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About me
I was a deeply unhappy young woman who saw transitioning as a solution after people often mistook me for a boy because of my voice. I was prescribed testosterone after just two counseling sessions, and it took my husband's support to help me realize this was a mental health issue, not an identity one, and I stopped before having surgery. I now believe many people are following a social trend instead of addressing their real problems. I live as a woman, but I have to shave my face every day, a permanent reminder of a decision I regret. I think no one should get hormones until they are much older and have done serious soul-searching away from online pressures.
My detransition story
My whole journey with transition and detransition was a long and difficult one, and it started from a place of deep unhappiness. I was a young woman who was never really comfortable in my own skin. I had a naturally husky, monotone voice, even as a teenager, and people on the phone or online would often mistake me for a boy. I think I was deeply unhappy with a lot of things in my life—myself, society, my own mind—and I saw transitioning as a way to fix that feeling.
I found it scarily easy to get hormones. I went through the counseling system and in just two sessions, I told them what they wanted to hear and walked out with a prescription. They were handed out like candy. I took testosterone for a while. I’m grateful every single day that my now-husband helped me. He helped me do some real soul-searching and narrow down what was actually going on in my head before I went too far. I stopped the hormones before I got top surgery, which I know was a huge bullet dodged.
Looking back, I see that a huge part of this was a trend. I honestly feel that a good majority of trans people are simply following a vibe that has spread across social media. It’s easy to feel uncomfortable, see what someone else is doing, and think maybe that’s your solution too. It’s a mental health crisis, not an identity one for so many. The communities online can be a giant circle jerk of self-loathing; they drag you in and down instead of lifting you up. It’s best to carve your own path away from that pity party.
My thoughts on gender now are pretty simple. I’m just me. I’m a woman. Labels can help identify things in specific situations, like at the doctor's office, but we don't need to lead with them in every single interaction. The constant need for everyone to announce their gender and orientation all the time feels like too much. We’ve lost all filters.
I do have regrets. I have to stare at myself in the mirror every other morning and shave my face. I, a woman, grow a fine but noticeable beard and a five o'clock shadow because of the testosterone. It’s a permanent reminder of my foolishness. I don’t want to hear the “but some women have facial hair” thing—I didn’t have any of that before. Now I do. It’s my burden to bear.
I also regret how easy it was. I think it’s merciless that young kids, who barely know what they want for lunch, are being allowed to make these permanent decisions. No one should be given HRT until they’re in their mid-20s and have done some serious, raw soul-searching with a good psychiatrist who isn’t just there to rubber-stamp a prescription.
I benefited from stepping away from the entire narrative. I am no longer FtM. I successfully detransitioned. And now, I am no longer even "detrans." I am just a woman. It’s healthier to heal and move on, to not make this one aspect of your past your entire identity, the same way some people make being trans their entire life.
I don’t believe you can truly change sex. HRT is a bandaid. Your body will always try to revert to its natural state when you stop, but some changes, like my facial hair, are permanent. I hope the world develops better treatments for dysphoria and dysmorphia that don’t involve these drastic, irreversible steps.
| Age | Event |
|---|---|
| Teenager | Had a naturally husky, monotone voice that often led to me being mistaken for a boy. |
| Early 20s | Saw a counselor, got a prescription for testosterone (T) after only 2 sessions. |
| Early 20s | Took testosterone for a period of time. |
| Early 20s | Met my future husband, who helped me soul-search and realize I needed to stop. |
| Early 20s | Discontinued testosterone before getting top surgery. |
| Now | Live as a woman, but have to shave facial hair regularly due to permanent effects of T. |
Top Comments by /u/SmilingSkitty:
Honestly... I miss growing up 20-30 years ago. No pronouns, none of this lgbtq+ culture... I kind of miss just having boys and girls on the surface. I haaaate the pronoun question. I just tell people to use what seems to be most appropriate. Most don't like that answer though tbh
.. And so many try to convince us that confirm aren't getting HRT or any form of SRS. You were 15. I barely knew what I wanted to keep my hair color as at 15. ... But to chop off parts of you being you really knew who you wanted to be... Merciless.
I'm sorry they let you do this
This. This is why I fight against the trans narrative that is compelling vulnerable youth. This ROGD and the influence of toxic positive media is a cancer that is heading so many down a path of ultimate regret.
I, a woman, look great after detransitioning... But now I shave my face daily like a man would to avoid ostracizing myself from female society. Yes, PCOS exists, and the like .. but women don't typically have facial hair like a man.
To simply suggest laser treatment is laughable. Not everyone has that sort of resource or money
I was fortunate to be stopped before a double mastectomy, and honestly, now that the fog has lifted seeing that I'm a decade off from the end of my puberty... I got off lucky.
No CHILD or Teenager alike should be given HRT until they're like 20-25 and they've really, REALLY looked at themselves raw and plain with a good psychiatrist that can help them really look at themselves rather than offer hormones.
There are not suddenly droves of trans people nowadays. It's a push from a positively toxic trend... And I will always right to save people from themselves if I can. Trans people do exist ... But these numbers are unrealistic. It's a mental health crisis to be sure.
The suicide statistic doesn't disappear after transition for many. Yet the LGBT community hell bent on pushing people needs to be stopped.
I'm honestly just me. Labels help identify- but we don't always need them. If you need only identify me a woman; sure. Is it relevant in a situation about driving? No. Is it relevant when discussing obygyn health? Yes. Is it relevant on identifying a criminal on the news? Yes. Etc. There are times to, and times to not.
When someone needs to implicitly make sure you know their orientation, gender, mental health status and more when you barely know them? THAT is when it's too much.
We may speak freely nowadays, bit filters are still necessary. Not everyone needs to see your 'life laundry'
One of the stranger transitions within the movement that I've noticed is the pull away from the ultimate goal of 'stealthing' or 'living authentically ' as much as possible. Maybe it's the uptick in numbers and with it the people that, to be honest, "don't pass"... But it's strange.
I went from telling no one as soon as no one knew, to seeing everyone wearing it asa badge of honor.
Very peculiar.
I honestly think the idea of being 'trans' forever is foolish. To transition is to go from one to another. Ok, so FtM or MtF respectively. And then once done you're the opposite of what you were. But... There's no real way to actually go from FtM or MtF if we're being blunt and realistic. Thus you are actually stuck in transition. Seems like a foolish trap not set in reality
So in reality, deciding yourself to be the opposite gender despite what others see, despite what nature decided ... It seems like a declaration of mental uncertainty or a cry for help to anyone watching.
I'm grateful we can realize and step back. That's why we're here. But note this: you need to eventually stop identifying as detrans when possible. You hold yourself back by holding onto it. It's a tiny label in the sea of you. I am no longer FtM. I successfully detransition. I am no longer detrans F. I am F.
It's healthier to heal and move on tbh. It's the same way some trans making trans their entire life... You want to move past the label.
My 2¢.
I have to stare myself in the mirror every other morning while I shave. I, a woman, grows a fine, but noticeable beard and 5 o'clock shadow every 3 days. This is my burden for my foolishness with HRT
I don't want to hear the 'but PCOS/she women have facial hair!' narrative some of you may offer me. I didn't have any of that.
But now I do.
Having known the scene while at a distance... It's a giant circle jerk of self loathing and 'poor me'. Honestly.
If you 'stealthed' you were better off never associating with them. They would drag you in and down.
It's best to carve your own path and do soul searching away from the pity party
It sounds like you need to talk to a counselor or therapist. You might have jumped the gun too young. I mean that in ernest with respect. It's easy to go with what you think you blend in with at the time. But people do change, and it's not too late if you're reconsidering to get off of T before it changes you in ways you'll regret. I'd recommend a counselor though. This is semi above our pay grade
Google is your friend, first and foremost.
But from one internet user to another, there are various studies, theories, and speculation on cognitive development issues on blockers, and concerns over how the body will adjust to each hormone because of them. Bone density issues, metabolism, mental health. .