trans, but I’m scared that if I de-transition now I’ll regret it in the future. But I’ll tell my parents about how I am feeling and they will definitely support me.
Yeah that’s definitely an option, I have pretty fast growing hair so I think I’ll just stick with having a medium short cut and just wait until it gets slightly longer. And also since I skate I know so many girls that dress just like me so I guess style isn’t really an issue since it’s normal among me and my friends.
Your completely right, It’s just that I was so young when I became trans and I have been bullied for it my whole life. And I went to secondary school where no one knew a thing. So it is really nerve wrecking too know that this might happen again even tho I would be considers Cis.
Well I don’t see myself in any fem clothing yet, which is probably because I’m only 13 years old. I will definitely just keep dressing how I dress, probably for a long time because I’m just into women. So I don’t know if my puberty will change that or not, but yeah. The idea of dressing “girly” is just really scary to me.
Of course you can, and if someone likes you why would it matter that you where once trans. It might even help them a little bit, cause you know what he’s been through. If i’d like someone as a transman then I would not care if they where once trans. Of course this is my view on this situation and might be different for him.