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There are no serious red flags suggesting it is a bot or an inauthentic actor. The comments demonstrate:
- Personal, specific anecdotes (e.g., using T to skip periods, working blue collar, dealing with obesity).
- Consistent, nuanced viewpoints on complex topics like hormones, sports, and detransition.
- Empathetic and supportive engagement with other users, offering practical advice and sharing lived experience.
- A natural writing style with varied sentence structure and emotional inflection (frustration, support, sarcasm).
The passion and strong opinions expressed are consistent with a genuine detransitioner or desister.
About me
My journey started when puberty hit, and being female felt like a trap because of my awful periods and the scary attention from men. I seriously considered transitioning just to escape that reality, and I even use a little testosterone now to stop my periods so I can work without pain. A huge part of my healing was learning to stop caring what other people thought and to focus on what I actually wanted for myself. I realized my discomfort wasn't about being a man, but was linked to trauma and a deep unhappiness with the female experience. Now, I'm learning to accept my body as it is, understanding that transitioning wasn't the right answer for me.
My detransition story
My whole journey with gender is messy, and looking back, a lot of it was about trying to escape being a woman. I was born female, and when I hit puberty, it felt like a trap. Getting my period was awful. It was this monthly reminder of a body that felt like a burden. The cramps were debilitating, and on top of that, I started getting unwanted attention from older men, which was confusing and scary. It felt like my body was causing all these problems.
I never fully transitioned, but I seriously considered it. If I had known about transitioning when I was younger, I probably would have done it just to avoid all that. Even now, as an adult, I sometimes use small amounts of testosterone just to stop my periods so I can function at work without being in severe pain. I hated what puberty did to me.
A big part of my struggle was caring way too much about what other people thought. I let other people's opinions cloud my own feelings. I had to learn to ask myself, "What do I actually want?" instead of being controlled by the potential negative thoughts of strangers. That was a huge turning point for me.
I also struggled with my weight and had a really hard time with an eating disorder. Seeing someone else talk about their recovery from anorexia was powerful because I used that same kind of inner strength to fix my own issues with obesity. It made me realize that the strength to heal was inside me all along; I was just looking for solutions in the wrong places.
I've worked in blue-collar jobs, and sometimes guys would be real assholes, making rude comments and suggesting I was a man because I could do heavy physical labor. They weren't joking; they were just trying to be disrespectful. I learned you have to fire back and not let them get to you.
My thoughts on gender now are that it's complicated, but for me, transitioning wasn't the answer. It was an escape route I considered because I was deeply uncomfortable with the female experience, especially the physical parts like periods and the social attention. I don't regret exploring it because it led me to understand myself better, but I'm glad I didn't go through with medical transition. I realized my problems were more about trauma, discomfort with puberty, and low self-esteem than actually being a man. I've benefited from learning to accept my body for what it is, even if it's difficult sometimes.
Here is a timeline of my experiences:
| My Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Around 12-13 | Started puberty. Found periods awful and debilitating. Felt terrified by male attention from older men. |
| Teenage Years | Felt intense discomfort with female puberty. Believed if I had known about transition, I would have pursued it to escape. |
| Early 20s | Worked blue-collar jobs. Dealt with men making disrespectful comments about my gender when I did physical labor. |
| Mid-Late 20s | Began using small, occasional doses of testosterone to stop my period and manage pain, allowing me to work. |
| Adult (now) | Came to understand my gender exploration was linked to trauma and puberty discomfort, not a true male identity. Learned to stop caring so much about others' opinions and focus on what I want. |
Top Comments by /u/SlapTheBap:
They're saying that periods are awful. When you have your first one you must then accept that it will happen every month until menopause. You are a child. This is your life now, deal with it. It is often a two-week process due to the hormonal swings. It is incredibly painful for many, as the cramps can be debilitating. This is compounded by male attention starting at a very young age, which can be confusing and even terrifying coming from older men. It's an incredibly difficult time.
I sometimes use testosterone just to skip my period to this day, though in small amounts. I can't function well at work if I'm in severe pain. If I was aware of transition at a younger age I would have likely done it. Instead, I play with my hormones as an adult.
Yeah, but girls are more likely to decide to avoid puberty. It's part of why they're transitioning and detransitioning at higher rates.
Why do you care so much about what people think? It'll drive you mad. Who are these people? Why are you letting them cloud your thoughts so much? What do you actually want? To be controlled by the potential negative thoughts of strangers? That doesn't sound nice.
When I worked blue collar it wasn't too uncommon for rude, busted, awful old guys to say I was mtf. Especially after doing something that required heavy physical labor. They weren't "joking", they were being assholes. Specifically trying to be rude and getting to say you're soft for not taking it as a joke. These people are assholes. They are being disrespectful.
Kids are disrespectful. They're assholes all the time. Some people don't grow out of it. It's okay to fire back with things like "cmon bro, why you so obsessed with trans? You into that?? Huh." Especially if they bring it up often. Why do obsessed, huh? ;) Fuck with them back.
Totally normal for your age. Many don't get a full beard until their 30s. Some never do. It's all normal. Many men go through what some call a "second puberty" in their mid 20s to early 30s. We constantly change as we age. You're off Estrogen so you'll continue to masculinize as you age. No worries.
Talk with your doctor and your endo. They'll both want to help you be at your best health. This is a scary time, with many uncertainties for sure, but it is okay! If this is the decision you think is best for you, which after years of thinking about it, it sounds like it is what you want, then their job is to help you. Please discuss it with both. There's nothing to lose. If they give some kind of moral judgement to you, they're not being professional. You've got this.
Holy shit you worked so hard. I'm sorry you went through the trials and tribulations of discovering yourself in such a hard way, but wow you're incredible for recognizing your situation and dedicating yourself to what you want. Transition wasn't right for you, and that's okay. You've found incredible inner strength that I see as beautiful as the woman you see in that photo.
Anorexia is so difficult to deal with. I'm floored at seeing how you wrote about your recovery. That kind of inner strength is what I used to fix my obesity. You're at a point where you know a setback is just a speed bump. Thank you for sharing your experience. It is valuable.
Have you considered moving to an area that has more happy older gay people? Andersonville in Chicago is like that. Lots of community things to be involved in. College towns are also an option. There were many gay events in the college town I lived in.
If they banned everyone who ever used performance-enhancing drugs there would be no one to compete. People who fall outside of typical hormone ranges or physiology (limb length etc) would be banned, which would be strange as they tend to be the "freaks" in men's sports everyone loves. It's a weird sticking point of "fairness" that people get caught on. PEDs are far more common than people think.
There is especially this perception of fairness in women's sports. Men's sports? It's just expected. At all levels you'll have guys using extra testosterone and stacking other PEDs. Open secret. It's a weird double standard that's become a rallying point for people who are unfamiliar with the topic.
You've been off test for two years. At this point I think the trainer is just an ass. I wonder how many of his students have used anavar. Instagram fitness models? Anavar. Professional athletes? Anavar. Actresses? Anavar. Gym bunnies with a coach? Anavar. Open secret.