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- Personal, detailed narratives with specific life events (writing a thesis, recovering from an ED, experiences on Tumblr).
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About me
My journey started at 14 when I was a tomboy struggling with trauma and low self-esteem, and I thought becoming a boy would make me strong and respected. I socially transitioned after getting a pixie cut, convinced my feelings of ugliness meant I was male. Everything changed when I researched gender for my university thesis and couldn't find the scientific proof I needed, which made me question everything. I realized my dysphoria was actually tied to trauma, an eating disorder, and severe PMS, and it faded away as I got healthier. Now I see I was just trying to escape the pressures of being a woman, and I’m at peace with being a strong female with a deep voice.
My detransition story
My whole journey with this started when I was 14. I was a tomboy, felt really nerdy and ugly, and I got sexually harassed a lot by older men. I think that trauma really messed with my head. I started to feel like if I were a boy, I would be strong, brave, cool, and finally get the respect I felt I deserved. I was also a teenager on Tumblr, and I can frankly say that platform brainwashed me into a certain way of thinking about gender.
I started cross-dressing and saying I felt "dysphoric." But looking back, a lot of it was body dysmorphia and low self-esteem. I already had body image issues and felt my voice and face were too masculine for a girl. When I had to get a pixie cut because my hair was damaged from dye, that was the final straw. I thought the answer to feeling ugly and masculine was to just be a boy.
I became super vocal about trans issues online. I would police everyone's language about gender and sex. It all made so much sense to me at the time. But later, I wrote my bachelor's degree thesis on violence against women. Doing that research into the basis of gender made me start to question everything. I was looking for a solid, scientific explanation for being transgender and I couldn't find one, no matter how hard I searched. I started feeling like an imposter and got really embarrassed about all the things I had said online without any real evidence.
I realized my reasons for transitioning were complicated and not really about gender. I had a lot of Catholic guilt around sex. My PMS was so severe it caused psychotic episodes that made me extremely aware of and uncomfortable with my female organs. I also hated my breasts. But a huge part of it was my eating disorder and depression. As I recovered from my eating disorder, I felt less and less dysphoric. There was a point where someone called me a woman and I felt nothing. I just had this simple, caveman thought: "me…woman…? Yes." And I realized it was fine.
I see everything under a different light now. I wish I could go back and tell my younger self that forcing myself to become a tiny, delicate girl was impossible, and that I should just rock what I had. That my deep voice is awesome and makes me stand out. That working out to be strong is hot and beautiful. That I deserved a strong partner who matched my energy. And, maybe most importantly, that I shouldn't confuse my attraction to girly girls with a desire to be them.
I don't regret my social transition because it was a necessary part of my journey to figuring myself out. But I am glad I never took medical steps. For me, it wasn't about being born in the wrong body; it was about trauma, body dysmorphia, and a desperate need to escape from the pressures and discomforts of being a woman in this world.
| Age | Year | Event |
|---|---|---|
| 14 | - | Started cross-dressing and feeling "dysphoric" due to trauma, low self-esteem, and social influences. |
| - | - | Socially transitioned, became very vocal online about trans issues. |
| - | - | Researched gender for university thesis, began to seriously question my beliefs. |
| - | - | Recovered from my eating disorder; gender dysphoria magically disappeared. |
| - | - | Realized my transition was driven by trauma, body dysmorphia, and severe PMS. |
Top Comments by /u/SniperWolf616:
Yes hardcore, I used to be super vocal about trans issues and would police everyone’s language regarding gender and sex. It made so much sense to me.
Then I wrote my bachelors degree thesis about violence against women, which included research about the basis of gender, and theories regarding why does violence against specifically women exist. It was very interesting but I felt kind of upset because I found no scientific explanation for being transgender, no matter how much I searched. I started feeling some sort of imposters syndrome, doubting myself, feeling embarrassed in retrospect and thinking on how I spouted so much shit and had no actual evidence for it.
Turns out I was transitioning because I had body dysmorphia, catholic guilt regarding sex, and my PMS caused psychotic episodes that made me extremely aware of and uncomfortable with my female organs.
I see everything under a different light now.
DUDE I KNOW and that mindset actually fucked me up so much as a teenager regarding my gender.
I already had body image issues and felt my voice and face were very masculine, so at some point, when I had to get a pixie cut because my hair was so damaged from dyeing it many colors, that was the nail in the coffin, I thought the answer to feeling ugly and masculine was to BE A BOY!!!
It didn’t help one bit that I was a tumblr teen. If anything I can frankly say tumblr brainwashed me.
It's probably already been researched, but yeah I used to get horrible dysphoria just before my period. Mine magically went away when I got on SSRIs, as it was linked to depression and an eating disorder.
Maybe yours has got to do with a hormone imbalance? It might be good to go to a doctor and get yourself checked.
As I recovered from my eating disorder, I felt less and less dysphoric. I used to get so upset when someone called me a woman or female, and at some point it happened and i felt nothing. Instead I had this caveman ass thought like “me…woman…? Yes”, and I realized it was fine.
Ok from the comments I’m seeing you want to experience looking “feminine” just to see how you’d feel right?
As everyone else pointed out, you’re already female and you don’t need to change your style or anything about yourself, but obviously if you want to try something different that’s a great thing to get to know yourself more and try out new stuff.
Ok I’m just going to come up with some advice… What physical features of yours do you like the most? Could be anything, your eyes, your hands, your lips, your legs. Maybe pick one at a time and try slowly “feminizing” more, like wearing rings, practicing eyeliner, going to the mall and trying on different clothes to see what suits you and feels comfortable. Growing out your hair is a slow process but it’s a great idea.
You could even try going to a fashion sub and getting advice according to your body type and the aesthetic you like. Or go on Pinterest and check out outfits that seem like you.
I wish you luck and I hope you find what you’re looking for!!
I’d tell myself that forcing me to become a tiny petite delicate girl is impossible, to rock it with what I had, that my deep voice is awesome and makes me stand out and sound cool, to work out and lift weights and keep jogging so I can be strong, and that strong is hot and imposing and beautiful.
That if I wanted to date a guy I deserved a strong tall guy to match my energy, not some skinny dude who would feel smaller and make me think I was too much.
That girls actually felt interested and attracted to me and they weren’t just treating me like a guy to ridicule me, they were just genuinely trying to navigate gay feelings in high school and didn’t know how. Just as I didn’t know how.
That obsessing over someone or something I could never have was cringe and pathetic (sorry I needed to hear that back then) and made me stay farther from it even more.
And to please not confuse attraction towards girly girls as wanting to be them…
Im so glad you’re questioning yourself and looking at different options instead of going in blindly!!!
At 14 I started cross dressing and feeling “dysphoric”, at that point for me it was because I was a lame ugly and nerdy tomboy, and got sexually harassed often by old men. I felt like I was meant to be a boy, and as a boy I would be strong, bold, brave, cool and worthy of respect.
So I would ask you, what is it about being trans that attracts you? Is it the community, the feeling of control over who you are? What is it about women that makes you want to be like them? What things about yourself do you not like or would like to change? What things about yourself do you think are not compatible with being a boy?