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The user's comments are highly personal, nuanced, and emotionally consistent with a desister's perspective (someone who stopped identifying as trans without necessarily having medically transitioned). The language is natural, the advice is specific and empathetic, and the experiences shared (e.g., voice changes on/off T, personal style) are detailed and believable for a real person in this community.
About me
I started testosterone because I felt trapped by the expectations of being a woman and thought it was my only way out. After five months, I stopped, and my voice settled into a deeper tone that I've learned to accept. I realized my drive to transition came from low self-esteem and a hatred for the rigid rules placed on me. Now, I've found peace by stepping away from labels altogether and just being myself. I wear what I want and let people call me whatever they assume, because my worth isn't defined by any category.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I just didn't fit anywhere. I never felt happy or comfortable living by the rules of what a woman is supposed to be, but the idea of being a man didn't feel right either. I even tried identifying as non-binary for a while, but that came with its own set of expectations that I felt pressured to meet. I felt like I had to pick a label, and none of them ever felt like home.
I decided to start testosterone because I thought it was the only way to escape the discomfort I felt. I was on T for about five months. It did change my voice, making it deeper and a bit grumbly. After five months, I stopped. I’ve been off it for about the same amount of time now. My voice didn't go back to how it was before; it just settled. It's less grumbly and I have a bit more control over it now. I can talk and sing a little higher if I try, but I’ll never get my full old range back, and I’ve made peace with that.
I never had any surgeries. For me, it was more about the social aspect and trying hormones. Looking back, a lot of my drive to transition came from a place of low self-esteem and not liking the body I had during and after puberty. I hated the expectations that came with being a woman, and I think I was influenced a lot by what I saw online, where it seemed like transitioning was the clear answer for anyone who didn't fit in.
Now, I don't regret trying testosterone because it helped me figure out what I truly needed, which was to step away from the whole concept of gender altogether. I realized that just because I was born female doesn't mean I have to be any certain type of person. The labels—cis woman, trans man, non-binary—they're all just words that people use to put you in a box. They don't really mean anything about who you are inside.
I’ve found a lot of peace by just being me. I’m a tall person with a not-very-feminine build. I have a septum piercing, dyed hair, and I wear mostly men's clothes. People look at me and often assume I'm non-binary, and I just let them call me whatever they want because, honestly, I don't care anymore. It's very liberating to finally understand that my body parts don't define my identity. I'm just me.
I don't have any serious health complications from my short time on hormones, and I don't believe it affected my fertility. My main takeaway from all of this is that there is no one right way to be. You don't have to transition in a specific way, and you don't have to detransition in a specific way either. The goal is to find what makes you happy and comfortable in your own skin, regardless of what anyone else thinks.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 22 | Started testosterone. |
| 22 (5 months later) | Stopped testosterone. |
| 23 | Realized labels didn't matter and found peace just being myself. |
Top Comments by /u/SentientPickl3:
Haha felt this. I’m tall and don’t have a very feminine build, have a septum piercing, dyed hair, and wear mostly mens clothing AND Im from Canada— no one would believe I’m NOT non binary even if I told them so I just let people call me what they want because I really don’t care 😂
I get what you mean. I wasn’t happy living as what society deems a woman, nor what society deems a man. Even non binary didn’t feel right because there’s expectations for that too. I’ve only recently felt at peace with myself by removing myself from traditional and new wave gender theory all together. I’m not a cis woman, I’m not a trans man, I’m not non binary, I’m just me. people can call me whatever they want but it means nothing. It’s all just words. Just because I was born with a vag means fuck all about who I am as a person lol, and I wish more people felt like they had the freedom to feel and present themselves in a similar way, because it’s very liberating.
There’s so many trans people like that. “Lee” is just an ignorant dickwad who can only see things from his own perspective… also clearly REALLY insecure if he’s tearing you down just to build himself up. Big yikes. So sorry you’ve had to deal with this, please, please don’t take it to heart.
In my experience (was on T 5 months, been off it 5 months) my voice didn’t get higher, it just settled. It got less grumbly and I have more control over it. I can talk/sing higher than I could on T if I want to, but I still don’t have as much range as pre T and I don’t think it’s possible to get it back even with training. So short answer, yes, your voice will change off T but likely only slightly, BUT your voice will level out and it will eventually be easier to talk higher if you want to.
Perhaps you’d be more comfortable outside of a binary transition? There’s no rules saying you have to transition in a certain way. Are you comfortable with the changes T has given you? Is there anything you would change? Do you have any regrets? I suggest trying to think about what things in specific make you happy, and go after that. You don’t have to transition a certain way, but you also don’t have to detransition in a certain way either. If you decide to detransition remind yourself that being a woman has nothing to do with how you look or act, same goes for if you continue to transition to male.