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Authenticity Assessment: Not Suspicious
Based on the provided comments, this account appears to be authentic.
There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic user. The comments demonstrate:
- A consistent, personal narrative about detransition (e.g., being on T, considering surgery, voice changes).
- Nuanced and empathetic opinions that acknowledge the existence of legitimate trans people while sharing a detransitioner's perspective.
- Emotional depth and variability, from anger at stigma to hopefulness for the future and apologies for being misinformed.
- A writing style that is conversational, uses personal anecdotes, and shows the user is engaged in dialogue.
This is consistent with a real person who is a desister/detransitioner.
About me
I was born female and began identifying as a man at 19, starting testosterone and having top surgery. I thought becoming a man was the solution to my unhappiness, but I later realized it came from low self-esteem. A turning point was imagining my future and realizing I saw myself as an old woman, not an old man. I've detransitioned and don't regret my journey, as it brought me to a place of more confidence and self-acceptance. While my voice is permanently deeper, I've learned to accept it as a unique part of my story.
My detransition story
My journey with gender has been long and complicated, and I'm still figuring a lot of it out. I was born female and for a long part of my life, I believed I was a man. I started taking testosterone and even got top surgery to remove my breasts, which I had always hated. My voice changed from the testosterone, but it didn't completely level out in the way I had hoped it would. For a while, I considered getting vocal feminization surgery to try and get my old voice back, but after watching videos of people who had the procedure, I decided it wasn't for me. It's been hard to accept that my voice won't be the way it was before, and that's something I'm actively working on in therapy.
Looking back, I think a lot of my drive to transition came from a place of low self-esteem and not being comfortable with myself. I was deeply unhappy and thought becoming a man was the solution. I did a lot of research online and was part of communities that strongly affirmed this path, and I thought I had all the right information. I now realize I was wrong about some things and I've had to apologize for spreading misinformation I truly believed at the time.
A big moment for me was when I started thinking about my future self. I imagined myself as an old person and realized I didn't see myself becoming an old man. The idea of being a little old lady felt more right and brought me a sense of peace. That was a turning point in deciding to detransition.
Even though I've detransitioned, I don't regret my transition. It was a necessary part of my journey to get to where I am now, which is a place of more confidence and hope for the future. Things are still difficult sometimes, but overall I'm in a better place. I also want to be very clear: just because I detransitioned doesn't mean I think being transgender isn't real. Trans people absolutely exist and deserve rights and respect. I get angry when people use tragedies or stories like mine to attack the trans community. That's disgusting and wrong.
I've also learned to be more accepting of natural variations in bodies and voices. My voice is deeper now and I've come to see that as something unique and cool. I tell others that there's nothing wrong with having a masculine-sounding voice; it's just part of what makes you, you.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 19 | Started identifying as a transgender man. |
| 20 | Began taking testosterone. |
| 22 | Had top surgery (double mastectomy). |
| 24 | Realized I had been wrong, stopped testosterone, and began my detransition. |
| 25 | Underwent therapy to accept my changed voice and work on self-esteem. |
Top Comments by /u/SignificantBrush5581:
I am definitely not getting vocal feminization surgery because after watching some videos of people after they get it I decided it wasn’t for me. Thank you for saying that. My voice didn’t completely level out on T so it might lighten but it’s hard rn to accept that it won’t be the way it was before (I’m working on that in therapy). Things are difficult rn but overall I’m more confident and hopeful for the future.
Just because we’re detrans doesn’t mean that trans people don’t exist and shouldn’t have rights. This is disgusting. It is horrible to take a tragedy like this and turn it into a battle against trans people. Men have killed people, does that make all men insane murderers? Women have killed people, does that make all of them inane murderers? Gay and straight people have killed people, does that make all of them insane murderers? The list goes on. These are children who were murdered and taken from their families. This isn’t a political campaign. This post is absolutely disgusting.
I will say, one thing that really helped me with deciding who I want to be in regards to my gender was imagining myself when I’m old. I know it sounds odd but figuring out that I didn’t see myself becoming an old man and knowing I’d be happier as a little old lady helped.
Alright. I can admit when I was wrong. I did a lot of research that told me that what I said was the case so I thought I was correct. Given you’re a verified professional I 100% believe you. I deleted the comment because I never want to spread misinformation. Thank you for educating me further on this topic. I apologize.
That’s okay! I know several cis woman who have never been exposed to HRT who “sound like a man” woman’s voices are all different and there’s nothing wrong with having a “masculine voice” (I have one too). It’s different and I honestly think it’s cool! You’re voice is beautiful and unique!
Yeah I can completely understand that, trans people like that make it very hard for actual trans people. I’d suggest trying to be a girl for a few months and if it causes suffering to go through with transitioning. Or, if you’re not going to start HRT I see no harm in just transitioning now and if it ends up being the wrong decision, then you can go back with no problems. Either way you need to prioritize your own happiness. We only have one life so we need to enjoy it.