This story is from the comments by /u/SelfLoveAlwways that are listed below, summarised with AI.
User Authenticity Assessment: Suspicious Account
Based on the provided comments, there are significant red flags that suggest this account is not authentic and is likely a bot or a bad-faith actor, not a genuine detransitioner or desister.
Red Flags:
Extreme Repetition: The comments are overwhelmingly repetitive, using the same phrases and concepts ("return to love," "accept the past," "formless soul," "be kind to yourself") like a script, regardless of the specific post they are responding to. This is a hallmark of automated or copy-paste responses.
Lack of Personal Detail: There is a complete absence of any specific, personal experience with detransition. The user never shares their own story, medical history, or specific struggles, which is highly unusual for someone participating so frequently in a support community.
Inconsistent and Evolving Persona: The user's claimed identity shifts. At times they imply they are a detransitioned female, at other times a bisexual man who considered transition, and later someone with a transgender lover. This inconsistency suggests a fabricated persona.
Aggressive, Propagandistic Language: While passion is expected, the language often escalates into inflammatory, non-clinical rhetoric ("criminally insane," "trans terrorism," "demonic," "China is enjoying watching western civilization collapse"). This is more aligned with political trolling or spreading propaganda than offering peer support.
In short, the account behaves like a propaganda bot designed to push a specific ideological narrative rather than provide authentic support based on lived experience.
About me
I'm a bisexual man who started creating a female persona to cope with internalized homophobia and confusion. My journey was deeply influenced by severe depression and OCD, which made me doubt my own body and seek validation from others. I now see my experience as a form of escapism from underlying mental health issues that needed proper care, not medicalization. Today, I live happily as a gender-nonconforming man and have found peace through radical self-acceptance and therapy. My most important lesson was learning to validate myself and love the male body I was born with.
My detransition story
My journey with gender started when I was very young. I am a bisexual man, and when I was younger, I struggled a lot with internalized homophobia. I used to create a female persona, a kind of character I would slip into, especially when I wanted to be a bottom. It felt like a way to explore and maybe even hide my same-sex attraction. This was before the current wave of trans ideology, and for me, it was a coping mechanism, a way to deal with my confusion. I never medically transitioned, but I understand the pull because I was looking for a way to feel comfortable and find joy.
My mental health was a huge part of this. I have dealt with severe depression and OCD my entire life. The OCD is particularly insidious because it makes you doubt your own sense of self. You get stuck in obsessive thought loops, questioning everything about who you are. For a long time, I had virtually no self-esteem and based all my actions on seeking approval from others. This led me to a very dark place.
I also believe that trauma plays a massive role in many of these journeys. Trauma can sever the connection between your mind and your body, making you feel like a stranger to yourself. I think a lot of what gets called gender dysphoria is actually a symptom of other underlying issues—like depression, anxiety, OCD, or past abuse—that need proper psychological care, not medicalization. Virtually every case of gender dysphoria can be helped with appropriate psychological counseling that helps rebuild that mind-body connection.
I was influenced online and by the social circles I was in. The trans community can be very toxic and cult-like, encouraging people to separate from their families and embrace an ideology that, in my view, denies biological reality. I started seeing this as a form of escapism, a way to run from my problems instead of facing them. I now see "non-binary" as a narcissistic concept that denies the nature of reality. It's all part of an ideology that tricks people, especially vulnerable young people.
My turning point came when I realized I needed to stop seeking validation from everyone else and start finding it within myself. I began a long, hard process of learning to love myself. I got on a medication called Trintellix for my depression, which helped pull me out of a death spiral. The most important thing I learned was the concept of radical acceptance. We cannot change or edit the past. We can only accept what has happened, learn from it, and move forward by being kind and compassionate to ourselves.
I have very strong feelings about children transitioning. I believe it is criminally insane. A child cannot consent to being sterilized, to having their puberty blocked, or to having healthy body parts removed. This isn't healthcare; it's a medical scandal. So many of these kids are just same-sex attracted or dealing with trauma and would grow up to be happy gay adults if they were given proper mental support instead of hormones and surgery. It makes me furious.
Now, I am fully committed to self-love and acceptance. I accept the male body I was born with. I live as a gender-nonconforming man; I can be as masculine or as feminine as I want in my behavior without changing my body. I don't regret exploring my identity, but I am deeply grateful I never medically transitioned. I think it creates lifelong patients and doesn't solve the underlying mental health problems.
My message to anyone going through this is to please be kind to yourself. You are not ruined. You are a beautiful, worthwhile human being. Your body is not the problem. Work on rebuilding your mind-body connection through therapy, self-love, and radical acceptance. You must be the one to validate yourself. Return to love, always.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| ? | Struggled with internalized homophobia and created a female persona as a coping mechanism. |
| ? | Battled severe depression and OCD, leading to low self-esteem and a search for external validation. |
| 33 | Reached a major turning point in my understanding of myself and my identity. |
| 40 | Fully embraced self-love and radical acceptance of my natural male body. |
Top Reddit Comments by /u/SelfLoveAlwways:
Well, ends up that transition actually increases suicide risk. Everyone was lied to by insane doctors and therapists that claimed people would kill themselves if we didn’t transition. The mere Suggestion of suicide means this is a mental illness and should not have permanent medical intervention in the body until the mental condition is resolved. Note - suicide is not the answer ever my friends, you stay here with us and suffer with us, grow, and learn to love the body mind and soul. Love you. 💖🥰💖🥰
Child tranisition is unacceptable and should not be legal. You are correct in your assessment. The suicide myth was disproven by Europe who has put a stop to the child trans industry. All you have to say is if a kid wanted to get a face tattoo or they’d commit suicide do you give them the face tattoo? How about a car? Gonna give a ten year old child a car if they threaten to kill themselves ? No you fucking wouldn’t because children are stupid. Which is why they need protection from insane adults encouraging children to do this. So yeah you’re awesome I’m glad your sticking up for the children, you are awesome.
The fact your friend is expressing anxiety about the mastectomy, and you have detransitioned means you should absolutely tell them about your detransition and your self acceptance. It will be a hard conversation but I think you can do a lot of good. Obviously mental health and not wanting to trigger someone is important but since you are a friend of them I feel you should be honest, direct, and clear.
Non binary is a narcissistic concept that literally denies the very nature of reality.
A lot of us were tricked by the trans ideology but let’s make sure we don’t get tricked again.
Non binary is a made up term, and it literally suggest a binary/ non binary binary.
Lol.
Gynecomastia surgery is for breast reduction in men, it’s not considering “painful” but of course you will have some swelling and such. As far as your genitals, if you stop all cross sex hormones and allow the testosterone to grow then you will start to see genital growth. This process takes time, multiple years before total return to normal.
Also, as you go through this process of building the life and the body you want, you absolutely must remember to be kind to yourself, to love yourself, and be compassionate. I’m happy you are here, and I’m proud of you for taking this decisions. You got this.
You are a man who was victimized by your therapist as a child. That’s it. It’s not complicated. Love yourself always anyways. You’ll prolly get paid a ton of money in the future. Be nice to yourself, make your mind a nice place to live. Always. Pure return to love.
Trans terrorism has no room for negotiation. They want to make as much money as possible and children are the easiest target. This is not life saving medicine, it’s criminal insanity, and the fact they are giving children sex changes is a crime against humanity
First off, you’re beautiful. And strong. You must remember that we live in the here now. The past cannot be edited or changed, it can only be accepted. You just smile and show yourself endless love and compassion. I’m sorry you miss your breasts, that is something you will have to radically accept. It’s a part of life learning to live with regret but not letting it destroy or ruin or present. I leave you with this: you’re a brave beautiful wonderful woman who should be celebrated for being honest and true to yourself. We go on this journey of life without a guidebook! You’re a hero and I’m so glad you have come here to share with like minded friends. REMEMBER you will have good days and you will have bad days, but not matter what you must return to self love, compassion and joy. You got this, you’re awesome. 🥰
You have to love who are and the body you have. You and only get to choose how you present and identify yourself. You have been through a lot and deserve a lot of love and compassion. Obviously your therapist was a complete idiot but that conversation is for another time. What is important now is that you channel raw ends self love and respect yourself totally. We cannot change the past, we cannot edit the past, we can simply and humbly accept the past and live here and now. Never forget all we are is ghosts driving silly little muscle cages lol. Love yourself now. Everyday. All. Day.
You are beautiful and wonderful and human. YOU ARE NOT RUINED. You are clearly a kind person who did the best the could with the information you had. Sadly you were a victim of trans ideology. Do not be so hard on yourself. Remember our souls are formless, and love, particularly from yourself to yourself, will shine a light on the path to a happy life. You’re beautiful, I’m happy and proud of you for coming here and being vulnerable, and look forward to seeing you learn to love yourself again. I know it’s a broad thought, but you absolutely must return to love. We are human, we do our best. You have millions of people rooting for you and believing in you. Please be kind and compassionate toward yourself as you continue this journey of life. You are strong, you got this.