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About me
I'm a masculine woman who started identifying as transgender at 18 because puberty was a difficult and uncomfortable shock for me. I took testosterone for nearly two years, but my dysphoria faded away on its own around my 20th birthday. I realized my discomfort was temporary and stopped my medical transition two months ago. I've learned that you can be a masculine woman and that there's no one right way to be female. I'm now comfortable in my own skin, living as myself again.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was a teenager. I was always a masculine girl, and I think that, combined with being autistic, made puberty really difficult for me. I struggled to keep up with the changes happening to my body. I hated developing breasts and getting my period; it felt foreign and uncomfortable. In my mind, being male seemed simpler, closer to the body I was used to before all these changes happened. I started to believe that my discomfort meant I was supposed to be a boy.
I started identifying as transgender when I was 18. I began taking testosterone a few months after that. I was on T for just under two years. While I was on it, my voice dropped and I was able to pass as male about 80% of the time, though I felt like I relied more on my voice and how I acted than my actual looks. I also started binding my chest during this time.
But around my 20th birthday, something shifted. My dysphoria, which had been my main reason for transitioning, started to gradually decrease. It got to a point where I barely felt any discomfort in my body at all. At first, I thought it was because I was confident in my transition, but then I realized I was feeling too comfortable for someone who was supposed to have gender dysphoria. That was the biggest sign for me. I realized there was no point in continuing a medical transition if the reason for it was gone. I also think my autism played a role; maybe it just took my brain longer to adjust to my adult female body.
I stopped testosterone about two months ago. I tapered off over two weeks, going from two pumps of gel a day, to one pump, then to half a pump. For about a month after stopping, I had heightened anxiety and felt more easily worried. Physically, my period came back after about a month, though it's been irregular and is only now starting to even out. I’ve noticed I can't lift as much weight at the gym, and my appetite is a little over half of what it used to be. So far, my body hair and muscle size look about the same.
Socially, hardly anything has changed since I stopped. I’ve stopped wearing my binder and switched to bras, but I still wear the same clothes I always have: tank tops, t-shirts, and pants. I’ve always been masculine in my attitude and fashion, and that hasn’t changed. I don't really put any thought into how masculine or feminine I act; I just don't care about it. I know I'll have to tell people I'm detransitioning sooner or later, but my day-to-day life looks the same.
Looking back, my thoughts on gender have really solidified. I think it's ridiculous when people say you don't need dysphoria to be trans. Dysphoria is the entire reason someone would medically transition; why else would you go through such major changes? I see a lot of people, especially online, treating medical transition like a fun, trendy thing, and it's gross. They reduce it to something lighthearted when it's the complete opposite. I also hate how people use stereotypes to describe what it feels like to be a man or a woman—like not liking dresses means you're not a woman. There's no one right way to be a woman. You can be a masculine woman; it doesn't invalidate your biology.
Do I have regrets? I don't know if regret is the right word. I made the best decision I could with the information and feelings I had at the time. But I do think my transition was a mistake. It was a solution to a problem that, for me, turned out to be temporary. I benefited from realizing that my discomfort was related to the shock of puberty and my autistic way of processing change, not a permanent need to be male. I'm just a masculine woman, and there's nothing wrong with that.
Here is a timeline of my journey:
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teenage years | Experienced significant discomfort with female puberty (breast development, periods). |
| 18 | Started identifying as transgender and began taking testosterone. |
| 19-20 | Lived as male, using a binder and passing most of the time. |
| 20 | Gender dysphoria gradually disappeared. Decided to stop testosterone. |
| 20 (2 months ago) | Tapered off and stopped testosterone. Began socially detransitioning. |
| Present (still 20) | Living as a female again. Physical changes are reversing (period returned, strength decreased). |
Top Comments by /u/SinIncarnate04:
It’s so gross seeing people treat medical transitioning like some cute little thing they can do for fun. They reduce it down to something trendy and lighthearted when it’s the complete opposite. And similarly, I’ve noticed that a lot of people who do this act all friendly and bubbly towards you on the surface until you challenge their behaviour, then they treat you in a way that’s as vile as some of the potential side effects of these medical practices.
Whenever I see people describing what it “feels” like to be one gender or the other they often resort to using crude sex stereotypes. For example “I don’t feel like a girl because I don’t like wearing dresses, I like working out at the gym” etc. There isn’t one universal way to be a man or a woman, you can do whatever the hell you want. Yes, people with gender dysphoria experience intense discomfort with their bodies, particularly the more feminine/masculine parts such as the chest, but that doesn’t make them know what it feels like to be the opposite sex.
If you’re not 100% sure you want to transition that’s already a sign that you shouldn’t jump right into it and you should give it a lot more thought. I think talking to a psychologist can help, though I get that it can be difficult to find one that you’re sure hasn’t bought into the whole gender ideology bs. Still, it’s worth looking into. Also, it’s completely fine to be a masculine girl. That doesn’t change the fact that you’re female, and it doesn’t invalidate your biology. I get that it may not always feel that way in society, but just know that there’s nothing wrong with you if you’re a masculine girl.
This is pretty much what happened with me too. Around the time of my 20th birthday my dysphoria gradually decreased until it was practically nonexistent. I’m also autistic so maybe my brain developed differently which in turn affected the way I felt about my body during puberty? One of my therapist mentioned an interesting theory about autistic girls and identifying as the opposite gender. Basically how it goes is that autistic people may struggle to mentally keep up with the changes that happen to their bodies during puberty, and with girls they may want to be male because in their minds it’s closer to what they were used to before puberty(flat chest, no periods, narrower hips, don’t have to worry about pregnancy). So I guess with that it may take longer for autistic girls to get used to growing up. As far as I know this theory hasn’t been proven but I thought it was interesting.
I find it ridiculous that some people actually say you don’t need dysphoria to be trans. Dysphoria is the entire mechanism that makes someone a transsexual, why else would you transition? I’ve noticed that a lot of detransitioners haven’t even gotten a gender dysphoria diagnosis which is saying something. It’s crucial to medicalise being trans because as we’ve seen, it leads to devastating consequences otherwise.
Tell them what you truly believe, don’t surrender your beliefs just to please other people. If they can’t handle a little bit of difference in opinion and respond in a hostile manner they’re not good friends. It can be tough but you gotta learn to stand up for what you believe to be right. You can disagree on things and still be friends, but unfortunately some people don’t see it that way.
Some of the first signs for me was that my dysphoria was slowly getting less and less intense, and it got to a point where I barely felt any discomfort in my body at all. At first I thought it was just because I was confident in my transition and that I knew what I was, but it got to a point where I was feeling TOO comfortable for someone who supposedly still has gender dysphoria. So with that, I decided I didn’t need to keep going with the transition, because there’s no point in doing it without dysphoria.
I think I’ll make gradual changes as well, such as stop wearing my binder completely. Though it might be hard for a lot of people to notice since I’m naturally very masculine in my attitude, fashion, and just overall way of being, so there probably won’t be much that’ll change. I know I’ll have to tell people sooner or later though, so hopefully the topic will sorta come up in conversation.
Hardly anything changed for me in terms of appearance after detransitioning, apart from switching to wearing bras instead of binders. I still wear a lot of tank tops, t shirts and pants, I don’t really care about how masculine or feminine I look I just wear what I like.
I was on t for just under 2 years and once I was on it for a while people assumed I was male about 80% of the time. I feel like I mostly relied on my voice and behaviour to pass rather than my looks though. I’m about 2 months off now and I got my period back in about a month (it was all over the place at first but it’s starting to even out gradually and go back to what it was before t), I’ve noticed I struggle to lift as much as I used to at the gym, though my muscles look to be about the same size for now, my appetite is a little over half of what it used to be, my body hair looks about the same as well as body fat distribution. I guess I’m still fairly early in my detransition so I wouldn’t be surprised if anything else changes later.