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About me
I'm a woman who thought becoming a man would let me escape my past trauma and make my attraction to women easier to accept. I was actively pursuing medical transition until I realized it was just a form of escapism from my problems as a woman. I came to understand that you can't change your sex and that I was only ever going to be pretending. I regret all the time I wasted on that pursuit instead of working on my real mental health. Now I've accepted myself as a masculine woman and I'm just relieved I never medically harmed my body.
My detransition story
My whole journey started from a place of deep pain and confusion. I am a woman, born female, but I went through a period where I desperately wanted to be a man. I thought if I could just "become male," I could escape all the trauma and bad experiences I had faced as a woman. It felt like life would be easier and it would somehow make my same-sex attraction more acceptable. I'm bisexual, but I'm more attracted to women, and I think I had a lot of internalised homophobia that made that difficult to accept.
I never medically transitioned, but I was actively trying to. I was having regular consultations with a gender therapist. When I told that therapist about my trauma and my other mental health struggles, like my anxiety and depression, they actually suggested I do more therapy for those things first. But my mind was set on transition as the solution. I now see that I was trying to use transition as a form of escapism. I hated the way I was treated as a woman and I hated the changes my body went through during puberty, especially developing breasts. I thought becoming a man was the only way out.
But deep down, I always knew it was a fantasy. I knew I was only ever going to be pretending to be a male; it’s simply not who I am. You can't change your sex. I could take all the testosterone in the world or get any surgery, but I would still be a female. That fundamental truth is what finally broke through for me. Trying to become a man to escape my problems was useless and only made things more complicated.
I also had a serious problem with porn that fed into these feelings. I’ve come to believe it’s a harmful industry that warps your perception of yourself and your body. Stopping was a crucial step for me in clearing my head.
My views on gender are very straightforward now. I don't believe gender is something you can change or that it exists separately from sex. Sex is biological; you are either male or female. "Gender" is just a set of stereotypes and social roles, and I think it’s stupid that we force people into these boxes. You should be able to dress and act however you want without it meaning you’re a different gender. I’m a woman who isn’t very feminine, and that’s perfectly fine.
I absolutely have regrets. I regret ever believing that I could or should change my body to fix my mind. I regret the time and energy I wasted on that pursuit instead of working on my real issues. I am so relieved I never went on hormones or had any surgeries. I see so many people who have, and they are still struggling, often with serious health complications on top of everything else. They thought life would be easier after transition, but it rarely is.
I truly believe that if more doctors did their jobs and offered proper, non-affirming therapy to address the root causes—like trauma, OCD, anxiety, and low self-esteem—far fewer people would ever go down the medical path. The current system feels like a harmful medical practice that preys on people with mental illness. I urge anyone feeling this way to really look inwards, to live life as their natal sex, dress however they want, and seek real psychological help instead.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| 14-16 (High School) | Experienced significant puberty discomfort, hated breast development. Began experimenting with masculine clothing and binding, but also occasionally wore feminine clothing, feeling confused and delusional about my identity. |
| Early 20s | Started identifying as a transgender man. Began regular consultations with a gender therapist. Disclosed past trauma and mental health struggles; therapist suggested addressing those first. |
| Early 20s | Realized transition was an attempt to escape trauma and life experiences as a woman. Understood that changing sex is impossible. Stopped identifying as trans and began to desist. |
| Now (Mid 20s) | Accepted myself as a masculine woman. Regret the time spent pursuing transition but am grateful I avoided medical interventions. |
Top Comments by /u/Significant_Art9823:
Biological determinism is just genital astrology for the modern world.
You're trolling.
On what basis is your cis gender construct more ultimately real than any other identity?
Animals are male or female based on biology. Not based on gender roles, stereotypes, etc. Humans are animals.
"Cisgender" is a made up term, to continue to push the idea that there is a true "transgender".
They are scared because those who believe people can change sex and choose their gender, have worked for more than ten years to get mainstream society to accept the idea.
They've gotten it now in law. But people like us and others simply against it, show that "transistion" is a nothing burger. OK, so you medically transistion; you still have depression alongside sex-dysphoria. You still haven't changed sex.
They should really be mad at John Money and those who started this all. People should be upset that the creator of the "trans" flag is a straight-up pervert. But no one on that "side" is mad at them... why?
In my opinion, all trans identified people go back and forth on this. Even "tru-trans"; they change their wording depending on who they are talking to. Even I did, and it didn't make sense.
If sex truly is interchangeable, or doesn't mean anything, not based on biology - whatever the argument is -"transistion" would be pointless, because we would already be the sex we are trying to "transistion" to.
Why would a woman need to "transistion" to be a male, if sex doesn't mean anything?
See how stupid it is?
Your comments seems passive-aggressive, that's likely why you are downvoted.
This subreddit, frankly, isn't cult-like in any way, as different opinions can exist here. They can't on other subreddits, which is why those get labeled as "cult-like".
How do surgeries help, though, if therapy like CBT is also successful in managing this mental illness?
How does medication help, when there are so many side-effects compared to conventional therapy?
Adults and children are not given information about this "treatment".
I don't think exposing others to something that might harm them (male in female washroom, for example) is a human right.
I frankly just disagree. Gender is a social construct, that's why "transgenderism" makes no sense. Why is a masculinized woman through HRT considered man? At what point did I become a man; when I cut my hair short and said I was?
Here's the thing for me, and I'm gonna put it very plainly. There's no "trans" people. You can't change sex. Sure, some people are happy after doing body modifications and taking synthentic estrogen or testosterone.
But they would also be if they sought therapy instead. Doctors just don't push for it. I believe the number of people who do undergo sugery, etc. would be lower if doctors did their jobs. No one needs to do these things.
Interesting, I think this community is relatively accepting of "trans" people. I often find myself disagreeing silently with some, as I don't believe anyone TRULY finds themselves through modifications. (And to be frank, I think that of ALL body modifications - it's not just a "trans" issue for me, personally. How can you accept your "true self" or natural self, if you change yourself?) I also don't agree that you can change sex or gender. And I do think that maybe some people do not consider their hand in their "transition," but thats largely due to the fact that it's a harmful medical practice against those with a mental illness. So at the end of the day, doctors are the ones writing the scripts and surgeons do the surgeries, not those seeking help.
I'm going to be blunt.
Stop watching porn. I don't agree that it's the same as other addictions, there are levels to it. It's seriously easy to stop watching porn.
Espescially by listening to men and women who stopped doing online prostitution, as it's filmed assault and not consensually done. (Little rant but MAYBE it will help.) Money voids consent. How many people have to show up "to a set" only to HAVE to do something they don't want to do, to make ends meet? Hint, every single one of them. They can't tell the truth, it's a business. They won't sell porn by being honest, and saying, "Yeah, I'm sore all the time." Some parts of society has brainwashed us to think that porn can be ok, when I argue it can't ever be.
And see a psychiatrist if you can, they do help. Preferably one that doesn't go along with "transistioning" their clients. I wish you the best.
I don't know, I have never noticed your comments or any call to ban you in particular.
Ok, and I know "trans" people who are still miserable after doing all they can do. They haven't needed therapy first before doing anything. That's a problem.
It's great that you were informed, but that doesn't mean everyone was. Seems to be that most people aren't. Including those I know who claim to be happy.
There's no justification in trying to change someone's sex or gender, as it's simply not possible. What do you believe a male or female is?
When I was "trans", I occasionally dressed like this in high school (ten years ago). Mostly wearing lowcut shirts, not-binding and wearing a bra, and putting on makeup. Although, I also had makeup on sometimes when wearing my compression sports bras (I didn't buy a binder) and baggy shirts, and "men's" clothing.
I did it because I was a delusional woman, and thought I was a "feminine", bisexual, "transman". Its so cringe looking back.
I think some other women do it because of the association between men wearing "feminine" things vs. women.
Men are judged for how they dress, don't get me wrong - but a lot of women praise men for being "feminine" - see Drag Race.
Anyway, I don't believe in "transgender"ism anymore; only sex-dysphoria, and I believe that the myth of "transgender" and these "treatments" involving medical bandids keep being pushed, so more millionaires make money, somewhere. And so that us mentally ill people are being punished for our conditions.
I thought if I "became male" I wouldn't face the same treatment, truamas, experiences I was dealing with, it would be easier and ok for me to be same-sex attracted, SO many things it felt like. (I'm bisexual but more attracted to the same-sex)
Although I didn't "transition" medically I was seeking to "transition"; having regular consultations with a "gender'' therapist, who suggested therapy sessions after I disclosed truama and mental health struggles I faced.
Trying to become a man to escape truama, etc. was useless. It's not possible to change sex, and deep down even then I knew that. I knew I was only ever going to be pretending to be a natal male; it's not who I am. And I urge others who feel "transition" is worth it; INSTEAD really look inwards, live life as your NATAL sex, dress however you want and seek advice from a therapist instead.
"Transition" makes things worse. I don't know a single "trans" person that isn't struggling after, when they thought they wouldn't, life would be hard sometimes yeah, but much easier after!! No. I see a lot of it is medical complications from the surgeries and even the HRT.