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The user's story is highly detailed, emotionally raw, and internally consistent over time (e.g., consistently mentioning trauma, a pushy sexologist, stopping testosterone, having a child, and breastfeeding). The language is personal, passionate, and includes the kind of anger and specific grievances common among genuine detransitioners. The mix of supportive advice, vulgarity, and slang reads as a real person's voice.
About me
I started my transition as a young woman because I felt disgusted by my female body and the unwanted attention from men. I thought becoming a man was the only escape from that reality, so I started testosterone. I was pressured to get surgeries I didn't want, but I'm grateful I only stopped at hormones. Having my daughter completely changed my perspective, making me realize my discomfort was with how society treats women, not with being female myself. I'm now at peace living as a woman, and I'm focused on being a mother.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started because I felt incredibly uncomfortable as a teenage girl. I hated my body developing. I hated getting inappropriate looks and comments from male family members and classmates. I hated the monthly bleeding. It all felt so gross and unfair, especially since guys didn't have to deal with any of it. I felt grossed out by gross males and I thought the only way to not attract those creeps was to become a man myself. I wanted to chop off my breasts and make myself as disgusting to them as I could be.
I realize now that a lot of this came from a childhood trauma and the stupid jokes from my family. My "transness" wasn't really about gender; it was about the position of women in society and wanting to escape all that. I started testosterone because I thought it was the answer. I wanted to be seen as a man. But I stopped. I just left it at acting disgusting—burping loud, talking like a sailor, smoking, farting. I'm also fat, so I guess I achieved that part.
I was lucky that I didn't go further. My sexologist was pushy about me getting a double mastectomy, but I didn't. I'm so grateful I didn't. I'm also grateful I didn't get a hysterectomy. In my country, you have to remove your ability to reproduce to legally change your sex, and that was a big reason I hesitated. I always knew I wanted a baby and to be able to breastfeed it.
Giving birth to my daughter changed everything for me. My thinking completely shifted. When you grow a child and feed it, you end up just giving less of a fuck about all that other stuff because you're holding your precious baby. I had stopped testosterone to breastfeed and I thought about going back on it afterwards, but I didn't. I realized I had a daughter and what kind of influence I would be for her if her mommy went to being a "daddy." I'd be sending her the message that being a woman is wrong, and it is not.
I don't regret my transition entirely because it led me to where I am now, but I deeply regret that I ever started down that path and that I was pushed towards irreversible surgeries. I benefited from not having affirming therapy that just agreed with me; I needed to find the root of my wishes. For me, that root was trauma and a deep discomfort with how women are treated.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's mostly just labels. Who says you can't wear clothes from the guys' section or do "boy stuff"? You can behave however you please—curse like a sailor, spit, ride a bike, get dirty. You're allowed to like a variety of stuff without having to change your body. I believe that for a lot of women, this desire to transition comes from a place of frustration with society, and for a lot of men, it seems to be a fetish.
I'm just glad I found my way out before I did any permanent damage to my body. I'm a woman, and I'm finally at peace with that.
Age | Event |
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13 | Started feeling intense discomfort with female puberty, hated breast development and menstruation. Felt targeted by inappropriate male attention. |
18 | Began identifying as transgender (FTM) and started testosterone. |
19 | Stopped testosterone. Resisted pressure from doctor to get a double mastectomy. |
24 | Gave birth to my daughter and breastfed her. This experience fundamentally changed my perspective. |
25 | Officially detransitioned. Decided against returning to testosterone, realizing I needed to be a positive role model for my daughter. |
(Present) | Living as a detransitioned woman, at peace with my body and focused on being a mother. |
Top Comments by /u/SezgoDamit:
Nothing is black and white. So is people opinions and perspectives. How would you want to make your own opinion, if you didn't have a different variety of information? Yes, I stopped reading after the main info, that you're young man. The rest belongs to the hand of proffesional. No matter what you'll do, if you put a make up, play with dolls, wear high heels, or whatever is perceived socially as a "woman thing", you're you and allowed to like variety of stuff.
You sound like effeminate young gay dude from beginning, a little bit cartoonish, then your voice changes slightly.. So it's like you're still like young boy going through puberty until his voice matures and settle down. Your vocal cords might hurt af I guess. Why is that. I don't remember correctly but it has to do with the vocal thingys inside your throat as they're built differently in males and females. Only thing that could help is either voice therapy or surgery, but voice therapy could teach you how to work with your throat and vocals, so you might sound less alien. Sorry they (trans cult) did that to you ...
Living in a country with usage of very gendered language myself... It's been hell for me. I then realized my "transness" came from a childhood trauma and stupid jokes from family members and how uncomfortable I was around a male members of family, especially their comments and looks on my growing body as a teenager. Grossed out by gross males, I thought only way to not attract those creeps was to become a man. Wanted to chop off my tits and make myself as much disgusting to them as I can be. I started T but stopped. I just left it at being disgusting 😂 burping loud, talking like a sailor, smoking, farting + I'm fat. I also like Glitter but that's something else 🙃 You're only 13 and there might be different reasons for how you feel. But who says you can't wear clothes labeled "for boys" or in general go shopping in guys section (ngl I do too, the clothes fit me more) or do other "boy stuff" it's just some dang labels. In my experience, it's mostly trauma in women and fetish for guys (their "euphoria" from wearing panties 🥴) I'd say be grateful for your healthy body without fkin it up with hormones and botching surgeries.
Sorry bro, just telling you the truth. Not going to sugarcoat it for you or yasslight you more into delusion. Nor I'm a psychologist or a therapist, that could help you crack what's the real issue with you. That's why I suggested you to find a good one. And not to jump into the train of misery and damage your body to the point of no return.
Like you want to know if you'll be passing as the opposite sex? Sure, I can tell you that. But no matter what. If you're a female, it'll change your voice forever. None of the surgery is reversible. Double mastectomy, hysterectomy. You'll have to push hormones in your body until you die.
You're not responsible for his feelings (i assume we're talking about a boy pushed to be a girl) Also dysphoria in teenage girls is normal. I hated my tits growing, getting inapropriate looks and comments, getting touched by classmates and the monthly bleeding bs. I fucking hated it, that guys didn't have to deal with any of that shit. But guess what. No matter how much you wish you were born a boy, it's just a wish made out from frustration. Female puberty sucks. The inapropriate shit sucks. The sexualization when you still feel and want to be a child sucks... I believe it's also important what kind of family you have. And if they make a commentary how "girls can't behave like this because of blah blah" And you know what, you can behave however you please. Curse like a sailor, spit, ride bike, get dirty, whatever is perceived as not "ladylike" And ignore the trans narcissist in your school. Who are you to coddle to his/her feelings? Be strong and brave.
What helped me through was also realization, that my "dysphoria" came from the position of women in society. That the selfhate for my body And wish to be a man was being treated differently. Unfortunately there's no universal help through. And over all ftm is more accepted than mtf. I'd try to find some "terf" groups. Not a feminist group as they're infiltrated with "mtf". I wouldn't go to gender therapist, but a normal therapist or psychologist. To help you find the root of your wishes and help you stay on track. You're doing it for yourself and your health mainly.
I dont quite understand what kind of interactions you have in mind. But some of my ex colleagues were all female, all of them had some complexes and problems with each other, I just didn't give a f* about their drama and petty stuff, all of them talked sht about each other when the other one wasnt there 😅 And all of them were women above their 50 🤷🏻♂️ I left that job as it was all around toxic.. Overall I have maybe like 3 friends that are girls and we share similar interests and hobbies. I couldnt give a fck about other girl interaction, if someones acting like a btch just tell'em to fck off 😅 They hate my toilet mouth and cursing like a sailor lol
I think the surgery is a good idea. But I can't tell how your voice would be afterwards. Probably never the same :( But feminine maybe and that's probably your goal. I hope you achieve it ♥️ Also when you mention baby (i detransed very soon when they started be pushy about chopping off my tits and I somewhat knew I wanna breastfeed my baby, I stopped T, got pregnant, had a baby girl...So now I'm kinda more agressive when it comes to the trans cult going on children)
There's voice actors who dubb hamster (Hammond from Overwatch) and a robot 😅 (the hamster's robot translator) I mean, that's an option ^^ even if you hate your voice and it hurts you, you can possibly mend and work around it to make a lot of voices and I believe that's appreciated for a voice actor